Short or long breaks in a relationship can give you time to think and space to breathe. Here are several reasons a relationship break might be your best choice, starting with a quip from a wonderful blog.
In Taking Space: How to Use Separation to Explore the Future of Your Relationship, Robert Buchicchio shows readers how to view and use separations as a proactive way to get space, reduce conflict, and focus on self-growth.
“If you feel like your ship is sinking, it might be a good time to throw out the stuff that’s been weighing it down,” says Angel Chernoff on her Practical Tips for Practical Living blog. “Let go of people who bring you down, and surround yourself with those who bring out the best in you.”
One of the best reasons to take a relationship break is because your partner is dragging you down or treating you disrespectfully (or even abusively). It’s difficult to leave even the unhealthiest, most painful relationship — and a temporary split may be your ticket to freedom.
5 Reasons to Take a Relationship Break
Here are a few reasons a relationship break might be the best thing you do…
A relationship break can give you the chance to see your partner objectively. When you’re in the throes of love (or argument after argument), you aren’t looking at your relationship objectively. You’re caught up in the emotion and drama, and you’re making decisions and responding to him reflexively.
A relationship break can give you time and space to breathe, and think about what’s best for you in the long run.
A break can give you time to reconnect with yourself. When was the last time you spent a solid block of time by yourself, without worrying about what your partner is thinking or doing? Reconnecting with yourself can help you figure out what you really want and need out of your relationship – and your life.
If you’re taking a relationship break, it’s important not to focus on what you’re missing! Instead, tune in to your goals, dreams, plans for the future. Take time to think about your relationship – but take more time to reconnect with who you are and what you want out of life.
A relationship break buys you time. Is your partner pushing you towards marriage, moving in together, having kids, or loaning him money? Taking a break will give you the time you need to think carefully about your future. Marriage and formal commitments (eg, mortgages, car loans, financial loans, etc) can change your life in dramatic ways. Don’t rush into anything – take a break to think carefully before you make an impulsive decision that you may later regret.
A break tests the strength your relationship. Are you meant to be with this person? Is he a long-term commitment or a short-term fling? Is this true love?
The best reason to take a relationship break is that it won’t separate you from someone you’re meant to be with. On the contrary, if this person is The One, then nothing will keep you apart. A relationship break will make your love stronger and healthier, and will increase your confidence.
If you’re not sure about your relationship, read How to Cope With Relationship Doubt.
A relationship break allows your loved ones to be honest. If your friends and family aren’t sharing their true opinions about your relationship, a break will encourage them to speak up. They’re more likely to share what they really think if they know you’re separated from your partner. You may learn things about your relationship that will surprise or even shock you – things your friends and family didn’t want to tell you, for fear of hurting you.
If you’ve been wondering about a temporary breakup but aren’t sure about the timing, read 5 Signs It’s Time to Take a Break From Your Relationship.
What do you think – are there any benefits to taking a relationship break?
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