4 Keys to Healing Your Brokenness – Blossom Tip 54

Some of us are broken on the outside; all of us are broken or wounded on the inside. How do you heal your brokenness – especially after years of grief, pain and struggle? You’re broken on the inside, and you may believe you’ll never be healed.

As I write this, I’m broken on the outside. I broke my shoulder while running and had to get surgery the very next day. The surgeon would’ve operated that day but I didn’t have my phone turned on. I did, however, have time to write 15 Ways to Pass the Time While Waiting in the Emergency Room! May you never know the agony of a broken shoulder and orthopedic surgery. Thankfully it was my left arm; I am now typing with two hands and my right is doing the heavy lifting. My jaw is clenched and my spirit is unhappy. My left arm will have lots to say about this foolishness later. But I have to tell you something! Four somethings, in fact. Four keys to healing your broken bits, four tips for growing through pain and grief.

If you’d like to talk about your brokenness – whether it’s internal or external – feel free to write in the comments section below. I don’t give advice, but I’m a great listener! And the truth is that healing comes from within, from reflecting and writing. Even better if you take it to God, hold it to the light, and see what happens in your spirit. Maybe something, maybe nothing. But you never know how prayer works until you give it time to unfold and blossom.

How do you heal your brokenness?

Whether you’re broken internally or externally, you may find encouragement in these ideas for healing and blossoming. You’ll need to adapt them to suit your own situation, of course. You probably don’t have a broken bone, nor are you likely to be healing from orthopedic surgery! But hopefully my tips will help you see you’re not alone.

1. Cling not to the past

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Laurie – Blossoming Underneath!

My shoulder screams me awake several times during the night. I try to take enough Percocet to keep the pain away, but it’s fast and sneaky. I’m sleeping on the sofa these nights (and days) in a totally upright position. My dogs sleep with me, which is comforting…but still, I get lonely and sad.

The pain is worse when I think back to last week—when I was blissfully ignorant of femoral head fractures, shoulder joints, and how steel pins and plates put broken arms back together again. I want to weep when I remember how freely I stretched through yoga, wrote articles, jogged backwards up hills.

Those days are over and it doesn’t help to dwell there. I feel better when I cradle my broken arm, picture Jesus sitting at the foot of my sofa, and ask Him how they coped with broken limbs and painkillers back when He was a carpenter. The key to healing my brokenness is blossoming within the pain and confusion.

2. Remember that it’s not all about you

When I had my surgery last week, three people asked about Ruach! (You can see Ruach in last week’s She Blossoms newsletter, My Broken Arm and New Tattoo). I love talking about how Ruach is God’s life-giving energy, breath, wind and Holy Spirit. My new tattoo is a great way to start conversations and talk about Things That Matter.

I broke my arm and I’m in pain—but it’s not all about me. My husband canceled a work trip to Surinam to take care of me, which impacted his coworkers and boss. Our marriage has been strengthened through this. I had to postpone commitments and let go of responsibilities. God is using my broken arm in ways I know naught of. I was running while listening to a Tim Keller sermon about spiritual warfare, satan, and the Holocaust when I tripped and slammed my shoulder into the pavement. I may never realize the spiritual dynamics that were and are still swirling. My pain isn’t all about me.

We aren’t alone, you and I. We’re part of a bigger story.

3. Plant seeds of joy today

I’ve been waiting for a Bad Thing to happen for at least two years. Life has been too good—my relationship with Jesus has been growing stronger and deeper, I’m less and less attached to what people think, and I’m more joyful and peaceful than I ever believed possible. I haven’t been living in dread, fear or worry…but I have been wondering what Bad Thing I’d have to grow through next. A family crisis, perhaps, or a car accident. Job loss, cancer diagnosis, house fire, dog death, bankruptcy…Bad Things happen all the time. I was curious when my time would come, and what Bad Thing I’d have to walk through with God.

I never imagined I’d fall while running, break my shoulder, and require orthopedic surgery from a doctor who snowboards every on Whistler! I envisioned plane crashes because I travel a lot, food-borne illnesses because I don’t buy organic groceries, and car accidents because I’ve been driving for 25 years without a single dent.

My broken arm taught me that the Bad Thing itself isn’t the problem. Bad Things happen all the time; some people recover with joy and peace. Other people get stuck in grief and misery. The secret to bouncing back quickly – and healing from brokenness – is preparing when you’re strong. Take time today to grow deeper and stronger in God’s love, Jesus’ peace, and the Holy Spirit’s wisdom. This will make it easier to recover from anything in life. If your faith is shallow and lukewarm, a paper cut or traffic jam will disrupt or even enrage you.

4. Picture Jesus at the foot of your bed

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Healing Your Brokenness

One last tip before I toddle off to my sofa and Percocet-soaked dreamland: have a good time with God! Our Father is creative, spirited, joyful, colorful, eccentric, mysterious and unpredictable. Have fun in your relationship with Him—don’t just make your prayers a list of things you want Him to do for you.

Get to know Jesus for who He is. Picture Him sitting at the foot of your bed or beside you in the car. Ask Him questions. Tell Him what you’re going through and why you’re happy, sad, bored, scared, or miserable.

Our Lord created cute koalas, magnificent lions, vast universes, vibrant flowers and beautiful music. Wink at Him—blow Jesus a kiss—every time you see something interesting, funny, titillating or weird! He created people, places, pets and possessions for you to enjoy with Him. Don’t leave Him at home when you’re out having fun.

Bring God into your experiences…and He will bring you through yours.

My third idea for healing your brokenness was to find joy. Here’s an article that may help – even if you haven’t been traveling: How to Find Your Happy Place When You’re Depressed After a Vacation.

With His love,



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4 thoughts on “4 Keys to Healing Your Brokenness – Blossom Tip 54”

  1. The thing that all of us widows are having such a hard time with is, if we were to have a very bad injury now, our husbands won’t have to help us or cancel anything, that support is gone. It is very hard to accept that our life partners are gone from this life forever. Everything that happens to us now we go through without them.

    1. Thank you for your thoughts, Kay – it’s good to hear from you. I’m so sorry you lost your husband. I can’t imagine how difficult it must be, and how lonely your home is now. Husbands really are such a strong support and companionship…and learning to live without them isn’t easy.

      I hope you signed up for my She Blossoms newsletter! I know my encouragement could never take the place of your husband, but I hope my weekly emails give you a different type of inspiration and love. Here’s the link, just in case: http://eepurl.com/ca2mJr

      With the love of Jesus,

  2. I have had a broken shoulder, but no surgery. The pain does get better after the first two weeks. I slept in a recliner with a throw pillow under my arm. I learned to sleep upright, lol!
    Physical therapy is painful too, but in a different way. Just remember, during therapy pain is good. Sounds odd, but you have to work through the pain of not being able to use your arm.
    Praying for restful sleep for you.

    1. Thank you for your encouragement and prayers, Brenda! Today is exactly 2 weeks since I broke my arm and had shoulder surgery. The pain has lessened quite a bit and I’m sleeping better. But I do look forward to the day that I can sleep lying down instead of sitting upright!

      I’m not looking forward to physical therapy… but I do want to use my arm again. It looks like physical therapy is my next stop, like it or not :-)