Is your heart broken, your spirit shattered? These tips for healing a broken heart will help you move from heartbreak and pain to peace and freedom.
Letting go of someone you love is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do…and maybe one of the healthiest things you’ll ever do! If you’re struggling to overcome heartbreak, read How to Heal a Broken Heart in 30 Days: A Day-by-Day Guide to Saying Good-bye and Getting On With Your Life.
These eight ways to move on with your life when your heart is broken are inspired by a reader’s comment on A Simple Cure – How to Get Over a Broken Heart. In that article, I share the 20 most frequently asked questions (FAQ) from readers about how to get over a broken heart. You’ll see yourself there – and you may find the cure you need in these stories and insights. In the meantime, here are a few ideas for healing a broken heart…
“Giving up doesn’t always mean you are weak; sometimes it means you are strong enough to let go.” ~ Author Unknown.
How to Heal a Broken Heart
Get into breakup survival mode with these tips – and move on with your life!
1. Talk about your feelings
If you’re heartbroken, you need share your feelings — but don’t obsess, whine endlessly, or get mired in the past. Talk about your loss, but have a purpose. Figure out your role in the love relationship. Sort out your feelings, and learn how to create a better relationship next time. To heal a broken heart, you need to work through your feelings of loss, disappointment, pain, anger, or frustration.
If you tend to obsessive thinking, read How to Stop Thinking About Your Ex and Get On With Your Life.
2. Trust time – it’s a cliche’d way to heal a broken heart, but it’s true!
Even though it feels like your heart is broken into a million pieces right now, know that one day you will breathe easier and laugh again. Time is a great healer…it may not your erase pain forever, but it can help you heal a broken heart.
You will heal. You will feel happy, healthy, and whole again! You’ll step into a new season, and you will Blossom into the woman God created you to be. But first, you have to heal. Know that even your most difficult losses, heartbreaks, setbacks, and disappointments are part of who you are. They make you whole in a weird way. Your heartbreaks and breakups actually make you stronger, more resilient, and more you.
3. Accept that your breakup will always be part of you
In life there are always some things we never get over. And we may never heal our broken hearts completely — but we can still live full, rewarding lives! It’s important to put the past behind you and move on; this includes accepting that your losses, heartbreaks, setbacks, and disappointments are part of who you. One day you will breathe easier and laugh again. Time will bring distance and healing. You’ll always remember this breakup, but you won’t always feel the bitter pain of a broken heart.
4. Pursue something new in your life
Start a new chapter in your social, professional, personal, or spiritual life. These are great ways to heal a broken heart: volunteer, take a solo vacation, join a new gym, take a night class, join a support group, check out a new social club, quit your job, find ways to take risks every day. Branching out in new directions after the breakup will help you heal and get strong.
For more tips, read 7 Ways to Pick Up the Pieces of Your Broken Heart.
5. Remember both the good and the bad parts of the relationship
When you’ve lost someone you love, it’s easy to focus on the great parts of the relationship and his personality. But, don’t forget the flaws! This is one of my favorite breakup tips because remembering both what you loved and what annoyed you will keep you grounded. And, being grounded will help you overcome heartbreak. Be objective and balanced when you think of the person you lost.
6. Know you’re not alone if you are heartbroken
We’ve all been there — even the strongest, happiest people had to heal from broken hearts and loss. Heartbreak feels like you can’t breathe, your life is over, you’ll never love again, and you’ll never laugh again. But letting go of someone you love is easier if you remember you’re not alone.
Stay connected with your good friends, or take this bookworm’s advice and read books like The Girls’ Guide to Surviving a Break Up.
7. Get professional help if your heart isn’t healing
Talking through your problems with an objective counselor, pastor, or psychologist can help you recognize the big picture, especially if you’re depressed or scared about your future. If you’re wondering what to do when after a breakup – and you feel lost and helpless- get help.
8. Accept the ups and downs of healing a broken heart
Sometimes you think you’ll never heal your broken heart; other times, you feel happy and good about your life! These ups and downs are normal and will even out over time, but you may always have some days that are worse than others. Birthdays, anniversaries, and holidays can be difficult even years after a breakup. Letting go of someone you love and overcoming heartbreak is a circular journey that takes time.
If you’re ready to heal your broken heart, you may find 7 Healthy Ways to Let Go of Someone You Love helpful.
My prayer for you is that you heal your broken heart and find ways to be happy again. May you renew your sense of peace, wonder, and joy at the goodness in the world.
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