How do you know if a guy wants to be with you, and only you? Here are eight signs he wants a relationship with you, to help you decide how much of your heart, time, and energy you should give him.
In Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve, Matthew Hussey shares tips for creating a lasting, meaningful relationship. Finding the right guy is about creating a healthy, happy life with someone who engages you at every level. Be proactive in your love life – don’t just look for signs he wants a relationship with you.
I’ve been blogging about love and relationships for six years, and I often get the same type of comments from readers. The most common theme is that the women aren’t happy in their relationship because they can’t change their partners. Worse, my female readers aren’t willing to leave or make any huge changes in their life so they can be happy again. They put everything into their relationship or marriage, and somewhere along the way lost themselves. Don’t let this happen to you. Go slowly, and make good decisions – for every little decision you make now will affect your future.
When you’re looking for signs he wants a relationship with you, please look for signs YOU want to be in a relationship with him! Don’t get so caught up looking for the signs he likes you that you forget to connect with your heart and decide if you even like him.
7 Signs a Guy Wants to Be With You
If you’re at the brink of a possible relationship, don’t rush too fast. Go slowly, take a year to get to know him before sleeping with him. Trust your gut instincts. Listen to your friends and family’s advice about him. Don’t be so desperate and eager to get a boyfriend that you only focus on the signs he wants a relationship with you without thinking about whether you really want a relationship with him.
1. He tells you he wants a relationship with you
Ta-da! The number one sign he wants to be in a relationship with you is that he says so. You don’t have to guess, wish, hope, pray, beg, or wonder if he’s into you. You know because he is honest and straightforward. I actually think you shouldn’t be worried about whether or not a guy wants a relationship with you. Instead, think about whether you want a relationship with him. I mean REALLY think about this. Is he kind, loving, compassionate, and respectful? Does he treat his family with warmth and generosity? Is he nice to your friends and family? Do you trust him? If you don’t know, read Can I Trust My Boyfriend? The Most Important Sign.
2. He doesn’t want to change you
If the guy you’re interested in loves you the way you are, then it’s a sign he wants a relationship with you. He doesn’t want you to change, and he thinks you’re perfect the way you are. He doesn’t want you to be skinnier, smarter, or sexier. He doesn’t care where you work, how many kids you have, or how often you check your smartphone. He loves you for who you are right now.
3. He takes you home and introduces you to his family and friends
One of my friends dated a guy for five years, and never once went to his place. She also didn’t have his cell phone number. I’m sure he was married, but she was so desperate and needy that she didn’t care what anyone thought. She didn’t even care what she thought about him. All she wanted was to get married, and she fooled herself into believing he loved her. She believed his lies. If the guy you’re interested in doesn’t take you to his home or introduce you to his friends and family, then it may be a sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you. Of course, this also depends on how long you and he have known each other.
4. He isn’t involved with other women
In How to Emotionally Detach From Someone You Care About, Vonetta said her boyfriend lives with another woman. He’s not happy with his girlfriend, which is why he has Vonetta on the side. Is this a sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you? You better believe it. If a guy is getting calls from other girls, is texting other girls, or is living with his wife, then he is not the man for you.
5. He talks about his feelings for you
If your boyfriend doesn’t talk about how he feels about you, it may not be a sign he doesn’t want a relationship with you. It’s hard for many men to talk about their feelings, and they may avoid heart-to-heart discussions like the plague. But, if he never talks about his feelings for you and never shows you he cares about or loves you, then he probably won’t change. You need to decide if his emotional distance is something you can live with long term.
6. He talks about a future with you
Does your guy talk about his future plans for a family, kids, home, job, and commitment to a marriage? This could be one of the biggest signs he wants a relationship with you – he actually talks about the future. He is prepared for the future, is planning for it, and sees you in his future somehow.
7. You and he have similar life goals and plans for the future
In How to Know if You Should Marry Him, Angela said she and her boyfriend can’t seem to get on the same page in life. They fight all the time, and have different goals for their family, work, and future. She sees all the signs that he wants a relationship with her, but their love isn’t peaceful or happy. She described their relationship as tormented, and asked what she should do. What do you think my relationship advice was?
My prayer for all women who are wondering if a guy wants a relationship is that you look deep into your heart and make sure you want a relationship with him. Make sure your signs are all lined up, and that there aren’t any warning flags that are making you think twice about wanting a relationship with him.
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I welcome your thoughts on these signs he wants a relationship with you below, but I can’t give advice! You have everything you need within you – you just have to learn to trust yourself and not be swept away by need, fear, or insecurity.