These five things to look for will help you choose a life partner – because finding the right partner is one of the most important decisions you’ll ever make. Your life partner is more important than anything because he or she affects everything you do.
The right partner can make or break your life.
A healthy, functional relationship with a compatible life partner will help you achieve more happiness and success than you ever thought possible. These tips on how to choose a life partner will help you see your romantic interest more objectively, which will help guide your decision. Don’t let love blind you!
How to Choose a Life Partner
Here are five important characteristics to look for when you’re choosing a life partner. I’m not talking about passion, chemistry, or star-crossed love – I’m sharing practical tips that will help you know what to look for in a life partner.
Compatible goals. I know it’s not sexy or sizzling, but if you want to be happy you have to pick a life partner who has the same vision as you. If you want to focus on your career, then choose a life partner who is career-minded. If you want children, pick a life partner who is excited about starting a family. I can’t stress how important it is to choose a partner who has the same life vision as you.
Financial and emotional stability. Is your partner financially independent, and emotionally interdependent? Can he rely on you without being needy, and treat you with love and respect without suffocating you? The more stable he is, the more likely he’ll be a good life partner. Stable isn’t always exciting, but it will create a happy, functional relationship. This is one of the most important things to look for in a life partner.
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Friendship. My husband and I were friends for 17 years before we got married. I just wasn’t ready to marry him – I always knew he was the marrying type, but I wasn’t. I needed to get my degrees, start businesses, travel the world, work overseas, and get counseling for a year before I could get married. I am 100% that the main reason we have a happy, secure, healthy marriage is because it is founded on friendship. Is your life partner someone you respect as a person, and sincerely enjoy spending time with? If you couldn’t have sex, would you still be friends?
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Honesty. A reader recently commented that she and her boyfriend never fight – they are completely compatible on all levels. They’ve only been dating for three months, though. Yet she loves him with all her heart! I don’t believe in love at first sight, and I don’t think that three months is enough time to know if someone is the right life partner. But, I do know that if couples never fight, then they’re not being honest. If you’re choosing a life partner, make sure it’s someone you can discuss things with openly and honestly.
Support for your priorities. My biggest priority is my spirituality, and spirituality is the quality that I like best about my marriage. I love that my husband and I are spiritually connected – we pray together every night. I love talking about God and Jesus stuff with him, because God and Jesus stuff is very important to me. One of the most important things to look for in a life partner is someone who supports the most important things in your life.
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