Even the most talented, creative, brilliant writers won’t go far unless they know how to overcome the discouragement of getting rejection after rejection! Talent and creativity isn’t nearly as important as stick-to-it-iveness.
Here’s what one poet recently said:
“Lately, I’ve been struggling with writer’s block with my poetry,” says M. on my Ask a Question About Writing page. “It’s not that I can’t think of any ideas – it’s more my lack of confidence that’s getting in the way. I have the urge to write, but when I sit down to do it, I just feel defeated and stop after I’ve written a few words. I’ve been fortunate enough to get a few poems of mine published in some online literary journals, but for the past year, it’s been nothing but rejections. I know rejection and envy are familiar to an aspiring writer, but I’m wondering how to get past this discouragement. I’ve been writing and in love with writing since I was in elementary school, but lately I feel like I’m not skilled or talented enough. And yet, part of me doesn’t want to give up. Any advice/suggestions would be greatly appreciated.”
The following tips for overcoming discouragement and constant rejection are from my ebook, 73 Ways to Fire Up (or Just Fire) the Muse. It contains tips from successful freelancers, published authors, journalism professors, and novelists — it’ll give you more motivation to write than you know what to do with!
5 Tips for Overcoming Discouragement and Rejection for Writers
“Fear is one of the biggest threats to success,” says Lucy Adams, author of If Mama Don’t Laugh, It Ain’t Funny. “Sometimes I’m gripped with the thought that the article I’ve written isn’t good enough, or the column I’ve composed is trite and clichéd, or the book manuscript I want to submit will prove I’m a phony. It hurts to be rejected, to be told what I’ve created isn’t good enough. That fear can hold a writer back.”
But wait! There’s more:
“Pretty much every book on writing that I’ve ever read talks about fear,” says writer Kevin Hoffman. “Apparently writers are a pretty scared bunch – we’re scared of failure, scared of success, scared of criticism, rejection. And the writers who truly care about their work are scared of exposing that soft underbelly, the chink in their armor that gets attached to everything they write. Allowing their work to be seen by others makes them vulnerable. Unfortunately, writers can’t medicate fear. It’s always there. All they can do is choose how to react to fear.”
How do you overcome your fears? Adams tells herself that there is “no shame in failure, but there is a lot of shame in never trying.”
You don’t want to look back on your life and see how scared you were. You want to look back and be proud that you tried…no matter what the result.
See past your excuses to your real fears
Kelly Robbins, founder of The Copywriting Institute, thinks writers need to look at their fears directly. “Recognize them for what they are, and be honest with yourself about why you’re not moving forward with your writing goals,” she says. “This can be difficult because we give excuses rather than facing our fears.”
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Robbins suggests finishing this sentence: “My fear of succeeding in this writing project is…..” It may help you see the real reasons behind your procrastination. Sometimes when you look into the jaws of the beast, you see it’s toothless.
Pretend you’re not scared
Ready for a quick, easy tip for overcoming discouragement and rejection for writers? Ask yourself this:
“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” asks Hoffman. “Act like you’re not afraid, and do it.”
He says this simple advice has been crucial in his ability to overcome the fear of the blank page, as well as the dozen other neuroses that plague him. “It’s taken me years to get good at it, but it’s the best tool in the box,” he says. “The mere act of doing usually makes the fear recede in just a few minutes.” Pretend, just for a moment, that rejection or failure isn’t the end of life as you know it.
Stop indulging your fears, discouragements, rejections, dashed dreams
“We writers tend to indulge ourselves; we’re quick to acknowledge each distraction or tiny pain or depressed mood,” says author and freelance writer Randi Minetor. “Much as we’re driven to write, we feel we must be in the mood – as if the clouds should part, the sun should shine and every possible interruption should be silenced.”
Minetor offers this writing advice from a freshman professor at the University of Buffalo: “None of that matters. Write anyway. Don’t think about how you feel or if it’s a perfect time to write or that you have a thousand other things to do. Write anyway. You have nothing to share and nothing to sell if there are no words on the page.”
Remember that rejection isn’t necessarily about you or your writing
“You have to be totally dedicated to your writing,” says writer Leigh Court. “Forget about rejections – they’re a mandatory part of any career. A writer writes. If you feel you’ll keep writing even if you never get published, then you’re a real writer!”
Writing is a business, my friends. A fantastic nonfiction book or novel idea can be unsuitable for a literary agent’s list. A magazine editor could love your article pitch, and put it aside for a future issue and then forget all about it. A book publisher may be enchanted by your book proposal, but not have enough money, time, or resources to publish more than the scheduled book list. There are a gazillion reasons for a rejection from the publishing world – and few that reflect on your ability as a freelancer.
Set up an automatic system for submitting your articles, poetry, manuscripts
“Fear of failure can stop people from submitting their work,” says Francine L. Trevens, dance writer for Art Times Journal and the author of two poetry books. “I used to make a list of about 10 places to send each thing I wrote. The minute it was rejected, I sent it to the next publication on the list. I did this with six or seven stories at once, or dozens of poems, and I found it easier than mulling over where it should go next after I felt rejected when it was returned.”
This automatic system shifts your focus from how you feel to what you can do.
For more tips on overcoming discouragement and rejection for writers, read How to Increase Writing Confidence – Grow the Skin of a Rhino.
If you’re a poet, read Selling Poetry? 5 Ways to Market Your Book of Poems by Cherie Burbach. It’ll inspire you to keep writing!
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What do you think, fellow scribes? How do you keep writing despite fear, doubt, and self-criticism?