I recently dreamed I was unpacking boxes after moving to a new house. I was devastated! I love my current home, and in my dream I didn’t get to say good-bye. Suddenly I was ripped away and had to start living a whole new life.
It happened so fast, I was left reeling. No preparation, no closure, no time to process the loss. In real life I had the same experience when my grandma died and my sister left. Poof! It’s over.
We need to say good-bye. Acknowledging an ending is crucial because it gives our hearts and souls time to grieve. It helps us start to process the significance of our loss and honor the relationship we had.
If you can bring closure to a stage of your life, you’re better prepared to walk through it and heal. If you heal, you can Blossom.
What helped you find closure in the past?
A counselor once told me that unprocessed grief is the root of the problems her clients struggle with. Eating disorders, addictions, depression, insecurity, self-hatred, shame, guilt…our emotional health issues are caused by grief that we haven’t worked through.
We need to find healthy ways to say good-bye to people, relationships, and stages of life. We have to make time to grieve and heal, feel the pain and let it go.
What helped you heal from a loss in your life? Maybe you lost someone you love or a dream you had all your life. Maybe you lost a beloved dog or cat, or a baby you hadn’t even met yet. How did you process your grief and heal?
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Blossoming after a breakup
I’m writing my fifth ebook; it’s called 50 Ways to Blossom After a Breakup. It’ll contain a variety of physical, emotional, spiritual, professional, and social ways to heal and flourish after a relationship ends. I know this ebook will be gobbled up because of the success of my first one – How to Let Go of Someone You Love.
Part of my research for this ebook involves asking people how they found closure from a breakup or loss in their lives. If you’re willing to share your story with me – in keeping with the theme of Blossoming after a breakup – I’d love to consider including it in the ebook. I’d keep you anonymous, or include your name and website. Whatever you prefer.
Even if you don’t share your insight with me, I encourage you to think about how you process grief.
Do you express yourself in writing or poetry, or through exercise and sweat? Maybe you create paintings or knit sweaters, or declutter your closets and junk drawers.
It’s never too late to work through your grief, even if your loss happened years ago. If you’re anticipating a loss or breakup, now is the time to start grieving the end of that stage of your life.
May you find peace and healing even in the midst of your sorrow. I pray for courage to face the pain, strength to continue moving through it, and faith that joy WILL come in the morning!
Blessings and Blossoms,
“In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer.” – Albert Camus.
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Blossoming in Life
10 Benefits of Yoga Poses for the Grieving Process – Did you know there are specific yoga poses that help ease the grieving process? Learn about the emotional and physical health benefits of yoga for the grief process. Grieving causes physical pain in your body; these yoga poses relieve stress and promote healing in your mind, body, and soul.
Coping With the Loss of a Loved One – 4 Tasks of Mourning – These tips for coping with the loss of a loved one – whether it’s a family member, close friend, or even a beloved family pet – are based on the four “tasks of mourning.”
Dealing With Grief After a Massive Heart Attack – When someone you love dies from a massive heart attack, dealing with grief is the last thing on your mind. Here’s a simple yet powerful way to cope with the grieving process. It’s called a “grief sanctuary”, from a book called Honoring Grief: Creating a Space to Let Yourself Heal.
Blossoming in Love
How to Stop Loving Someone – The truth is that you can’t teach yourself how to stop loving someone. But, you can learn ways to cope with the loss of someone you love. Here’s a brief explanation of why it’s hard to let go, plus a few ideas for releasing your grip on the past.
What to Do When You’re Tired of Being Alone – The reason you’re tired of being alone is because humans were created to be together! We are meant to be in relationships: marriage, family, community, work, church, school…we were designed for connection and love. So go easy on yourself if you’re tired of being alone, for you are normal.
How to Win Him Back by Recreating Yourself – You can learn how to win him back, but not by forcing yourself to be someone you’re not. Rather, focus on recreating yourself to be the woman you were meant to be.
When Love Bugs You
How to Know if Your “Lover’s Spats” Are Destroying Your Relationship – Before you can learn how to fix relationship problems, you need to dig up the root of the problem. These tips are inspired by a reader’s comment on my article about the warning signs of a bad relationship.
10 Ways to Stop Being a Needy Girlfriend and Feel Confident Again – My next book is called 50 Ways to Blossom After a Breakup, and I’m including a chapter on how to stop crying after a loss in your life. In this post, I share one of my favorite pieces of advice about grieving.
Laurie's "She Blossoms" Books
Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back offers hope, encouragement, and strength for women walking through loss. My Blossom Tips are fresh and practical - they stem from my own experiences with a schizophrenic mother, foster homes, a devastating family estrangement, and infertility.
How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets (and Practical Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is filled with comforting and healthy breakup advice. The Blossom Tips will help you loosen unhealthy attachments to the past, seal your heart with peace, and move forward with joy.
When You Miss Him Like Crazy: 25 Lessons to Move You From Broken to Blossoming After a Breakup will help you refocus your life, re-create yourself, and start living fully again! Your spirit will rise and you'll blossom into who you were created to be.