A few weeks ago — in Which Do You Prefer? Blossom Tip 14 — I asked you to vote on three possible titles for my upcoming book:
- How to Move Forward When Your Heart Keeps Looking Back
- When Time Doesn’t Heal: Creating a New Beginning From Your Ending
- Blossom: Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back
The majority of you voted for the first title. The editor at my publishing house (Baker Publishing) decided on the third: Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts; I loved hearing from you. If you didn’t get the chance to vote, stay tuned. My next “book title competition” is coming soon. In the meantime, I’m finishing my Growing Forward manuscript and will submit it to the publisher next week. Woo hoo! And our first “She Blossoms” book will be published in January, 2019.
Thank you so much for being part of this She Blossoms blog! You made this book possible — and your presence matters more than you know.
A Blossom Tip for You
I get up at 4 a.m. every morning; recently, I noticed one of my secrets for getting out of bed before the roosters pry open their eyes (much less start cock-a-doodle-dooing!). My secret isn’t an alarm clock, strong hot coffee, or a wee doggy who has to be let out to piddle.
My secret is to face outwards, to literally turn my body in the direction I want to go.
This is small yet surprisingly powerful: often I wake up before it’s time to get up, and I’ll roll over so I’m facing the edge of the bed. This simple change of direction helps me get out of bed at 4 a.m.. You would not believe how effective this is. When I’m facing inward, toward my husband, the simple act of turning over so I can get out of bed is an actual barrier. It’s an extra step that literally makes it harder to get up.
My friend, never underestimate the power of a tiny, seemingly inconsequential step. Those small barriers add up to big obstacles.
What is a small step you can take, to make a new habit or goal slightly easier to reach? Do not underestimate the power of something as little as facing the opposite direction.
A Birthday Question
I’m turning 48 years old next week! Give me a gift, and tell me how you spent your last birthday. What’d you do, where’d you go, and how’d you get there?
Or, tell me a story of the funnest, most memorable birthday you’ve had.
Or, share your plans for your next birthday! A Caribbean cruise, or home alone? At your favorite sushi restaurant with family, or winter camping with friends?
Birthdays On “She Blossoms” This Week
I decided to go with a birthday theme, and write for readers who aren’t having the happiest birthdays this year.
How to Have a Happy Birthday After Your Relationship Falls Apart – You may not be celebrating a happy birthday this year, but my tips for blossoming after a breakup will help. Whether your relationship recently ended or fell apart years ago, your birthday won’t be as bright or cheerful as it was when you were together…but it can still be good.
5 Tips for Surviving a Birthday When You Aren’t Happy – Written for a reader who commented:
“I’m turning 40 and experiencing my first birthday as a widow,” says Melanie on 12 Creative Ways to Celebrate and Honor Your 40th Birthday. “Grieving on your birthday changes everything. I feel undesirable, sad and lonely. My husband and I were married for 22 years and we celebrated his 40th birthday with a cruise to the Bahamas, five years ago. I am feeling so much sadness but he’s been gone for almost 10 months and it is better now. His absence is palpable but I’m also feeling a sense of accomplishment. I’m still here, and my life isn’t over yet! I know he’d want me to raise a glass to his life. My pieces are slowly coming together and I know I’ll survive this birthday. Thank you for letting me share!”
Whether it’s your birthday or an ordinary day, may you be surprised by bursts of sunshine, joy and peace around unexpected corners of your life.
Laurie & Blossy
Laurie's "She Blossoms" Books
Growing Forward When You Can't Go Back offers hope, encouragement, and strength for women walking through loss. My Blossom Tips are fresh and practical - they stem from my own experiences with a schizophrenic mother, foster homes, a devastating family estrangement, and infertility.
How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets (and Practical Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is filled with comforting and healthy breakup advice. The Blossom Tips will help you loosen unhealthy attachments to the past, seal your heart with peace, and move forward with joy.
When You Miss Him Like Crazy: 25 Lessons to Move You From Broken to Blossoming After a Breakup will help you refocus your life, re-create yourself, and start living fully again! Your spirit will rise and you'll blossom into who you were created to be.