How to Make Yourself Feel Better

After a fight with your boyfriend or husband – or a terrible day at work – you need tips on how to make yourself feel better. These eight ways to pamper yourself will help you gather strength and energy to move forward.

pampering yourselfFirst, you laugh. You find pictures and cartoons that you already know are the best tips on how to make yourself feel better, and you look at those under a smile breaks through…and then a chuckle…

Or, you read Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken. Whether you need to laugh or cry depends on what you’re going through, and how you cope with problems. Sometimes you’ll do both because you need to pamper yourself, and pampering yourself is about giving yourself a little bit of everything.




The other day, I gave a presentation at school (I’m working on my Master’s of Social Work at UBC in Vancouver). The professor raked me over the coals. I unintentionally provided him with two “teachable moments” that he used to educate the other students about the importance of high-quality research and precise terminology in social work. That was three days ago, and I’m still cringing embarrassment. It stings!

But it feels good to talk about it, and to admit that I didn’t prepare as well as I should have for the presentation. I gave a 70% effort – definitely not graduate level preparation. I rushed through my research, and didn’t check my facts properly. I screwed up.

And that, my friends, is one tip on how to make yourself feel better after a bad day at work or a fight with your partner: accept responsibility for what you didn’t do well, and make a mental note to do it differently next time. This tip may not seem like pampering yourself, but when you own up to your mistake, you’re in a better frame of mind to be kind to yourself. You can’t truly be good to yourself unless you’re honest with yourself.

Here are seven more tips for pampering yourself at home, starting with the spiritual and ending with the practical…

How to Make Yourself Feel Better

Different things work for different people. I used to binge on comfort foods when I needed to make myself feel better, and I felt so much worse afterward! Now, I go for a walk with my dogs. That always makes me feel better about whatever is going on in my life. That, and planning my next meal :-)

Bow your head and bend your knee to your Creator

I don’t know how spiritual or God-centered you are, but I’ve tasted the depth of love, compassion, acceptance, and freedom that Jesus Christ brings. I feel loved no matter how bad I mess up, and I am accepted no matter how lazy or unprepared I was at school. There’s something liberating about God – and He is my first choice when I think of ways to pamper myself after a hard day.


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Book a weekend away

Travel is my favorite way to escape and pamper myself after a tough time. When was the last time you went away for the weekend? My husband and I recently spent four nights in Vegas, and it was so invigorating and relaxing. Want to go away for a spell? Read What to Pack for a Beach Resort Vacation to get your imagination going!

That’s one of the best tips on how to make yourself feel better: start planning something exciting for yourself.

Light a candle, and sit in silence or soft music

One of the best tips on how to make yourself feel better is to connect with your spirit. Listen to your heart, thoughts, mind, and soul. What does your body need? What are you scared of? What do you hope for? Pray, meditate, connect with yourself. Some people find music helpful, while others prefer scents.

Another way to make yourself feel better is to journal. Be honest about how you feel, what you think, and why you’re so upset.

Bury your face in your pet

I have two dogs – Georgie and Tiffy – and my favorite thing when I’m upset, sad, or scared is to bury my face in their necks. Tiffy is especially cuddly and sweet, and could spend hours in my arms.

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How to Make Yourself Feel Better

Do you have a cat or dog, and do you spend time just leaning on them? Never underestimate animals as ways to help yourself feel better after a terrible argument or day at work.

Dogs and cats are comforting because they don’t judge. They offer stability and consistency, and they love you no matter what. Unconditional love! That’s how to make yourself feel better after a fight with your boyfriend or husband: soak up the unconditional love a pet – or God – offers.

Do you need a whole new you to feel better? Read 9 Makeover Ideas for After a Breakup.

Get a massage

My husband was laid off from work five months ago, which means we lost our extended health care coverage. So, I’m not getting my regular massages – and I miss them so much! Especially since I recently wrote about the benefits of massage for a health magazine; I am now more convinced than ever that it’s a healthy way to pamper yourself after a bad day at work. When was the last time you got a massage? 

Daydream about getting a new life

Are your problems at work due to you, or the work environment? It’s easy to blame everything and everyone else, but smarter and healthier is to figure out where the buck stops. Eventually, it has to stop with you! If you hate your job and wish you could find new work, start visualizing what it’d be like to start fresh somewhere else.

Read 7 Cautions for a Career Change at 40 if you’re serious about transitioning to a new job.

Take a bubble bath

how to feel betterI hesitated to include bubble baths, but it’s such a solid as a tip for pampering yourself after a bad day at work! Lock yourself in your bathroom, find a book you love, run yourself a hot bath, and sink back into the warmth and goodness of the tub.



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Put it into perspective

I write lots of articles about people starting over after terrible shocks and setbacks. If you’re not dealing with a life-threatening diagnosis, if you have people in your life who love you, and if you are free to go wherever you want…then you will be all right.

“The horror of that moment,” the King went on, “I shall never, never forget!”  “You will, though,” the Queen said, “if you don’t make a memorandum of it.  – Lewis Carroll.

I welcome your thoughts on how to pamper yourself and feel better after something bad happens. I can’t offer advice, but it may help you feel better to share your experience.

May you find the best tips on how to make yourself feel better after a fight or a bad day at work, and may you gain strength to face tomorrow.

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