An elderly couple went to a divorce lawyer to ask about separating after almost 70 years of marriage.
“Why did you wait so long to get a divorce?” asked the lawyer.
“We were waiting for the kids to die,” they said.
What are you waiting for?
Retirement, perhaps, or the kids to grow up. A new position at work, maybe, or a guy to ask you out. Perhaps you’re waiting for healing, or the courage to finally make the decision you’ve been dancing around. Maybe you’re waiting for a sign from the good Lord above, or permission from your parents or children.
Maybe you’re waiting for your own “kids” to die. Maybe your kids are the fears, doubts, insecurities, questions, and unhealed wounds you’ve been nurturing for decades. You can’t let them go; you think they’re part of you. You’ve come to believe they can’t live without you…when in fact you’re too scared to let them go.
Since you can’t kill your darlings (a writer’s term, referring to our tendency to cling to our precious words and sentences), you let them crowd in. Those darlings become weeds that block your view and hold you back. Little darlings, for writers, choke the life out of a message.
What am I waiting for?
I’m waiting for the “dog days” of my life to end. I’m not hoping or trying to lose my dogs because I love them dearly and will be heartbroken when we say goodbye…but I also know my life will open up in different ways when they’re gone.
This is the dog season of my life and I cherish it (even when I’m picking up their poop). But I know another season awaits. Another season is always waiting, so I hold this one lightly.
Every season is good and sacred in its own way…even the seasons of loss, grieving, and moving forward. In fact, those may be the most valuable, life-giving seasons because they give us the chance to stop, take a deep breath, and re-root.
Who do you want to become, and are you making choices that move you toward that vision?
If not, what are you waiting for?
On “She Blossoms” This Week
4 Ways to Calm the Anxiety of Meeting Your Ex and His New Partner – You might be forced to interact with your ex and his new partner at your kid’s graduation, wedding, or other event. What will you say, how will you survive? A reader asked for help calming the anxiety of meeting her ex and his new girlfriend at a family function.
Remembering the Past Without Feeling Ashamed or Guilty – because of a beautiful message from C.S. Spurgeon. “Memory is frequently the bond slave of despondency,” writes Spurgeon in Morning & Evening: A Devotional Classic for Daily Encouragement. “Despairing minds call to remembrance every dark foreboding in the past, and dilate upon every gloomy feature in the present; thus memory, clothed in sackcloth, presents to the mind a cup of mingled gall and wormwood. There is, however, no necessity for this.”
10 Things You Need to Know About Moving to Africa – just in case you’re wondering about the practicalities of following your heart overseas.
Alright, my friend, I must bid you adieu. Feel free to email me a joke — and it doesn’t have to be about divorce, or waiting! Lawyer jokes are always welcome.
Or, tell me what you’re waiting for in the comments section below. Sometimes it helps to put your thoughts and emotions into words, especially when you know you won’t be advised, judged or criticized.
Don’t forget to talk to Jesus. He knows what you’re waiting for. He’ll freely give you the power, strength and courage you need to take one step forward into a new season of your life.
In peace and passion,
Laurie & Blossy