I discovered two things at the back of my new daytimer: a “To Do” list and a “Not-To-Do” list.
Hmmm…a huge page of things NOT to do? I love it! Below is a snapshot of Blossy celebrating our new favorite toy: a list of things not to fret over, gnaw on, or ruminate about. A list of things to let go of…perhaps even to forget forever.
What’s on your Not-To-Do list?
Top of the list for me is to stop dwelling on the past. I tend to ruminate and obsess over things I said and did—things that people probably didn’t even hear or notice. If they did notice, they certainly aren’t thinking about it months or years later!
The second thing on my Not-To-Do list is expect people to understand me, or to accept my choices without reacting in some way.
Often I make decisions that affect other people’s lives. I know it’s the right decision for me because I have peace with God about it…but God may not have told other people what He told me. So they’re not as happy with my decisions as I am. Sometimes they’re surprised. Even shocked.
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I can’t do anything about what people think or feel, but I can make “try to control what others think and feel” a priority on my NOT-To-Do list.
Here’s what I think you should put on your NOT-To-Do list:
- Beat yourself up about things that happened in the past.
- Remind yourself—and God—of your failures, flaws and weaknesses.
- Worry about tomorrow, next week, next month or next year.
- Choose to look on the dull, negative, boring, skeptical, cynical side of life.
- Complain about taxes and the terrible condition of the roads, environment, and economy. Unless you actually have power to affect the taxes, roads, environment, and economy.
What have I missed? What’s on your Not-To-Do list? If you want to see what others say, come visit our She Blossoms Facebook Group.
Here’s what’s on Jesus’ Not-To-Do list: “So don’t worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” – Matthew 6:34.
Bliss out and blossom, my friend!
With His love,
Laurie and Blossy
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