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A Prayer for Healing After a Breakup

After breaking up, you may feel like you’ll never love or laugh again. You may feel lost and broken, alone and unwanted. Do not despair, for you won’t always feel this way! You will get through this season, you will heal and grow forward. This prayer for healing is inspired by something unexpected: a money parable. It’s not one of Jesus’ money parables…rather, it’s the Parable of the $20 Bill. It includes several surprising tips on how to recover from a breakup, including a prayer for healing.

In Hearing God: Developing a Conversational Relationship with God, Dallas Willard answers questions such as, How do we hear God’s voice? How can we be sure that what we think we hear is not our own subconscious? What role does the Bible play? What if what God says to us is not clear?

Conversational prayer changed my relationship with God! I’m learning how conversational prayer works – our home group is doing the Forming workbook by David Tackle. If you haven’t heard of conversational prayer yet, let me know in the comments section below. I’d love to write an article that focuses on conversational prayer for healing after a breakup.

Letting go of someone you love is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. When you say a prayer for healing after a breakup, trust that God cares about you, is looking out for you, and wants the best for you! Your heart and attitude toward God is different when you believe He loves you so much. A healing prayer is different when you are friends with God.

Here’s a parable that will change how you see yourself, and help you heal after a breakup.

The Parable of the $20 Bill

At a recent conference, a speaker started his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. He asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”

breakup prayersHundreds of hands started going up. The speaker said, “I’ll give this $20 to one of you, but hold on a minute.” He then crumpled the $20 bill up. He then asked, “Now, who wants it?” All the hands remained in the air.

“What if I do this?” he asked. The speaker then dropped the $20 on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.

“Now who wants it?” Still the hands were in the air.

“No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value,” he said. “It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value in God’s eyes. To Him, dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless.


A Prayer for Healing After a Breakup

Father God, thank you that I am priceless to You – even when I feel rejected, crumpled, dirty, and lost. I give you my life. I trust You and love you, and I believe Your thoughts about me are precious! You love me, and You protect me. I don’t understand why this breakup had to happen, but I know that You are with me. Things are difficult right now, but I know You are bigger than my problems and that You have a good future planned for me. I want Your plans to come to pass in my life, and I trust in You to change my circumstances according to Your will. Amen.

Don’t give up on God

After a breakup, you may feel like God had deserted you. You feel alone and abandoned, unwanted and rejected. It’s depressing and sad to lose someone you love, especially if the breakup was unexpected. You may even feel like all the prayer for healing in the world won’t help you after a breakup – and you might question whether God can heal you after a breakup.

Don’t give up on yourself!

Try not to feel sorry for yourself. “Self-pity is a destructive and negative emotion,” says Joyce Meyers, “It blinds us to our blessings and the possibilities before us and it steals our hope for both today and tomorrow….Self-pity is actually idolatry because it is self-focus carried to the extreme. When we allow ourselves to fall into self-pity, we are essentially rejecting God’s love and His ability to change things.”

Don’t waste your precious energy and time on self-pity. You’re in a difficult season right now, and it seems like all you can do is say a prayer for healing after the breakup. Pray, but don’t feel sorry for yourself.

Be hopeful when saying a prayer for healing after a breakup

A more loving, peaceful, suitable relationship is in your future! Any prayer for healing after a breakup has to include hope for the future. God has thoughts and plans for your good, to give you hope and a plan for your life. If you will hold on to your hope and never stop fighting for it, you will see amazing things take place in your life.

Praise God for the blessings you enjoy

Tell me three amazing things about your life right now. Is the sun shining? Do you have food in your belly? Are you able to walk, dance, sing, and have a shower without help? Can you name one person who loves you? Do you know you are a child of God? One of the best ways to heal after a breakup is to focus on the blessings in your life. Practice gratitude to God, and balance your prayer for healing with praises for the good things God has given you.

Know that God has a purpose for your life

Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.

Prayer for Healing After a Break Up

Prayer for Healing After Breaking Up

Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil! Your body will glow with health, your very bones will vibrate with life! Honor God with everything you own; give him the first and the best. Your barns will burst, your wine vats will brim over. But don’t, dear friend, resent God’s discipline; don’t sulk under his loving correction. It’s the child he loves that God corrects; a father’s delight is behind all this. – Proverbs 3:5-12, The Message.

I welcome your thoughts on this prayer for healing after a breakup – as well as The Parable of the $20 Bill. I can’t offer relationship advice or counseling, but you might feel better if you share your thoughts. And, don’t forget about conversational prayer for healing after a breakup! I can write a post about that, if you’re interested.

If you feel like you’ll never recover from this breakup – and you don’t know how or what to pray – read 5 Ways to Talk to God When You Can’t Pray.

Father God, I pray for healing for people who feel lost, rejected, alone, and sad after a breakup. I pray that you find ways to comfort them and show them how much You care. Amen.

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20 thoughts on “A Prayer for Healing After a Breakup”

  1. Absolutely incredible! I was stuck in my head thinking angry hateful thoughts. Overthinking everything that went wrong. But reading this made me smile and laugh and now I have hope! Thank you so much.

