Does it seem like you’ll never meet the right guy? Don’t worry – he’s closer than you think! Read these tips on finding a husband who will treat you like gold.
This article is inspired by a reader whose boyfriend treats her like crap. She has to beg him for money to buy diapers for their baby son, and he wants an “open” relationship so he can fool around without having to make up lies to tell her.
Her boyfriend is greedy and selfish (her words, not mine), and she knows they’ll never get married. She cleans his house, cooks his dinner, takes care of his child, and does whatever he tells her to do.
She wrote more in the comments section of Is Your Husband Cheating? 5 Signs He’s Having an Affair. Read it, because it’ll show you how important it is to deliberately try to find a husband who treats you like gold. Don’t rush into the first relationship you find!
Take your time, because this is the single most important decision you’ll ever make.
How to Find a Husband
It doesn’t matter if you’re 18, 25, or 55 – it’s crucial that you trust your gut instincts and go slow. I didn’t get married until I was 35 years old, and I am so glad I waited! Well, it was God stepping in and blocking me from falling in with guys I wouldn’t be happy with. I have to give credit where credit is due.
Know that you are valuable, lovable, and worthwhile
My first tip on how to find a husband is to know how valuable you are. I don’t know you, but I can tell that you’re smart, curious, motivated, and eager to start a new stage of life (otherwise you wouldn’t be here!).
If you have a strong sense of your own self-worth, you won’t be as likely to fall into relationships with men who aren’t good for you. Or – worse – who abuse you. The more you love and respect yourself, the more likely you’ll find a husband who loves and respects you.
If you need tips on securing a valuable sense of self-identity, please let me know in the comments section below! I’d be happy to write an article for you.
Do you tend to lose yourself when you’re dating? Read How to Be Yourself in Your Relationship – Self-Identity and Love.
Do what you’re passionate about
What do you love to do – what brings you alive? Do that. Go places that make you happy, that make you feel great about life and yourself. Connect with people and activities that challenge and excite you, that make you feel curious and excited and joyful.
Me, I love going to the dog park – and I’m shocked at how many single guys I meet there. It probably helps that I’m married, and feel free to strike up conversations with almost anyone. When I was single, I was scared to talk to single guys. I thought they’d think I was hitting on them. But now, I’m free and happy to talk to whoever I find interesting.
If you want to find a good husband, you need to go where the good guys are. In the comments section below, tell me three places you know you can meet good men, and then tell me when you’re going there to meet them!
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For more specific and practical tips on how to find a good husband, read How to Find a Good Boyfriend.