“If I feel worse after being with someone,” says Lacy, “I wonder whether it’s a valuable way to spend my time. I should feel happier and lighter after a visit, not drained or depressed.”
Lacy and I were walking our dogs, talking about friends, dog poop, and the meaning of life.
Her philosophy is that she should at least feel the same after being with people. If her mood or energy level is decreased after a visit, then she questions the relationship.
Because, after all, how we spend our days is how we spend our lives.
Think about the last few conversations you’ve had with friends, coworkers, family members. How did you feel during and after?
Stick with people who make you feel good. Limit or eliminate your time with people who deflate you.
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It’s the same with your thoughts – you can weed out bad moods and replace them with blossoms. Think about things that make you feel good. This isn’t one of the 10 Commandments, but it is Biblical.
Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable,” says Paul in Philippians 4:8. “Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise.”
I often replay one of my favourite memories because it makes me laugh:
My dog Georgie and I were standing in the living room, wondering what to do next. Suddenly she farted loudly – but she didn’t know what the noise was or where it came from! She looked behind her to see what the heck was going on back there….and then she smelled it. Her noise started twitching, she lifted her head in the air. She shuddered. I could just hear her thinking, “What is that SMELL? Gross!”
That memory always makes me laugh when I think of it. So guess what? I think about it a lot.
Dwell on the memories that make you feel good. Hold close the people who inspire and energize you.
Let the rest go.
Off to Croatia!
We’re celebrating our 10th anniversary in Croatia, starting in a few days. We’ll be gone the rest of this month, so I won’t be sending Blossoms until next month.
Be well, my friends. Keep me in your prayers, and I’ll do the same. 🙂
Blessings and Blossoms,
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