After breaking up, you may feel like you’ll never love or laugh again. You may feel lost and broken, alone and unwanted. Do not despair, for you won’t always feel this way! You will get through this season, you will heal and grow forward. This prayer for healing is inspired by something unexpected: a money parable. It’s not one of Jesus’ money parables…rather, it’s the Parable of the $20 Bill. It includes several surprising tips on how to recover from a breakup, including a prayer for healing.
In Hearing God: Developing a Conversational Relationship with God, Dallas Willard answers questions such as, How do we hear God’s voice? How can we be sure that what we think we hear is not our own subconscious? What role does the Bible play? What if what God says to us is not clear?
Conversational prayer changed my relationship with God! I’m learning how conversational prayer works – our home group is doing the Forming workbook by David Tackle. If you haven’t heard of conversational prayer yet, let me know in the comments section below. I’d love to write an article that focuses on conversational prayer for healing after a breakup.
Letting go of someone you love is the hardest thing you’ll ever do. When you say a prayer for healing after a breakup, trust that God cares about you, is looking out for you, and wants the best for you! Your heart and attitude toward God is different when you believe He loves you so much. A healing prayer is different when you are friends with God.
Here’s a parable that will change how you see yourself, and help you heal after a breakup.
The Parable of the $20 Bill
At a recent conference, a speaker started his seminar by holding up a $20 bill. He asked, “Who would like this $20 bill?”
Hundreds of hands started going up. The speaker said, “I’ll give this $20 to one of you, but hold on a minute.” He then crumpled the $20 bill up. He then asked, “Now, who wants it?” All the hands remained in the air.
“What if I do this?” he asked. The speaker then dropped the $20 on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now all crumpled and dirty.
“Now who wants it?” Still the hands were in the air.
“No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value,” he said. “It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value in God’s eyes. To Him, dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless.”
A Prayer for Healing After a Breakup
Father God, thank you that I am priceless to You – even when I feel rejected, crumpled, dirty, and lost. I give you my life. I trust You and love you, and I believe Your thoughts about me are precious! You love me, and You protect me. I don’t understand why this breakup had to happen, but I know that You are with me. Things are difficult right now, but I know You are bigger than my problems and that You have a good future planned for me. I want Your plans to come to pass in my life, and I trust in You to change my circumstances according to Your will. Amen.
Don’t give up on God
After a breakup, you may feel like God had deserted you. You feel alone and abandoned, unwanted and rejected. It’s depressing and sad to lose someone you love, especially if the breakup was unexpected. You may even feel like all the prayer for healing in the world won’t help you after a breakup – and you might question whether God can heal you after a breakup.
Don’t give up on yourself!
Try not to feel sorry for yourself. “Self-pity is a destructive and negative emotion,” says Joyce Meyers, “It blinds us to our blessings and the possibilities before us and it steals our hope for both today and tomorrow….Self-pity is actually idolatry because it is self-focus carried to the extreme. When we allow ourselves to fall into self-pity, we are essentially rejecting God’s love and His ability to change things.”
Don’t waste your precious energy and time on self-pity. You’re in a difficult season right now, and it seems like all you can do is say a prayer for healing after the breakup. Pray, but don’t feel sorry for yourself.
Be hopeful when saying a prayer for healing after a breakup
A more loving, peaceful, suitable relationship is in your future! Any prayer for healing after a breakup has to include hope for the future. God has thoughts and plans for your good, to give you hope and a plan for your life. If you will hold on to your hope and never stop fighting for it, you will see amazing things take place in your life.
Praise God for the blessings you enjoy
Tell me three amazing things about your life right now. Is the sun shining? Do you have food in your belly? Are you able to walk, dance, sing, and have a shower without help? Can you name one person who loves you? Do you know you are a child of God? One of the best ways to heal after a breakup is to focus on the blessings in your life. Practice gratitude to God, and balance your prayer for healing with praises for the good things God has given you.
Know that God has a purpose for your life
Trust God from the bottom of your heart; don’t try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God’s voice in everything you do, everywhere you go; he’s the one who will keep you on track. Don’t assume that you know it all. Run to God! Run from evil! Your body will glow with health, your very bones will vibrate with life! Honor God with everything you own; give him the first and the best. Your barns will burst, your wine vats will brim over. But don’t, dear friend, resent God’s discipline; don’t sulk under his loving correction. It’s the child he loves that God corrects; a father’s delight is behind all this. – Proverbs 3:5-12, The Message.
I welcome your thoughts on this prayer for healing after a breakup – as well as The Parable of the $20 Bill. I can’t offer relationship advice or counseling, but you might feel better if you share your thoughts. And, don’t forget about conversational prayer for healing after a breakup! I can write a post about that, if you’re interested.
If you feel like you’ll never recover from this breakup – and you don’t know how or what to pray – read 5 Ways to Talk to God When You Can’t Pray.
Father God, I pray for healing for people who feel lost, rejected, alone, and sad after a breakup. I pray that you find ways to comfort them and show them how much You care. Amen.
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