Have you ever asked someone for something, and been denied? Or outright mocked and rejected? Boy, does it hurt.
But sometimes the most painful rejections are blessings in disguise.
When she was rejected
My favorite story last week was from one of our She Blossoms readers. She’s a recent widow who didn’t realize how much she depended on her husband after his death.
On our Facebook Group, she described what happened when her car ran out of gas on the way to her grief group.
“When I got to the gas station I was very nervous,” she said. “I parked the car next to the gas pump. I saw a nice man walking toward my car and I asked him if he could help me. He looked straight at me and said ‘You don’t know how to fill your gas tank?’ and then he got in his car and drove away.”
Can you imagine that? But wait, it gets better!
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“It was getting late and I didn’t want to miss the grief group,” said this brave widow. “I looked at the pump and I said, ‘okay, let’s do this.’ It wasn’t easy but I followed the directions and filled my tank. I was ten minutes late for the grief group, but I did it.”
Isn’t that awesome? I think that “nice man” who refused to help her gave her the biggest gift: the push she needed to step forward in faith and fear. She didn’t know what she was doing, she wasn’t sure if she’d fail or succeed, and she was yearning for her husband.
But she did it!
If the man had helped her, she’d soon be in the same boat. She’d be at another gas station, looking around for help, feeling alone and scared. But now she knows she can do things that scare her. She move forward, one step at a time.
She can succeed even after she was rejected.
When you were rejected
Maybe you know how to pump your own gas, but you don’t know how to find your purpose in life. Maybe you know how to live alone and be independent, but you don’t know where your life is going. Maybe you know the desires of your heart, but you don’t know how to make them come alive.
Maybe you feel alone and lost because you were rejected by someone you love.
It hurts. I know how much it hurts to feel abandoned, unloved, and unwanted.
But I also know how amazing it is to move through the pain, and accept both the good and bad parts of God’s gift of life.
It’s bittersweet, this world. And it’s full of people who are here to help us — even when they’re rejecting us! Isn’t it amazing, what God can do? Even in the valley, even when we run out of gas on our way to a grief group, even when we feel helpless and scared.
Growth will happen when you show up and step out. Don’t let the rejection or grief be the end of your story. Let it be the beginning of a new story.
“See, I am doing a new thing!” declares God in Isaiah 43:19. “Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.”
May you walk toward a happy ending that you participate in creating. May you move forward with faith, fear and trembling because you are stepping out of your comfort zone. And may you experience the delight, peace, and joy of a personal journey with Jesus Christ.
With His love,
Laurie & Blossy
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