These reasons to wait until you’re 35 to get married include the downside of late marriages – such as the increased difficulty of getting pregnant and problems with past relationships. These reasons to wait include tips for happy marriages…
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Part of why I waited until I was 35 to get married was that I was looking for a perfect man. I didn’t realize that I only needed to find the man that is perfect for me!
4 Reasons to Wait Until You’re 35 to Get Married
Today is our fifth wedding anniversary; we got married on October 22, 2005, when I was 35 years old. My husband and I met about 22 years ago – he was a 21 year old bartender and I was a 18 year old waitress. We were friends for 17 years before we got married.
I wouldn’t have gotten married a day sooner – and here’s why I think it’s important for couples to have a “late” marriage…
You know yourself better – your life dreams, goals, personality
If we’d married when I was 18 and my husband was 21, we would’ve been divorced within a few years. I wasn’t ready to get married until my mid-30s – I needed to move to Africa, get a couple of university degrees, start businesses, date different people first, and embark on a year of counseling first. He needed to do the same things, and try his hand at a serious relationship.
Your finances and career are established (or should be!)
You don’t need to have all your debts paid off or be the CEO of your own company by age 35, but you should have your finances under control. This paves the way to a happier, healthier marriage – especially if you and your partner have similar money personalities. Many people are more financially secure at age 35 than age 20 or 25, which can have a positive effect on their relationships.
You’re less likely to sweat the small stuff
Most people are more mature, less anxious, and less likely to freak out over little things as they get older. This contributes to a happy marriage; you’re less likely to file for divorce because he can only focus on one thing at a time!
This reason to wait until you’re 35 to get married may seem like a generalization, but research shows that people become more able to deal with problems without anxiety or fear as they get older.
You’ve learned how precious love, life, and marriage is
The older I get, the more friends and family I lose – and the more I gain, as well! If I married my husband when I was 18 or 25, I wouldn’t appreciate him the way I do now.
Of course, I still get frustrated, angry, and impatient with him – because no matter how old you are when you get married, you’re still one weak human married to another weak human – but underlying the discord is a river of happiness and contentment.
Those are just some of the reasons to wait until you’re 35 to get married. Here are some pitfalls of “late” marriages…
The downside of waiting until you’re 35 to get married:
- It’s more difficult to get pregnant when you’re older
- Some habits are so ingrained, they’re hard to break
- Past relationships can create problems (such as toxic ex-wives or stepchildren you don’t connect with)
What do you think – are these valid reasons to wait for a “late” marriage? Comments welcome below! I can’t offer advice, but I’d love to hear your thoughts.
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May you wait until you’re old and wise to get married :-)