What is Love

How to know what love is, on quips and tips for love and relationships.


How to Know if You Can Trust Someone in a New Relationship

A new relationship is both scary and exciting, risky and rewarding! It’s even better when you trust your new partner. These tips on how to know if you can trust a new boyfriend are inspired by a reader who says… In Daring to Trust: Opening Ourselves to Real Love and Intimacy, David Richo says we […]

How to Build Trust With Your Boyfriend

How to Love an Emotionally Unavailable Man 

How to Love an Emotionally Unavailable Man 

You’re in a relationship with an emotionally unavailable man, and you love him too much to leave. Writing hundreds of relationship articles – and reading thousands of comments – has shown me that you’re not alone! In this article, you’ll find 10 tips on how to love a man who isn’t available emotionally or spiritually. But […]


How to Know if a Man is Emotionally Available for Love

These signs of emotionally unavailable men will help you see him – and your relationship – more clearly. Also, here are the reasons women fall in love with men whose hearts aren’t available. The more you know yourself, the healthier your relationships will be. “A confusing part of being attracted to unavailable, commitment-phobic people is […]

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How to Increase Emotional Intimacy in Your Relationship

If you feel lonely in your relationship, you’ll be inspired by these tips on how to increase emotional intimacy. The fear of being emotionally intimate is natural because it involves vulnerability and risk. On my article about overcoming fear of intimacy, a reader shared her experience and asked for help… “I need to know more […]


8 Signs of the Perfect Boyfriend for You

The perfect man doesn’t exist, but you can find the perfect boyfriend for you. This doesn’t mean he’s flawless. Your boyfriend will make mistakes, disappoint you, and even hurt you occasionally. All relationships – even the best, healthiest ones – go through ups and downs. All boyfriends – even the ones who seem perfect – […]

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10 Time-Tested Ways to Know if You Love Someone

When you ask “Do I love him?”, you need signs that will stand the test of time. Here’s how to know if you love someone and what you need to know about love. These tips are from relationship experts, divorce attorneys (they know a surprising amount about love!), and scientific research. The least helpful advice […]


How to Be Happy Even in an Unhealthy Relationship

Here’s my dirty little secret: I write more about breaking up than fixing unhealthy relationships. So, this week’s series is on how to be happy even if you’re in a relationship that isn’t healthy. One of the most important things I’ve learned from my readers is that not all relationships – not even the unhealthiest, […]

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How to Make a Vision Board Relationship

How to Make a Vision Board for Your Relationship

Creating a vision board for “your life” isn’t specific enough. Here, we focus on how to make a vision board for your relationship to help you get a clear idea of who and what you want in a partner. “Your vision board itself doesn’t impact reality; what changes your life is the process of creating […]


How to Stop Loving Someone

The truth is that you can’t teach yourself how to stop loving someone. But, you can learn ways to cope with the loss of someone you love. Here’s a brief explanation of why it’s hard to let go, plus a few ideas for releasing your grip on the past. When I wrote 75 Ways to Let […]

How to Stop Loving Someone

Should You Marry Him

Should You Marry Him? Sometimes the Answer is Obvious

This is one of the biggest decisions you’ll ever make: “Should I marry him?” Go slowly, and consider my reader’s story and my tips when you’re deciding if you should marry him. Read Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married by Gary Chapman. It’s packed with wisdom and tips that will help you develop […]


8 Ways to Know if You Love Him

A “Do I love him?” quiz can’t address your specific relationship questions. Here are the most important signs of compatibility, to help you recognize true love. Read Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He’ll Change if you: Find yourself attracted again and again to troubled, distant, moody men – and nice […]

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I Want to Get Married

When “I Want to Get Married” is All You Can Think

Are you consumed with yearning for marriage? Here’s help and what to do when you’re thinking “I want to get married more than anything in the world.” Did you know that your attitudes about marriage and the path to marriage are wrong? Some ideas you inherited, some you’ve simply bought from society, and some you’ve […]