Sometimes finding true love – a soulmate – is about fate. And, sometimes finding true love is about our innate romantic preferences or chemistry. These five tips for love relationships are based on scientific research that shows why we fall in love and who we fall in love with…
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.” ~ Mignon McLaughlin. So, even if you find your soulmate, you’ll find yourself falling in and out of love, over and over again…even true love has its ups and downs! If you haven’t found your true love,
Here are five tips for finding true love and happiness that may surprise you…
Females have clear preferences for certain male body odors
Women are more sensitive to the smell of pheromones than men. For evolutionary reasons, both men and women have learned to be attracted to lovers with different immune systems than our own. “A complicating factor is that women on the birth control pill prefer men with similar [immune system odors],” writes Dr Pierce J. Howard in The Owner’s Manual of the Brain. “So, when a woman who is on the pill unwittingly falls in love with a partner with the same [immune system odors], marries, then goes off the pill when conception no longer needs to be avoided, she will wonder how she got attracted to the smelly partner beside her.”
Our image of the “perfect match” is established by age 10
Galdino Pranzarone is a psychologist in Virginia who believes that our image of a ideal romantic partner may be set before we turn ten years old. According to him, finding true love depends on influences that affect us before our teenage years!
There are no love potions or aphrodisiacs that make people fall in love
Other than prescription medication, there are no love potions or aphrodisiacs in foods or herbs, says Dr Pranzorone. An aphrodisiac is supposed to trigger intimate activity, but Dr Pranzorone says that any libido-enhancing effects of natural herbs or foods may just be a placebo effect.
Men prefer beautiful women
To learn about romance, chemistry, and why people fall in love, scientists lead by David Buss polled over 10,000 men and women in 33 countries. They found that men prefer women who were physically beautiful and youthful, over women with high financial earning potentials. Why we fall in love – the science of the soulmate – is influenced by factors that may not be politically correct.
Women prefer men who earn good money
The same anthropologists and sociologists in the above study found that women are attracted to men who have a good earning capacity. When looking for true love, women prefer security and ambition over physical attractiveness.
Both men and women are attracted to physical symmetry
Our romantic built-in preferences are about include physical symmetry. Symmetry is associated with beauty; and, there are several evolutionary advantages to physical symmetry. Research shows that men with physical symmetry have more sperm, more partners, and more extramarital affairs. Women with physical symmetry enjoy themselves more in the bedroom. Both men and women with physical symmetry have stronger immune systems. Finding true love (and a great romantic relationship) is connected to the symmetry of our bodies.
If you think finding the true love is all about fate, you may want to think twice! Your romantic built-in preferences may guide your love relationship more than you think.
How to Have Both Love and Money is a good article to read if you’ve had financial problems in relationships.
If you have any thoughts on these tips for finding true love, please comment below…I can’t give advice, but I welcome your input!
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