stages of abuse


What to Do When He Says He’ll Kill Himself If You Leave

Does your boyfriend threaten suicide if you break up with him? Here’s how to respond to his threats to kill himself, including advice from a woman whose husband took his own life. It’s important to remember that you can’t get all the help you need here. You need to reach out to people in person, people who are experienced in […]

What to Do When Your Boyfriend Says He’ll Kill Himself If You Leave

Signs of an Abusive Relationship

Signs of an Abusive Relationship You Should Never Ignore

Is it possible not to see the signs of an abusive relationship? Definitely! Why? Because abuse isn’t “just” hitting or name-calling. These signs of an abusive relationship will help you learn how abusers control the women they say they love. In this article, the signs of an abusive relationship are described through a survivor’s perspective. Keri Kight was with a man who […]


Why Does He Do That? Inside the Mind of an Abusive Man

There are no simple answers to the “Why does he do that?” question, but here are some insights into abusive men and why they abuse. I also included links to articles about why women stay with abusers. I’m getting my Master of Social Work (MSW) at the University of British Columbia in Vancouver, and have encountered one of the most […]

Why Does He Do That

safe house for women and children

What You Need to Know When You Call a Shelter or Safe House

Do you want to leave your husband, but have nowhere to go? Here’s what to expect at a women’s shelter. I worked at a safe house for women and children, and know how to prepare to leave an unhealthy and abusive relationship. If you’re in an abusive relationship, know that you are not alone! I’m inspired to write this article about shelters […]


How to Help a Friend in an Abusive Relationship

You know your friend is being abused, but what can you do? These ideas on how to help a friend in an abusive relationship will give you some of the tools you need to support her. Knowledge is power. Read books like Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men by Lundy Bancroft. Women in abusive […]

How to Help a Friend in an Abusive Relationship

Why Does Love Hurt

Why Does Love Hurt? 6 Excuses for Abuse

Understanding why love hurts will help you see your boyfriend clearly. These reasons why men abuse will help answer the “why does love hurt?” question. I’ve geared this article towards girlfriends who are being abused by their boyfriends, but these excuses for abuse or apply to marriages as well. In Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them […]


5 Signs of an Abusive Boyfriend

Some boyfriends are clearly abusive – they hit, yell, or push their girlfriends around. These signs of an abusive boyfriend will help you recognize the less obvious types of abuse. If your boyfriend doesn’t feel any guilt no matter what he does or says, he might be a sociopath. In The Sociopath Next Door, Martha Stout says one in twenty-five […]

Signs of an Abusive Boyfriend

5 Signs of a Verbally Abusive Relationship

5 Signs of a Verbally Abusive Relationship

How do you know if you’re being verbally abused by your boyfriend, husband, or partner? These signs of a verbally abusive relationship are inspired by The Parable of the Prison Cell. Our imprisoned heroine’s name is Hanna – a princess warrior who took the easy way out. If you believe your relationship is verbally abusive, read Should I Stay or […]