The Ghosts That Haunt You – Blossom Tip 8

Halloween isn’t celebrated in Israel, so I missed the “Trick or Treaters” and cute costumes this October! What I didn’t miss, however, were the ghosts, ghouls and grim goblins that seem to be getting darker and scarier every year. Or maybe I’m just getting old :-)

But I did get an interesting little Halloween message this morning. While running through my dark neighborhood, I saw a white ghost swaying in the wind on someone’s front porch – a Halloween leftover. I was listening to a Tim Keller podcast on forgiveness – and he actually used ghosts to illustrate how we get stuck in the past. Coincidence? I think not! He was talking about forgiveness; how not forgiving others – or ourselves – for past regrets, mistakes, and bad choices is like being haunted by a ghost.


Ghosts are stuck in the past

According to legend, ghosts not only live in the past – they relive it over and over. They’re stuck in a place where something happened or was done to them. Ghosts can’t get over that event; maybe it was a heartbreaking discovery, a sad disappointment, or even a life-destroying blow. Maybe they did something they regret.

Ghosts are completely controlled by the past. They’re haunted. They can’t move on. Ghosts can be bitter, sorrowful, or just trapped by their own misery or self-blame.


Are you allowing yourself to be haunted?

Ghosts That Haunt YouI used to be haunted by things I said or did — or things I wish I’d said or done. I’d haunt myself by reliving my worst moments, my biggest mistakes, my saddest regrets. I revisited conversations I wish I’d never been part of, actions I should’ve left undone.

But not anymore! Now, I focus on Blossoming on who God created me to be. When those ghosts rise out of the darkness, I switch my thoughts to ideas that inspire joy, light, life, love, and freedom.

It gets easier all the time to switch tracks. I decided long ago to stop haunting myself, to ignore the shadows of the past. I’m a new me, created to glorify God and point to Jesus. Instead of allowing myself to be tormented by the past, I listen for the still small voice of the Holy Spirit….and I ignore everything that holds me back.


Choose life, light, and love

I won’t ask you what ghosts haunt you. Why dwell in the past? Instead, tell me what you’ll focus on instead, when those shadows creep up and threaten to overwhelm you.

Examples of what to think about when the past haunts you:

  • A beautiful image that inspires or encourages you
  • A song that lifts your spirits
  • A friend or loved one who fills your heart
  • A pet who brightens your day
  • A memory that makes you feel joyful
  • A dream you’re nurturing or working towards
  • A blessing or gift you’re grateful for
  • A Scripture verse or quote that strengthens you
  • Jesus


What will you choose, my friend? How will you step aside to let the ghosts float by so you can move towards the light, love, and joyful peace that only God can give?

Don’t let those silly old ghosts haunt you anymore. Their time has come and gone.

Now is the season to Blossom into who God is creating you to be. For if not now, when?

In peace and passion,

– Laurie


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3 thoughts on “The Ghosts That Haunt You – Blossom Tip 8”

  1. I’ve been seeing a married man for over 7 years now. I know he is just using me for sex when he gets tired of sex with his wife. What should I do. Please help. I feel so low and dirty plus I feel stupid for letting him use me for all this time

    1. I was with a man where the relationship was toxic.He wasn’t married but that isn’t the point. I stuck it out for 2 years thinking I could make it work. I couldn’t and realized I had to deeply turn to God for my comfort in a relationship before I could feel right about myself or any human relationship. Plus I offered several things to him that could really help us but he’d have no part in that so I had to also give HIM over to God. I’ll never forget what one of my sons said to me.”you have to just rip off the bandage.” It’ll hurt for a while but trust and there will be healing all around.

    2. I think you know that this relationship is not doing you any good.

      You need to get more in control of your life concerning this.

      Have you thought of giving him an ultimatum e.g. leaving his wife within 6 months? if he is sincere about you he will do this. If he does not do this, do you really want to spend the rest of your life in this situation when you could be with somebody who can give you more? Or even enjoying life on your own.

      Don’t dwell on the waste of investment of the last 7 years. Live in the present but look to the future.