About Me


Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer

Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m the Adventurous Writer who created the “She Blossoms” blog and book series. I write full-time from my treehouse overlooking the beautiful waters of Indian Arm in North Vancouver, BC, Canada.

You’re here for a reason, and I’m glad you found me!

My purpose is to help women Blossom into who God created them to be. I write articles to help people cope with loss and let go of the past, and I love sharing practical tips and tools for healing.

I’ve experienced many losses in my life. It hasn’t been easy, but it was worth it because it brought me where I am today. I’m a woman of faith; I believe in Jesus Christ and am eternally grateful for the power, wisdom, and guidance of the Holy Spirit.

Joy, freedom, peace and strength – that’s what Blossoming is all about.

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A Glimpse Into My Life

 

  • My mom struggled with schizophrenia and nervous breakdowns my whole life; I lived in three foster homes and was on my own at 17 years old. My mom lives in a group home on an acreage outside Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. That’s where I met Jackson – the horse in the picture below…

 

  • My dad is Jewish, born and raised in Jerusalem, Israel – where he still lives. I didn’t meet him until I went to Israel when I was 29 years old.

 

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Grade 8 Language Arts and High School Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, an American school for missionaries’ and ex-pat kids in Nairobi.

 

  • My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton. My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver.

 

  • I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister is now 16 years old (she was 11 when we were matched). I was a Little Sister myself when I was 10 years old, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister today! She lives in Toronto, Ontario.

 

  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of magazines such as Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.

 

  • I didn’t get married until I was 35…and I married Bruce, who I met 17 years earlier! He was a bartender at Chi Chi’s Mexican Restaurant, and I was a waitress. We were friends for a long, long time before I finally proposed! 🙂

 

  • We struggled with infertility, and can’t have kids because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization (IVF), though we did try intrauterine insemination (IUI). Those fertility treatments didn’t work; we decided not to adopt or foster kids.

 

 

I’ve been earning a full-time living as a blogger and writer since 2008. Amazing, I love it! Every day I wonder if today is my last day of work (will the internet suddenly implode and disappear? Boy, I hope not). I love my job, and am awed by God’s blessings.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW), taught myself to play the flute, and started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true for me). I also went on my first missions trip to Haiti. The older I get, the happier and more peaceful I become. And the bigger I Blossom 🙂

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I created the Blossom Tips and How Love Blossoms books and blogs to encourage women to flourish in new seasons of life, ground themselves in God, and trust in Jesus and the Holy Spirit to help them Blossom into who they were created to be.

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My “She Blossoms” eBooks

All my ebooks include information from a variety of sources. I don’t focus on my own stories or tips, though I do share glimpses of how I survived foster homes, a schizophrenic mother, family estrangement, a home invasion, three years living and teaching in Africa, infertility – and how I Blossomed through it all.

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She Blossoms how to let go of someone you love ebook

.How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets and Practical Tips for Healing Your Heart After a Breakup, is my bestselling ebook. I share emotional, spiritual, and practical tips for coping with the end of a relationship. It hurts to let go of someone you love – but it hurts worse to hold on to the past.

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Blossoming After a Breakup ebook laurie pawlik kienlen

Blossoming After a Breakup: The Courage and Creativity You Need to Restart Your Life! is one of my personal favourites because it combines creativity, courage, God, and Blossoming. It’s about starting over after a relationship ends – and finding your creative self. Painting, writing, acting, traveling, volunteering, dreaming – it’s all there. What’s not to love? 🙂

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Farewell, Friend: A Gentle Guide to Saying Goodbye to Your Dog.Farewell, Friend: A Gentle Guide to Saying Goodbye to Your Dog – If you’ve ever lost a dog, you know how hard it is. It always hurts to say goodbye! I’ve lost two dogs and four cats, and each loss brought its own unique pain. Living without your dog is a sad adjustment of heart and home. Whether your loss was planned or accidental, you’ll never be the same.

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Kitty Comforts: Help and Hope for Coping With the Loss of Your Cat

.Kitty Comforts: Help and Hope for Coping With the Loss of Your Cat – One of the most difficult parts of grieving the loss of a cat is the regret and guilt. In this ebook, I offer companionship, hope, and healing. Cat owners never “get over” their cat’s death, but they can feel less burdened by grief, guilt, or regret.

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Healing Your Cycle

I wrote Healing Your Cycle: Your Guide to the Safest Solutions for Irregular, Spotty, or Missing Menstrual Cycles for the hundreds of women who asked for help regulating their periods. To write this ebook, I read more books, blogs, and resources on women’s cycles than I could count! I found the best and most reliable ways to balance hormones and get healthy, and organized them into a handy guidebook for women.

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My “She Blossoms” Blogs

My blogs and books help women survive trouble and turmoil by trusting God through difficult problems. I write about real life struggles such as letting go of a loved one, healing a broken heart, coping with infertility depression, or even finding the best jobs for introverted personality traits.

Relationship Blossoms started out as Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships. I found my new identity in God and am now Blossom. My purpose is to encourage and empower women in all types of relationships.