  2. I love this! Thank you so much for sharing. I broke up with my boyfriend of three year and it not that first time we break up but it is the last time. This article help me understand God has a plan and i need to let him work in my life. I have learned to thank him for the good and bad things of my relationship and i pray for my ex because after all he was a good guy to me. He thought me so much we were just not good for each other. We ended in good term and still loving each other. But now i have to focus on myself and allow god back in my life allow him to feel that emptiness.

  3. I just want to thank you so much for putting your love and encouragement out here for the world to see. Thank you for allowing God to use you and speak through you. I was broken up with completely unexpectedly a mere 8 days ago and it felt like my world had come apart. I quickly turned to God and started praying for His will to be done and for forgiveness for the person who broke up with me. I have been listening to Joyce Meyer sermons everyday as well as my own personal readings and devotions in an effort to hear God. I most certainly have heard Him time and again every day. It gets a little easier each day although there are random pitfalls, but that is the nature of grief. In faith, I have continued to thank God for the break up and for the things I still don’t understand. By having an attitude of gratitude I am learning to live above how deeply sad I feel.

    I would love to learn more about a conversational relationship with God.

    God Bless You,

  4. Hi, I separated with my ex about 3 years ago and divorced a year ago. I met this guy about 10 mths ago, and I genuinely like him and have feeling for him. It was good in the beginning but after 4-5 mths he pulled away. I feel that he doesn’t want to get too close or maybe he just stringing me all along. He broke up with me recently by asking his house keys back but said nothing else. I know in my heart that it bounds to happen but iam still sad about it. I still like him but not sure if i should keep praying to God to change him and restore our relationship or should I just close this chapter and move on. I still keep him in my prayer and ask God if it is His will He’ll bring us back together.

  5. This article is so consoling to me. Praise God for His endless assurance of being the light in my darkness.I am going through a breakup after 4 years of thinking we were meant for each other.He is getting married to another woman, and i feel lost, wounded and broken..I pray God almighty heals my broken heart and bless me with a renewal of Divine strength. May He meet me at my points of need as He has promised

  6. I am going through a really hard break up as well. I’m 36 I was with my boyfriend for about 1-1/2 yrs. After years of dating mishap and praying to God to bless me with a good man I thought I had found him. Only to realize that although we were two good people who loved each other, it just wasn’t meant to be and God closed that door. I struggle to have faith these days as anger and sadness wash over me in waves. I am even ashamed to say that I’m mad at God. Reading this post and the comments have really helped. I am trying to rekindle the faith and hope I once had in God, and the parable of the $20 hit home for me.
    On a side note…how do we know when God answers yes, no , or not yet?

  7. That really encouraged me that God’s love is unconditional and that something way better whatever God’s will is for my future is better then what I can ever choose myself and I trust in God’s love and know that everything will always work out for me as long as he’s my focal point and I follow his will for my life

  8. May you find healing and hope, peace and love after a breakup. May God lift your spirit, may Jesus comfort your heart, and may the Holy Spirit give you wisdom, grace, and guidance as you move forward in your life.

    And may your relationship with God be strengthened, even while you walk through the valley of the shadow of loss and letting go.

  9. My name is Tammy Stanley. I am 53 my boyfriend of 10 years have broken up. I’m crushed and need prayer. It has been 6 months now. All I know is my heart is crushed . We have had text contact but only bc a friend of mine passed away and he wanted to know arrangements. What hurts the most I think is several but right now the woman he is hanging out with. This is very painful. If it wasn’t I wouldn’t be typing these words to you hoping for some kind of relief. Thank you.

  10. Please pray for me as my dear wife has gone after 7years in marriage may the good God give answers in this difficult time I’ve suffered a lot

  11. Thank you I needed this so much. I am going thru a break up after 7 years. Feelings of false hope and thinking marriage was in my future to this man I cared about. I have my faith and know that God is with me no matter what and He loves me more in a moment than all the 7 yrs combined. I’m hurt and wounded but do know God will see me thru this, I just pray it willl be sooner than later. Thank you Father for the blessings in my life, those who really love me unconditionally. I will be fine soon, The Lord is close to the broken-hearted and those crushed in spirit. Thank you Jesus for helping me each and every day. I love you.

  12. Thank you for your article. I have found that peace and pain take turns after my relationship of 6 years ended. But accepting Gods blessings have given me comfort. We are not alone

  13. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Thank you for being here! Congratulations on your 50 years of marriage, Martha…awesome :-)

    Stay in prayer, and you will heal. Stay connected to God, and your prayers will be answered. Cling to the rock, for he will shelter and protect you.

  14. I’m experiencing my first breakup. It’s taken me 36 years to even be able to date and I thought I had found a great one. In church we learned about discipline from God, and while it’s nice to know He loves me so, the pain of not experiencing closure from my ex hurts too much to process the love aspect. Thank you for this writing, I will be bookmarking it to refer back to later.

  15. I am a firm believer of GO D but my faith has been tested lately please help my relationship of 15 has failed for a second time.

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