Saying “I love you” can be the hardest three words you ever utter, because they leave you vulnerable and open. Here are a few ways to express your love and keep yourself safe.
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Author AA Milne gave us a hint in Winnie the Pooh about improving your relationship: Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh!” he whispered. “Yes, Piglet?” “Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s paw. “I just wanted to be sure of you.” ~ A.A. Milne, from Winnie the Pooh.
Milne was a fantastic writer because he could pack a whole lot of punch into these five short sentences. He was referring to relationships, and our need to be sure of each other. Evidently it’s not just humans who need love and comfort – it’s piglets and honey bears, too!
How to Say “I Love You”
Take Milne’s love advice and stick with simple, practical ways to say “I love you.” Remember that the power of love can save your marriage.
Simply reach out
Piglet reached out to Pooh and took his hand because he wanted assurance of love, attention, and affection. Physically reaching out to your partner can take you out of your comfort zone and improve your relationships. Reaching out does make you vulnerable to rejection but it also brings you out from behind your walls. Simply hugging or kissing to say “I love you” can improve your relationship.
Don’t wait for your lover, sister, or mother to reach out to you. Improve your relationships by dropping your pride, being honest, and telling them what you need. Piglet just wanted to know Pooh was there – maybe you need a similar reassurance, or something deeper. It doesn’t matter; what matters is how you express your need when you’re focused on improving your relationships. Say “I love you” by making the first move.
Experiment with different ways to express your love
You need to try new things to find out what works when you’re thinking about improving your relationships. Maybe holding hands doesn’t do it for you, but a fifteen minute walk or telephone conversation might. If you’ve never taken a class or meditated with your partner to improve your relationship, maybe you should consider it as a way to say I love you!
If saying you love someone scares you, read How to Overcome Fear of Intimacy.
Say “I love you” daily
Improving your relationships involves discussions, ideas, new beginnings, old habits, sharing memories, making plans, spending time doing the mundane. Having a great relationship with anyone, even your brother or best friend or God, involves making a conscious choice every day.
Communicate verbally and nonverbally
Piglet talked to Pooh – if you think it’s hard to talk to your lover, try being a pig and talking to your best honey bear friend! Piglet called Pooh by name, and verbally shared his reason for reaching out. Improving your relationships requires good communication.
Keeping any relationship fresh and lively can be difficult – but improving your relationships can be as simple as sidling up and saying, “I just wanted to be sure of you.” That’s just another way to say I love you.
Is your love healthy? Read How to Love a Man Without Losing Yourself.
I welcome your thoughts on how to say I love you, but I can’t offer advice or relationship help.
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