No matter what you’re struggling with, know that everything is going to be okay. No matter what you’re going through or how how difficult your struggles are, hold on to the little things that make life worthwhile. Remember that everything is little, and yet nothing is too little to be meaningful! Sometimes a good cup of coffee or a breath of fresh air makes a difference. Whatever lifts your spirits and helps you cope with your struggles today, do more of it.
You may not see how others are struggling, but the truth is that we’re all dealing with something painful, frustrating or even devastating. That’s why Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
How are you today? What are you celebrating? What are you struggling with? Are you having a good, bad, or average day?
Last week a reader asked about the difference between believing in God and having a relationship with Jesus. Here’s her question: “Thank you for your most recent article,” says Lana on How to Protect Yourself From Being Used in a Relationship. “I was very comforted by it….I do have a question about our words: ‘It’s not enough to believe in God or a Higher Power. Even the devil believes! Your faith has to be developed and strengthened by building a relationship with Jesus.’ What do you mean when you say even the devil believes? And what is the difference between believing in Jesus (or in my case a Higher Power) and having a relationship with Him (It?). Thank you kindly.”
I shared my thoughts in From Believing in God to Having a Relationship With Jesus. In this article, you won’t find complicated theological arguments about why believing in God is important or how to have a relationship with a Higher Power. Instead, you’ll see why my personal relationship with Jesus is the most important thing in my life and how it changed who I am.
Are Your Struggles the Same Today as Yesterday?
If you’re struggling with the same problems, pains and predicaments year after year, you may have more than “just” an average everyday struggle.
You may have created a downward spiral that you’re finding it hard to get out of. You didn’t do it on purpose, of course, and you wish it wasn’t happening! But you may be struggling with the same things over and over because you keep making the same mistakes, choosing the wrong friends or partners, or thinking the same thoughts.
A sign of healthy mental and emotional growth is struggling with different problems as you get older. You’ll always have problems. Life will always be a struggle. But if your struggles change as you grow through life, you know you’re on the right road.
For instance, last year I was seriously struggling to motivate myself to continue blogging. Writing for my She Blossoms blogs was my passion and only source of income for a decade! Then I broke my shoulder, and lost all motivation.
Then I traveled to Nepal, Dubai and Hong Kong for a month. My 50th birthday was approaching, I didn’t know what to do in my professional life, and I needed time and space. I had no idea what answers I’d find on my spiritual pilgrimage – or if I’d find any answers at all – but I knew I needed to go. Nothing happened the way I expected on that trip, and it was the best solo journey of my life.
If you’re struggling with the same thing today as yesterday, read Where is the Best Place to Celebrate Your 50th Birthday? You will find encouragement and tips for walking into a new season – whether or not you’re approaching the second half of your life.
An example of a woman struggling, but with a “good” new problem
“I went to India because I needed help getting over a breakup. No contact after a breakup is so important,” says Tamara on When You Get Homesick While Volunteering in India. “But, no contact isn’t possible when you work with your ex. That’s why I took the trip. Now I’m struggling with feeling homesick. I want him back and I want to go home. And yet I know I should stay and that if I go home I’ll regret. I can’t face this struggle alone. Help!”
Most breakup articles — mine included — encourage women to take a trip, travel somewhere fresh, or get a new job or go back to school after a breakup. No matter what you do, however, you will run into roadblocks and grief. The road to healing is always marked with tears and pain.
Feeling lost and unloved is normal when you’re traveling. If you’re traveling after a breakup, you’re even more prone to feeling lonely and alone. You’re far away from home, your heart is broken, and you feel like just getting through the day is a struggle. I wrote Are You Traveling Alone and Feeling Homesick? for Tamara in India, but the tips apply to all women who are struggling to with all types of problems and pains.
What are you struggling with, or celebrating, or surviving?
Writing about your struggles is a good, healthy way to get on the road to healing. But I do have a warning: if you spend too much time writing and thinking about what you’re struggling with, you remain immersed in a pool of negative emotions. Grieving a loss or feeling homesick or even feeling depressed after a vacation is normal and healthy. Getting stuck in grief or pain is unhealthy. That’s what suffering is: staying immersed in your pain, grief, loss, anger, or bitterness.
And, remember that sometimes just writing about your experience or situation can be helpful. That’s my favorite way to work through problems and untangle my feelings, even if I don’t know what my exact problems or feelings are.
Sometimes you just need to go slow, take your time, and allow something to unfold naturally in your life. Moving forward is a process that takes time. The longer it takes, the deeper the growth. Keep moving forward, keep traveling in faith, and know that everything will be okay.
What do you think? Your comments, big and little, are welcome below. If you have any tips or tools for travel that transforms you, please do share those. We love tips and tools – and they don’t have to be about traveling in a different country. Life is a journey, and you are a traveler no matter where you are!
Travel in faith, and be transformed.