What Are You Struggling With Today? Blossom Tip 32

No matter what you’re struggling with, know that everything is going to be okay. No matter what you’re going through or how how difficult your struggles are, hold on to the little things that make life worthwhile. Remember that everything is little, and yet nothing is too little to be meaningful! Sometimes a good cup of coffee or a breath of fresh air makes a difference. Whatever lifts your spirits and helps you cope with your struggles today, do more of it.

You may not see how others are struggling, but the truth is that we’re all dealing with something painful, frustrating or even devastating. That’s why Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

How are you today? What are you celebrating? What are you struggling with? Are you having a good, bad, or average day?

Last week a reader asked about the difference between believing in God and having a relationship with Jesus. Here’s her question: “Thank you for your most recent article,” says Lana on How to Protect Yourself From Being Used in a Relationship. “I was very comforted by it….I do have a question about our words: ‘It’s not enough to believe in God or a Higher Power. Even the devil believes! Your faith has to be developed and strengthened by building a relationship with Jesus.’ What do you mean when you say even the devil believes? And what is the difference between believing in Jesus (or in my case a Higher Power) and having a relationship with Him (It?). Thank you kindly.”

I shared my thoughts in From Believing in God to Having a Relationship With Jesus. In this article, you won’t find complicated theological arguments about why believing in God is important or how to have a relationship with a Higher Power. Instead, you’ll see why my personal relationship with Jesus is the most important thing in my life and how it changed who I am.

Are Your Struggles the Same Today as Yesterday?

If you’re struggling with the same problems, pains and predicaments year after year, you may have more than “just” an average everyday struggle.

You may have created a downward spiral that you’re finding it hard to get out of. You didn’t do it on purpose, of course, and you wish it wasn’t happening! But you may be struggling with the same things over and over because you keep making the same mistakes, choosing the wrong friends or partners, or thinking the same thoughts.

A sign of healthy mental and emotional growth is struggling with different problems as you get older. You’ll always have problems. Life will always be a struggle. But if your struggles change as you grow through life, you know you’re on the right road.

What Are You Struggling With Today?
Are your struggles the same today as yesterday?

For instance, last year I was seriously struggling to motivate myself to continue blogging. Writing for my She Blossoms blogs was my passion and only source of income for a decade! Then I broke my shoulder, and lost all motivation.

Then I traveled to Nepal, Dubai and Hong Kong for a month. My 50th birthday was approaching, I didn’t know what to do in my professional life, and I needed time and space. I had no idea what answers I’d find on my spiritual pilgrimage – or if I’d find any answers at all – but I knew I needed to go. Nothing happened the way I expected on that trip, and it was the best solo journey of my life.

If you’re struggling with the same thing today as yesterday, read Where is the Best Place to Celebrate Your 50th Birthday? You will find encouragement and tips for walking into a new season – whether or not you’re approaching the second half of your life.

An example of a woman struggling, but with a “good” new problem

“I went to India because I needed help getting over a breakup. No contact after a breakup is so important,” says Tamara on When You Get Homesick While Volunteering in India. “But, no contact isn’t possible when you work with your ex. That’s why I took the trip. Now I’m struggling with feeling homesick. I want him back and I want to go home. And yet I know I should stay and that if I go home I’ll regret. I can’t face this struggle alone. Help!”

Most breakup articles — mine included — encourage women to take a trip, travel somewhere fresh, or get a new job or go back to school after a breakup. No matter what you do, however, you will run into roadblocks and grief. The road to healing is always marked with tears and pain.

Feeling lost and unloved is normal when you’re traveling. If you’re traveling after a breakup, you’re even more prone to feeling lonely and alone. You’re far away from home, your heart is broken, and you feel like just getting through the day is a struggle. I wrote Are You Traveling Alone and Feeling Homesick? for Tamara in India, but the tips apply to all women who are struggling to with all types of problems and pains.

What are you struggling with, or celebrating, or surviving? 

Writing about your struggles is a good, healthy way to get on the road to healing. But I do have a warning: if you spend too much time writing and thinking about what you’re struggling with, you remain immersed in a pool of negative emotions. Grieving a loss or feeling homesick or even feeling depressed after a vacation is normal and healthy. Getting stuck in grief or pain is unhealthy. That’s what suffering is: staying immersed in your pain, grief, loss, anger, or bitterness.

