These tips on how to stop anxiety disorders from ruining love relationships are inspired by a reader’s comment. He struggles with an anxiety disorder, and is learning how his feelings affect his relationships. He feels anxious and trapped, he likes to be by himself, and he always second-guesses his feelings about the woman he’s dating.
Anxious in Love: How to Manage Your Anxiety, Reduce Conflict, and Reconnect with Your Partner by Carolyn Daitch and Lissah Lorberbaum is a great resource for couples coping with anxiety issues. Both authors are experts on anxiety disorders, and can help you change the way you react to the normal triggers and stress that relationships bring.
I did a bit of internet research on anxiety disorders and love relationships, and found a study showing that self-medicating with alcohol or other drugs appears to be associated with an increased risk of substance use disorders and social phobia in patients with anxiety-related symptoms. That’s a super long way to say that if you use drugs or alcohol to cope with your relationship anxiety, you’re at risk for addiction. Please talk to a professional if you need drugs or alcohol to cope with your anxious feelings – get help as soon as possible.
Stop an Anxiety Disorder From Ruining Your Relationship
The more you learn about the effect of anxiety on your relationships, the better able you’ll be to cope with the consequences. Unfortunately, I can’t give you specific advice on how to stop anxiety from ruining your relationship because I’m not a therapist and I don’t know your situation. But, these tips might give you a few ideas on how to cope with anxiety in love.
First, here’s my reader’s comment on being anxious and in love:
“One of my problems is that I always feel trapped in a relationship. Most of the time I like to hang out by myself, I’m not a social person, so I don’t really feel like hanging out with others or going somewhere. But I’m obligated to if I’m dating. This causes me to start seeing more bad than good and start immediately feeling like I don’t like them as much as I thought. Then I feel trapped and stress out and want to end it. I’m shy, don’t have much dating experience, and have an anxiety disorder which I do take medicine for. I just don’t know how to have a relationship without stressing myself out. What can I do? I’m starting to wonder if I’m able to fall in love at all.”
If you boyfriend has been diagnosed with an anxiety disorder and it’s affecting your relationship, read How to Help Your Boyfriend Cope With Anxiety and Panic Attacks.
How does your anxiety disorder affect your relationship?
Maybe you tend to pull away because you feel trapped and stressed. Or, maybe you’re emotionally suffocating your partner because you’re overwhelmed with fear about his whereabouts. Perhaps you’re jealous or insecure. It’s important to become aware of how your anxiety disorder affects your relationship, so you can move towards healing and freedom.
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Be honest with your partner about your anxiety
Your relationship has potential to grow despite your anxiety disorder – if you’re honest about how your anxious feelings affect you. If your anxiety makes you feel trapped, like my reader describes, then it might help to talk about this with your partner.
Accept that all relationships bring stress
My reader said he doesn’t know how to have a relationship without stressing himself out…he may not yet realize that all relationships cause anxiety and stress! No matter how well-adjusted and emotionally healthy we are, no matter how happy our partner makes us…there is always some measure of anxiety in relationships. We may not be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder, but our relationships are affected by the everyday things that cause major stress and minor frustrations.
Learn what calms your anxiety – and include your partner in that activity
Do you feel calm when you garden, walk your dog, take bubble baths, or listen to classical music? Include your partner when you pursue activities that make you feel relaxed and happy. Learn to associate your partner with feelings of peace, joy, and serenity.
Try not to see your partner as a source of anxiety or stress. Instead, learn how to manage your anxiety disorder by calming your relationship.
Get outside help for your anxiety disorder and relationship
Talk to a psychologist about how your anxiety disorder is affecting your love relationship. Maybe anti-anxiety medication is all you need, or maybe you need weekly or monthly sit-down “talk therapy” sessions. Maybe you’d benefit from joining an anxiety support group, or maybe there’s even a support group in your area that helps people diagnosed with anxiety disorders have healthy love relationships. Below is an anti-anxiety supplement that can help reduce anxious feelings, and possibly help you save your relationship!
A prayer on how to stop anxiety from ruining your relationship
Our Father, You are the author of peace, freedom, love, and joy. You hold the key to release from anxious feelings – whether that key is spiritual connection, medication, therapy, books, or support groups. You know what we need to cope with anxiety disorders in our relationships. and You will guide us if we turn ourselves over to you. May You walk with us, support us, and give us strength as we move forward.
An Anti-Anxiety Resource
When researching anxiety disorders and love relationships, I found the ZenRx Dietary Supplement. It’s available on Amazon – it reduces symptoms of anxiety, stress, depression, and panic attacks. This anti-anxiety supplement can also boost your mood, increase relaxation, and beat your anxiety. I don’t know anything about it – other than what I’ve read on Amazon – but I am familiar with the primary ingredients. I’ve written about Kava kava, 5-htp, Theanine, and Gaba in my health articles for alive magazine.
If you haven’t tried a natural anti-anxiety supplement, make sure you check with your doctor first – especially if you’re taking prescription medications for your anxiety disorder. Your health is precious; don’t mess with it!
I welcome your thoughts on how to stop anxiety from ruining your relationship below! I can’t offer advice, but sometimes writing about your fears, insecurities, and anxieties can bring freedom and peace.