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How to Stop Nurturing Dead Blossoms

Have you fallen into the trap of doing what’s easy, but useless? Maybe you have – or maybe you haven’t really thought about it. It’s time! I’ll show you mine if you show me yours.

how to stop nurturing dead blossomHere’s mine: I spend about an hour on Twitter every day, and I have more than 9,373 followers. I schedule Tweets, read Tweets, follow links, and follow Tweeps. Why? It’s a marketing tool; I want to build “brand awareness” and increase traffic to my Blossom blog.

Does it work? Nope. I get 5 visitors a week from Twitter. If I’m lucky.

But Pinterest, on the other hand…I only have 440 followers. Except for posting my images, I spend no time on Pinterest. I wave it away like a pesky mosquito.

And yet I more than 300 visitors a day from Pinterest. 300 clicks A DAY.

So what the heck am I doing? Why am I banging my head against the brick wall of Twitter? Because Twitter is easy. It requires no effort and no engagement. And I have somehow fallen into a “Twitter habit.”

I have fallen into the trap of doing what’s easy, but useless. Dead blossoms.

Here’s another one: I taught myself how to play the flute three years ago, and I practice almost every morning. I know that scales and arpeggios are crucial to my practice because they teach me about proper fingering, breathing, and timing.

Yet what do I play most often? The theme song From Mash, and The Candy Man. I love playing those songs, but they don’t stretch me. They’re fun, but o so easy. Again…no effort, no engagement. No growth.

What dead blossoms are you nurturing?

Twitter and The Candy Man are the dead blossoms I nurture almost every single day. I am wasting my time, which means I’m wasting my life.

Don’t be like me. Don’t fool yourself anymore. Your life is too precious to waste.

Maybe your “dead blossom” is a boring job, an unhealthy relationship, or a time-sucking preoccupation with Facebook. Or maybe it’s something you’re NOT doing, such as taking a painting class, joining a hiking group, or reading that book on finding your authentic self.

How to stop nurturing the useless

Two tips:

  1. Replace death with life. For me, this means getting rid of Hootsuite because it makes Twitter too tempting. Instead, I will visit Pinterest every time I get the urge to Tweet. Pinterest is a life-giving activity because it takes me closer to my purpose, which is to Blossom.
  2. Be accountable to someone who will follow up with you. For me, it’s my husband Bruce. Last night I “confessed” my Twitter time-suck, and from now on I will tell him how I’m blooming on Pinterest. Just knowing I have to tell him how I spent my social media time makes me want to pin, not tweet.

If it is important to you, you will find a way. If it’s not, you’ll find an excuse.

As always, I welcome your thoughts! I can’t offer advice, but I’m always happy to hear from you.

Blessings and Blossoms,


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