And, remember that sometimes just writing about your experience or situation can be helpful. That’s my favorite way to work through problems and untangle my feelings, even if I don’t know what my exact problems or feelings are. 

Sometimes you just need to go slow, take your time, and allow something to unfold naturally in your life. Moving forward is a process that takes time. The longer it takes, the deeper the growth. Keep moving forward, keep traveling in faith, and know that everything will be okay.

What do you think? Your comments, big and little, are welcome below. If you have any tips or tools for travel that transforms you, please do share those. We love tips and tools – and they don’t have to be about traveling in a different country. Life is a journey, and you are a traveler no matter where you are!  

Travel in faith, and be transformed.

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7 thoughts on “What Are You Struggling With Today? Blossom Tip 32”

  1. I think having something to focus on outside your job is so important. Most people have some level of stress because of their jobs. It can make life problems seem worse than they really are. Try sports, hobbies, church, etc to get your mind off of work. I did this and my stress level dropped dramatically which made my life a lot more enjoyable.

  2. Your post is so right on!! Struggling with the same thing for months and years is a sign of mental stagnation. I did it for years, couldn’t move on after my dog died. It sounds strange but I was in a downward spiral for 5 years after I lost the dog I had for 14 years! It was terrible.

    I got out of it in a really surprising way: I invited a friend over who was also a decluttering expert. We were just having tea at my place and somehow started talking about what I had been struggling with for so long. She looked around at my apartment and said she thought part of my ongoing struggle was all the clutter. I was shocked! But then she explained more. She said monks have known that stress blocks energy needed to progress to spiritual enlightenment. Have you ever seen a cluttered monastery?!

    She helped me declutter and organize my apartment – and my life too. My struggles didn’t magically disappear but I felt SO much better in a simple clean place. My friend taught me that sometimes people think that they are under so much stress that they cannot handle their clutter but it is actually the clutter that is blocking their energy and that is why they feel stressed!

    Anybody interested in developing their higher potential and overcoming the same old things they have always struggled with would be wise to first deal with the clutter in their lives!

    1. I wrote an article about the importance of a clutterfree environment, and you summed it up nicely, Beverley. I learned that clutter creates stress and can even exacerbate struggles such as depression and anxiety. It’s difficult to relax when you’re surrounded by laundry, work or reading materials because you subconsciously feel like you have things to do. Even if you don’t notice the clutter and stuff piled up, your subconscious does. And that adds to the heaviness of whatever you’re struggling with.

      Clutter drains emotional and spiritual energy. It’s also a distraction that blocks focus and productivity. So, getting rid of clutter and eliminating chaos can lower your stress and increase your energy. The more energy you have, the better you can focus on dealing with the struggles life brings.

      Great insight, thank you Beverley!

  3. As you know Mother’s Day is coming up fast, This a tricky and Extremely Painful day,as I grieve the death of my Beautiful Son and my mother, Do you have any uplifting word’s for me?

    1. Dear Leslie,

      I’m so sorry you lost your son and your mom. I can’t imagine how difficult Mother’s Day is for you, and my heart breaks for your pain.

      How will you spend May 13? I encourage you to find something uplifting and perhaps even distracting to do…take time to remember your lost loved ones, but also celebrate the fact that you’re still blessed with life. Remember, and move forward with love and peace. Grieve, but let go of the pain.

      Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken
      https://blossomtips.com/words-of-comfort-when-your-heart-is-broken/

      Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.

      In sympathy, with love,
      Laurie

  4. I’m suffering n want to despartly get thru my marriage has desolved after 32 years it’s Been 7 months of tourment when is it going to stop. He abandoned me leaving me with bills and has no contact with me. I love him n want the marriage. I’m numb lost weight not eating n had to get medication to sleep. I’m serverly broken!

  5. Johnetta Lindsay

    I am hurting from a man who told me he wasnt in love with me anymore years ago, yet he kept doing things as if we were in a relationship all the way until March 1st 2018. He said he is in a serious relationship and as if current date he is getting married may 12, 2018. I am so deeply hurt and will miss him. I need help ro get through this. I have been praying and next Saturday his wedding day, i dont know how to get through it. Im praying God will help me.