You’ll find two surprises in this blog post:
1) Blossy is back (yay!) with an important message about going slow. She’s up a tree at the end of this email.
2) I want to hear about you, your life and world.
Guess what? It’s your turn to talk! I hog all the space in our weekly interaction — which is ironic, because usually I’m the quiet introverted writer sitting in the corner, watching all the action and taking all the notes.
How are you today? What are you celebrating? What are you struggling with? Are you having a good, bad, or average life?
You may not see how others are struggling, but the truth is that we’re all dealing with something painful, frustrating or even devastating. That’s why Plato said, “Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
Feel free to email me your questions and updates. I don’t give personal advice and can’t tell you what to do about specific problems. But, I often answer reader’s questions in blog posts (without revealing names or personal details).
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For instance, last week a reader asked about the difference between believing in God and having a relationship with Jesus.
Here’s her question:
“Thank you for your most recent article,” says L. on How to Protect Yourself From Being Used in a Relationship. “I was very comforted by it….I do have a question about our words: ‘It’s not enough to believe in God or a Higher Power. Even the devil believes! Your faith has to be developed and strengthened by building a relationship with Jesus.’ What do you mean when you say even the devil believes? And what is the difference between believing in Jesus (or in my case a Higher Power) and having a relationship with Him (It?). Thank you kindly.”
I shared my thoughts in this blog post:
From Believing in God to Having a Relationship With Jesus – In this article, you won’t find complicated theological arguments about why believing in God is important or how to have a relationship with Jesus. Instead, you’ll see why my personal relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important thing in my life and how it changed who I am. The bottom line is that my relationship with Jesus freed me to Blossom into who I was created to be!
Another reader asked about getting over a breakup when you work with your ex-boyfriend. Here’s her question:
“No contact after a breakup is so important for getting over someone,” says T. on How to Break Your Addiction to a Toxic Relationship. “But, no contact isn’t possible when you work with your ex. A lot of breakup advice suggested we should just get transferred to another department or get another job, but that’s not realistic for most people. How do you get over an ex when you have to see him every day at work?”
So I wrote: How to Get Over an Ex-Boyfriend You See at Work Everyday. Most breakup articles — mine included — encourage women to get a new job after breaking up with someone at work. But, as my reader points out, this isn’t always possible.
What are you struggling with, or celebrating, or surviving?
I won’t tell you what to do, but I might be able to share my thoughts and ideas in a blog post. And, be patient with me! I try to answer every email, but sometimes I fall behind.
And, remember that sometimes just writing about your experience or situation can be helpful. That’s my favorite way to work through problems and untangle my feelings, even if I don’t know what my exact problems or feelings are.
One more thing to remember: Sometimes you just need to go slow, take your time, and allow something to unfold naturally in your life.
Moving forward is a process that takes time…and the longer it takes, the deeper the growth. So, listen to Blossy and allow yourself — and your God — to go slow.
With His love,
Laurie & Blossy
Laurie's "She Blossoms" Books
Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back offers hope, encouragement, and strength for women walking through loss. My Blossom Tips are fresh and practical - they stem from my own experiences with a schizophrenic mother, foster homes, a devastating family estrangement, and infertility.
How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets (and Practical Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is filled with comforting and healthy breakup advice. The Blossom Tips will help you loosen unhealthy attachments to the past, seal your heart with peace, and move forward with joy.
When You Miss Him Like Crazy: 25 Lessons to Move You From Broken to Blossoming After a Breakup will help you refocus your life, re-create yourself, and start living fully again! Your spirit will rise and you'll blossom into who you were created to be.