Do you know it’s over, but your partner refuses to accept it? Use these tips on how to leave a man who wants to stay together – you’ll find courage and strength!
Here’s a reader’s dilemma:
“I have been with my husband for 9 years and married the last two of those 9,” says A. on Is My Marriage Over? “The past year has been almost unbearable. I want to leave very badly but he wants to stay together because financially it would be better. I have cheated on my husband and we rarely are close to one another. I don’t feel like we connect on any level. Before things got bad I asked to try counseling and really gave it 100% now I am not even trying. I really feel like I am stuck.”
It’s time to get empowered, to take control of your life! First, you need to figure out if you should leave your husband. Read How to Know If It’s Time to Go: A 10-Step Reality Test for Your Marriage – it’s one of the most popular books on marriage and separation on Amazon.
And here are a few ideas to chew on…
How to Leave a Man Who Wants to Stay in the Relationship
These tips are for women who want to leave their husbands or partners, yet feel trapped, stuck, and confused.
Figure out what’s stopping you from leaving him
A.’s husband says he wants to stay together because it’s better for financial reasons. But, she very badly wants to leave him. She’s putting his practical concerns above her own needs and wants….and this isn’t the first time!
She says, “I was slightly reluctant to get married to begin with because we had our issues but things had been getting better – or so I thought.” A. seems to make decisions against her better judgment. She married him despite her misgivings, and she’s staying with him despite her misgivings.
I don’t know their financial situation, but I suspect his concern about the financial situation is just an excuse to keep her in the marriage. He’s not forcing her to stay married, but she’s staying anyway. The first step to leaving a man who wants to stay together is to figure out why you’re listening to him instead of your own heart, gut, and mind.
If you hesitate to leave a man who wants to stay together, read my article on loveless marriages – it may help.
Get financially strong and prepared to leave your marriage
Do you have enough money for rent, bills, and unexpected expenditures? Can you support yourself for at least a month (preferably three)? If not, can you stay with family or friends? If you don’t have a job or money saved up, contact the local shelters in your area. Don’t just say, “I can’t leave, I have no money, nowhere to go.” That’s not how you want to live your life!
Don’t let financial concerns stop you from leaving a man who wants to stay together! Read Money Tips for Women Who Want to Leave Their Husbands for help.
Learn how to cope when he pressures you to stay together
A man who wants to stay together may not let you go without a fight. I don’t necessarily mean a physical fight – though you know your partner better than I do! I mean emotional blackmail, psychological manipulation, and even spiritual pressure.
How do you leave a man who wants to stay together? By getting as much support as you can. Surround yourself with friends, family, and strong women who are encouraging and inspirational. Get counseling, either professionally, through your church, or simply by talking to a wise, trusted mentor.
Read books on being a strong woman and thriving through separation and divorce. The High Road Has Less Traffic: Honest Advice on the Path Through Love and Divorce has gotten tons of excellent reviews on Amazon.
And, you may find How to Stay Apart When He Calls, Texts, and Wants to Get Back Together helpful.
What do you think about these tips for leaving a man who wants to stay together?