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Dr Oz’s Marriage Stress Test

Dr Oz’s marriage stress test involves 20 questions for couples, related to physical and emotional health. Dr Oz gives this test to married couples, and says men and women experience stress – and marriage – differently.

To learn how men and women experience stress differently, read Why Mars and Venus Collide: Improving Relationships by Understanding How Men and Women Cope Differently with Stress by John Gray. Even if you’re not a fan of the “mars and venus” idea, you’ll learn more about marriage stress from the book.

“Couples in stressful marriages are less healthy than couples in happy marriages,” says Dr Oz. “An unhappy marriage can be as bad for your health as smoking.”

Couples in unhappy marriages get sick more often, and are more prone to sickness, high blood pressure, heart disease, and other illnesses. So, if you’re married or in a serious relationship, it’s in your best interests to deal with marriage stress as soon as possible.

After you take this stress test, make sure you find creative ways to reduce relationship stress, so you can relax into your marriage.

Dr Oz’s Marriage Stress Test

Every marriage has its challenges, but stress in your marriage may be affecting more than just your relationship. New studies have revealed that couples in stressful marriages are physically less healthy than couples in happy marriages. According to this research, unhappy couples have compromised immune systems, higher blood pressure and faster heart rates than their happy counterparts. Even more alarming, they could be at an increased risk for heart disease, arthritis and cancer.

The following stress test is comprised of questions that will help you assess your emotional and physical health. Your answers will help you determine the amount of stress in your marriage.

If you already know you’re in a stressful marriage, read my article on creative ways to reduce relationship stress.

20 Questions for Married Couples

  1. When you’re upset with your partner, do you eat more?
  2. Is your blood pressure worse than when you first got married?
  3. Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?
  4. Do you prefer to be with other people than alone with your partner?
  5. Do you and your partner fight about money more than 3 times a week?
  6. Do you constantly get colds, and get cuts and scrapes that take a long time to heal?
  7. When you feel there is a problem in your marriage (stress), do you usually keep it to yourself?
  8. Are you embarrassed for your children to see how you treat each other?
  9. Do you resent how much you have to do in your relationship?
  10. Do you feel lonely in your relationship?
  11. Do you lie awake at night worrying about your marriage?
  12. Are you relieved when your partner leaves home?
  13. Since you’ve been married, have you gained a significant amount of belly fat?
  14. Do you wish you could communicate more openly with your partner?
  15. Do you feel like you don’t get enough praise or credit from your partner?
  16. Do you have more cavities than usual?
  17. Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?
  18. Are you getting more headaches and stomachaches than usual?
  19. Do you feel dissatisfied with your sex life?
  20. Do you fantasize about divorce or separation?

Add up the number of times you answered “Yes.” If you have more than five “yes’s”, then you have a high stress marriage. Anything above 8 is high stress – and you owe it to yourself to get help.

About Marriage Stress:

  • Some stress in marriage is normal.
  • Men and women express stress differently.
  • Talk about what is going on in your marriage – don’t just assume you know.

Are you stressed about your finances? Read How to Cope With Money Stress in Marriage.

May you learn to lean on God for strength, peace, and wisdom. May you and your partner turn to your Creator together, as partners and as a team. May you be united in your vision and hopes for your future, and may all your plans include your Creator. Blessings on you and your partner!

I welcome your thoughts on Dr Oz’s marriage stress test below. I can’t give advice on dealing with marriage stress, but it might help you to write about your situation. Sometimes writing brings hope and clarity.

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8 thoughts on “Dr Oz’s Marriage Stress Test”

  1. Hello Laurie,

    Thank you for your positive contribution to help couples with stress problems within their relationships.

    I have just noticed an apparent typo in the stress test above. No 3 and 17 are the same question-Do you keep your innermost secrets from your partner?

    Keep up the positive encouragement as couples need al the help available. Many Blessings.

  2. Dear Celine,

    My prayer for you is that you get strong and healthy physically, and that your meditation practices make you strong spiritually and emotionally! May you continue to meditate regularly – maybe even twice a day or more – and may you connect with your Source of power, strength, and freedom. May you find courage and sustenance. May your eyes be open to the blessings you’re already receiving in your life, and may you see the supports and resources available to you. May God grant you love, freedom, good health, and energy to face whatever comes your way.


    1. Thank you Laurie. I really appreciate your encouraging words and I’ll read them whenever I need encouragement. Thank you very much.

  3. No, it didn’t cos I married a passive aggressive man. He is driving me crazy. We hv lived separately this year. That is the only solution I can think of because no form of communication works. He just doesn’t respond when I express my feelings. He just doesn’t care, to him, as long his needs are met, he just doesn’t care. I am preparing myself mentally to get a divorce when I am fully recovered, my health has deteriorated a lot since the time I wrote to u. I didn’t even remember that I wrote to u. I am building up my health now by separating and doing regular meditation & breathing exercises to ease the emotional stress which works. I wished I meditate earlier.

  4. Dear Celine,

    I’m really sorry I missed your comment. Sometimes my email notification gets messed up, and I am not on top of the recent comments. If you’re still connected to my blog, I’d love to hear from you! Is your marriage still as stressful as before, or have you found a solution?


  5. Hi,

    I hv taken the test and I am in a very high stress marriage, as I hv 16 yes answers. My husband betrayed me 1.5 yrs ago and I hv not got over it. I know my stress level has been increasing ever since 2005, when I was pregnant with my first daughter. I hv reached to the level of not caring for myself properly and my health has deteriorated drastically cos this damn marriage. I do want this marriage but my husband showed no remorse nor repent. He just tell me that he would be provider . He lived his life as if nothing has happened. Til now, I still feel hurt terribly as I hv no family support. What should ido? I really feel trapped as I am a stay at home mum with 2 kids. I am trying my best to stay strong for them. Sometimes I feel I would getting cancer soon.

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