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When You Feel Like Nobody Loves You

Even the most popular people think “nobody loves me” – so you’re not alone! It’s normal and human to feel like nobody loves you or wants you around.

I’m writing this for people who think nobody likes or loves them, because I’ve gone through the nobody loves me stage many, many times. I was in three foster homes growing up, and my sister has stopped talking to me. I have no family, except for two cousins who aren’t interested in hanging out and a mom who struggles with a severe mental illness. None of my friends, coworkers, or classmates every comment on my blog posts – even when I post them all over Facebook and their email inbox!




Yes, I sometimes feel like nobody loves me. Even the people who are SUPPOSED to love me (ie, my family), don’t! It’s an awful feeling.

What to Do When Nobody Loves You

The first and most important thing is to learn how to love yourself. If you don’t feel good about who you are – or even like yourself – then it’ll be even more difficult to know what to do when it feels like nobody in the world loves you.

Think of one person who does love you

When you get the “nobody loves me” blues, make a list of the people you know love you. For instance, I know my mom loves me…even though she can’t express it the same was a “real” mom. She didn’t come to my wedding – I’ve been married for almost nine years, and she’s never met my husband.

My sister didn’t come to my wedding, either. I’ve only met my dad a couple times, and he never calls, visits, or even emails. But I know my husband loves me, my two closest friends love me, and my mother-in-law loves me. I wish I had more people who love me, but I’ll take what I can get!

Try showing love to other people

Sometimes I think the best way to cope with the nobody loves me blues is to start showing love to the people in my life. Even if they don’t love me back, I think I should act in loving ways to them.

This means calling or emailing them even if they never call or email me, doing nice things for them, and supporting them. That way, I can go to bed at night knowing that I did the best I could to be a kind, loving person in this world. I believe that the more loving and kind I am, the more loving and kind people will be to me.

Learn why people hurt us

I’m writing this article about feeling like nobody loves you, and I’m thinking of people who are abused by the ones they love. Are you being physically or emotionally hurt by someone who says they love you? Read Why We Hurt the Ones We Love.

Ask yourself if it’s really true that nobody loves you

Byron Katie is one of my favourite authors; she encourages us to figure out what’s REALLY true.

nobody loves meIs it really true that nobody loves me? No, it’s not true. I know my sister loves me, even though she won’t speak to me. I don’t know if my dad loves me…I’m sure he does, in his own way. Maybe. Actually, I don’t think he does love me. But I can’t expect everyone to love me. So I forgive him for not loving me.


Think about your relationship with God

I strongly, deeply believe in God and Jesus Christ – and I know I am strongly, deeply loved even when I feel like nobody loves me. I believe God made me for a purpose, and I believe you are reading this blog post for a reason. It’s not an accident that you are here — on my blog, and on this earth. How do you feel about God? Sometimes, even if it is 100% true that nobody on this planet loves you, I hope you can tap into the eternal love of God. He loves you more than you know.

Why are you singing the nobody loves me blues? Maybe you’ll feel better if you write about it, here or in your own journal. I can’t offer advice, but you may find it helpful to express your feelings.





xo

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8 thoughts on “When You Feel Like Nobody Loves You”

  1. I feel like nobody loves me but God, I feel so alone but I know he here with me. I do so much for my wife to show the love I got for her. She’ll rather hang out with her friends all days and leave me and the kids at home missing her. I wish and know God got better days for me. I work 2 jobs to support my family, to make sure everyone get what they need without asking some for anything. I just gone sit back and wait on God cause I know he got good intentions for me but right now I’m feeling so alone.

  2. Don’t you know god is for children and is a fictional character? If god were real he would be nothing but a sadistic murderer. Grow up.

    1. I’m not sure if I agree with your comment and I’m not sure if I believe in God, but I know for certain that without bad things in the world, there would be no real “good.” I’m sorry that people die and I wish that life didn’t work like that, but without death and destruction there is no appreciation for life and rebuilding. There is nothing that unites us more than the very situations which occur to destroy us. Maybe God understands that, too, if he’s real. But that’s just my opinion. I’m 16 and positive about it, and I get that positivity can seem “immature” or “unrealistic” to adults, but what can i do to change what people seem to define as “maturity” or “logic,” these days.

  3. “If you learn to really sit with loneliness and embrace it for the gift that it is…an opportunity to get to know YOU, to learn how strong you really are, to depend on no one but YOU for your happiness…you will realize that a little loneliness goes a LONG way in creating a richer, deeper, more vibrant and colorful you.” – Mandy Hale.

    I don’t agree! I think there is someone you can depend on for an unending source of love, joy, peace, and freedom. And it’s not you.

    7 Things to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares
    http://www.theadventurouswriter.com/she/feeling-unwanted-no-one-cares/

    Feeling like nobody loves me was how I grew up. I was neglected and rejected throughout my childhood…it was terrible! I really did feel unloved. But I reached upwards and inwards, and I learned how to Blossom without the love of a mom and a dad.

    You will get through this lonely season of your life…and you will look back, and be glad it’s over!

  4. I never really had any friends all mine life, the pain of rejection and not belonging as well as being shoved while I am down gets too much at times. But life goes on, it won’t stop for anyone…..

  5. Dear Jennifer,

    I think I understand how you feel. God is marvellous and amazing….but we need each other. He created us to connect with people, not to be alone. I don’t think it matters if we’re single or married — we just need people to love and lean on.

    The Psalms are a good place to go when you feel like nobody loves you. And finding ways to meet people you connect with is also good and healthy….my prayer is that you find ways to not feel so alone.

    May you find peace, comfort, joy and love in the people you meet today. May you follow God’s leading, and reach out to people you think might lift you up. May you learn how to be a good friend, so you can build strong healthy relationships that are loving and meaningful.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  6. I know my God is real but I need someone I can see and feel, because being alone is a lonely place and no one loves this tired face.