How Love Blossoms is an offshoot of my original love blog (Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships). That blog grew way too big, so I had to weed it out. So now I have two love and relationship blogs. There’s not much difference between the two, which is crazy. Someone needs to do something about that.

Life Blossoms was originally Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. It covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. That blog was supposed to help readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals…and my most popular article is 40th Birthday Gift Ideas That Will Surprise and Delight Her.

Blossom Tips is an offshoot of the original Blossom in Life blog (Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals). Again, that blog got way too big! So I had to more weeding. I dug up the most popular blog posts, and replanted them as Blossom Tips.

Laurie Pawlik Kienlen Vancouver blogger writer Blossom

Jackson and Me

Writing Blossoms was first called Quips and Tips for Successful Writers. It’s the first blog I ever started, back in 2008. I love that blog, dude. It’s all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. My most popular article is 11 Types of Articles to Write for Magazines, and I write about everything from “how to grab your reader by the throat” to “reasons book manuscripts are rejected.”

Health Blossoms – originally Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – was the blog I started when we found out we can’t have kids. Infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to destroy our lives! My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. Back in the day, I wrote articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count.

And that, my friend, is a peek into my “She Blossoms” garden.

Your thoughts are welcome on any of my blogs – I’d love to hear from you. I don’t give personal feedback or counseling; God created me to write, not give advice 🙂

The best way to keep in touch – and Blossom into who you were created to be – is by signing up for my free weekly Blossom Tips email

Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of.

Blessings,

Laurie

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27 thoughts on “About Me

  • Laurie Post author

    Thank you so much for your comments! You made my day brighter and happier, and I will return here often to re-read your lovely thoughts 🙂

    May you be filled with light, life, love, and peace that surpasses all understanding.

    Laurie

  • Rita paul

    hey Laurie thank you so much for your amazing advice and inspirations that changes my life simply I might not have a lot to say but I know I used to have a lots of things to change in my life and I’m seeing the way thank you so much God bless.

  • Mike

    Hello Laurie, as a man, I’ve very much enjoyed tapping into your website. Your observations and insights into the human condition, particularly involving that ‘ol devil called love’, offer compassion and hope, not only to women, but also men, who also need to know how to let go and recover from one of life’s most difficult traumas, and as a man of faith I applaud you for your acknowledgement to God’s work in our lives, and that only He wants the best for all of us. Thank you for your wise and helpful words, keep on trucking!

  • Ruth Ann Brooks

    God bless you Laurie. You’re prayer after a breakup was so beautiful. I would cry but Lord knows I’ve bawled so much over my break up. Yes, I was seemingly in love with this man but he was selfish and confused and I broke it off to possibly spare me a future heartbreak. It was hard letting go and I doubt that I’m in the clear but like him, I have to be selfish too and focus on me. In the midst of it I can only seek and trust God although it is real hard.
    Anyway girl…I love that you love God and your advice is sound, sensible and timely.

  • Lizzie P.

    Hi Laurie! Thank you so much for your many pearls of wisdom. I am 11 months post a five year relationship breakup and I am humiliated to admit I still to this day like every feel like I am slowly dieing inside. I have done everything to get over him … Even seeing a psych Dr bi monthly for medication and therapy. I am so broken and I feel my life has been destroyed. See my ex was a former drug addict who dumped me after I spent every dime and ounce of energy on him to get him clean. Well he’s clean and dumped me like a pile of crap after getting off drugs and finding someone new. Laurie I would greatly appreciate any pearls you could share with me! I know I’m wasting my life and hurting others… But my pain is not about them! I so feel like doing. Hugs! Lizzie

  • jan attard

    keep growing strong each and every day as you go through the stages of leaving abusive relationships…
    this is the key and never give up
    believing in yourself

  • dalexis

    Hey Laurie,

    I came across on some pretty cool academic research that proves that mindfulness makes you more attractive to the opposite sex and that it enables you to deal with breakups.

    The paper by Janz, Pepping and Halford of the University of Queensland and La Trobe University, determined that women prefer men who possess a high level of “dispositional mindfulness,” even to those who are much more attractive.

    If you’d like me to forward that research your way, let me know and I’ll gladly send it over.

    Dalexis

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Thanks, Julia – it’s so lovely to hear from you!

    You brightened up my day, and I really appreciate your comments.

    In peace and passion,
    Laurie

  • Julia

    Dear Laurie,
    thank you so much for this site! I’ve just posted a comment in one of your forums but simply had to go and see what else is there on your blog. I am currently struggling in my relationship but your words gave me hope. Maybe I just have to be more patient..and if things don’t turn out the way I expected I can still check out your thoughts on “how to mend a broken heart” etc. . Thanks for being there! God bless. All the best from Germany, Julia

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Michael,

    Thank you for your comment – and for your amazing family travel blog! Wow, it’s incredible to see what you’re experiencing. Very cool, thank you for sharing.

    Yes, you may quote me….and send me the link when you do! 🙂

    Blessings and safe sailing,
    Laurie

  • Michael Robertson

    Hi Laurie, I’ve been enjoying your blog, thank you. I am writing a writing book and found something brilliant you wrote on your blog I’d like to quote, with your permission. Please email me. All the best, Michael

  • Shania Koenigshof

    Hi Laurie, I like writing and I was wondering if you could give me advice on journalism and such. Thanks.
    Cordially,
    Shania, a junior in highschool

  • Lynn

    Laurie,
    I just found your website and was almost in tears reading your kind expressions of encouragement and prayers for strength for those who are struggling. I came looking for ideas on how to encourage a friend who is in an abusive relationship, but didn’t see anything. Have you written anything for those of us who are trying to help a friend, or perhaps have a suggestion on where to go for resources?

    Thanks for what you are doing. It is a field foreign to me, but I can see that you are impacting so many through this blog.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Dear Cindy,

    Thank you so much for pointing this out to me! I added the word NEVER to that sentence, which makes all the difference in the world.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Cindy

    Laurie,

    Typo serious
    In: 5 stages of leaving abuse
    Sentence:
    These five stages of abuse below are based on research. It’s important to remember it’s a woman’s “fault” that she’s staying in an emotionally or physically abusive relationship.
    Thank you for all you do

  • janet attard

    laurie,

    I just wanted to say thank you….
    this amazingly wonderful forum on the stages of leaving an abusive relationship
    shows us we are not alone out there….yahhhhhh
    we are all vulnerable…that is ok….
    that is ok…we must learn to
    love ourselves and not be
    afraid to move past victim role
    there are many many great books
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    Mothers on Trial
    Trauma and Recovery
    so many more….
    ………….

    jan

  • Hope Mosteller

    Hi Laurie-
    I met a wonderful man, who from the beginning kept saying that he was in love with me. I liked him, but never at the time said: “I Love You”. He would always say you’ll fall in love with me, you’ll see.
    Well, six months later I was obsessed with this man and so in love with him. My world revolved around him. Butterflies in my stomach, just knowing he was coming to see me.
    July, my job layed me off and he stopped calling me and would not return my calls. When he finally called me, his response was that he fell out of love with me and that he’s so sorry that he pulled me into his web. This man has been in the military his whole life and has issues with PTSD. He immediately started seeing another woman, but only sees her one day a week. He said that he doesn’t see her often, because he doesn’t want to hurt her the way he hurt me. I am obsessed over this man. I find myself driving past his house. I even found out who the woman was and went to see what she looked like. I have gone out on a few dates, but I find my thoughts floating back to him. Please give me some advice on how to get past him.
    Hope

  • Laurie Post author

    Dear Victoria,

    Thank you for being here – I hope you are surviving this huge change in your life! You’re moving on to a new chapter, and it’s both scary and exciting. At least, I hope it’s a bit exciting for you 🙂 You are on the road to getting healthy and strong.

    I’m not sure what sort of advice you need about moving out, but I wrote this article for you:

    I hope it helps, and wish you all the best as you move forward. My prayer for you is that you find the right friends to support you and the resources you need to be happy, healthy, and strong. Most of all, I pray for emotional and spiritual strength, so you can face whatever lies ahead. May you find the answers you seek, and learn how to live with the questions.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Victoria Felder

    hello my name is Victoria and ive been dating a guy for 3 years and im in love but we have been fighting for a long Time nonstop its been to the point where im done for good but I need help moving on with my life hes the only I tought of being with but now im moving I did the first step by changing my phone number what do I do now?

  • Laurie Post author

    Thanks for your comment, Christine. While I wish I could respond to every person who writes in, I just can’t! I agree that I shouldn’t have missed the comment that particular reader made – but sometimes I get so many comments, I can’t keep up.

    That’s why I encourage readers to seek counseling in person, and tell them I can’t offer personal advice. I could make things worse by trying to advise people online, especially when it comes to love and relationships.

    I write articles that give information and try to encourage people to seek help in person. I try to encourage them to get support and guidance, and am honest and clear about the fact that I can’t offer personal advice or counseling.

  • Christine

    I read your blog this morning and there is a post from a woman who is wishing she would die. The post was made within the last month. Don’t you think you have a moral obligation to respond to her post or seek the advice of a professional? When you create a highly emotional meta tag site you should have a plan to respond to posts.

  • Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen Post author

    Hello Tiersa,

    Here are my guidelines:

    Guidelines – Writing for Quips and Tips

    Looking forward to hearing from you!

    Laurie

  • Tiersa

    Hi Laurie,

    I have a guest post article ready for your site and was wondering if you could e-mail again, so that I can make sure it conforms to your guidelines. Thanks!

  • LauriePK Post author

    Derek,

    Thank you for being here — I’m glad you took the time to comment! Good luck in your chosen path; I’m sure you’ll be incredibly helpful to people.

    Best wishes,
    Laurie

  • Derek

    I just wanted to say that I stumbled upon your website while visiting MyBlogGuest. I’m in awe of the helpful information you provide to your readers and your background and experience. I can see why you are a successful Author, Writer and Freelance Blogger. I hope to one day be able to help people mend broken relationships and better their lives as you appear to be doing through your websites and writing.

    Best wishes,

    Derek