Skip to content
The Writer's Life > Inspiration & Creativity > 3 Tips for Fearful Bloggers (and How I Started My Blogs)

3 Tips for Fearful Bloggers (and How I Started My Blogs)

You want to start a blog, but you’re struggling with fear of failure. I get it! Fear is a big obstacle – especially if you haven’t defined what “failure” and “success” means to you. It’s important not to let your blog – or what people think, say or do – become your identity.

I’ve earned a full-time living as a blogger for over ten years. One thing I know for sure is that being curious about the process is more important than chasing some vague idea of success.

For example, I took a year off blogging to write a novel called Almost Sage. That itself is a huge success for me! I don’t mind if it never gets published. I created characters, structured a plot, and told a story. I’m querying Canadian publishers and literary agents, but I honestly don’t mind what happens next.

3 Steps to Overcome Fear of Blogging

  1. Know what success and failure mean to you.
  2. Be curious about the process – and your own personality, ideas, work habits!
  3. Learn how bloggers blog, but focus on practice.

The best way to be a blogger is to simply start blogging! Your blogs are not “you.” If you can separate from your writing – and other people’s opinions – you will blog like a pro.

My 4 Steps to Professional Blogging

I created a series of Quips and Tips blogs – now called She Blossoms – over a decade ago. They’re my passion and my primary source of income (one year I made over $100,000). Now I earn over $40,000 without doing anything but approving comments and occasionally tweaking old blog posts.

The only reason I lasted so long as a blogger is because I love blogging. I also took a couple of year-long sabbaticals. I got my Master of Social Work at UBC, and wrote Almost Sage. But I keep returning to my She Blossoms blogs because there’s no place I’d rather be.

If you’re afraid to blog, it helps to identify what you love doing. Your passion and curiosity will help you overcome fear.

1. I learned how to write for the web

I started by writing for Suite101 way back in 2008. I wanted to be a freelance writer, but felt stuck because I lived on Bowen Island in BC. I wasn’t stuck for ideas or motivation; I was literally landlocked! I didn’t think I could be a traditional freelance writer if I couldn’t commute easily to Vancouver, so I tried online writing.

Learning how to be an online writer for Suite was my first step towards becoming a blogger. What pushed me over the edge was finding a “lifestyle blog” – I don’t remember what it was called – and realizing the blogger was earning 100% of the Google Adsense profits. At Suite, I was earning 30% or something really low.

2. I discovered my passion for working alone

I love being alone and working in solitude all day. In Best Jobs for Introverts and Quiet People, I list “learn how to become a blogger” as one of the best things people with introverted personality traits can do. If they like writing, of course.

Not only do I love working alone all day, I’m also self-disciplined and self-motivated. I actually work all day – I don’t get distracted by Facebook, food, TV, housework, my dogs, or even my husband. If you want to be a blogger or writer, you need to stay focused.

3. I was willing to make mistakes

I didn’t have a blogging “mentor” or teacher. I read ProBlogger sometimes, but I really just learned how to blog by blogging. I didn’t build a community or even try to find followers, even though I know that’s the best advice on how to become a successful blogger. I just want to write. I don’t want to gather a following.

A newsletter? I just started my weekly updates a couple months ago, so I guess I’m finally “building an email list” – but I definitely don’t see it that way.

4. I realized the LONG-term benefits of blogging

It didn’t take me years to make money blogging. I earned money the first week because I always focused on helping readers find solutions. I wrote tips-based articles to help people cope with practical problems. I had no idea how long these blog posts would last, and that every one of my thousands of blog posts contributes to my income in big and little ways!

Now, I love tweaking my blog posts from before 2010. It’s so cool to read articles that I wrote seven or more years ago. I also love when readers comment on old posts. It’s not like writing for magazines, where the articles are fresh for a month then fade into the ether.

If you’re thinking of becoming a blogger, go in for the long haul. Don’t expect to make money the first month (though it’s definitely possible). And – most importantly – don’t let your blog or what people think become your identity.

A few tips for tentative bloggers…

Start a blog that represents who you are and what you’re both passionate and curious about.

If you want to be a blogger for a long time, don’t start a blog that represents just one stage of your life. For instance, I started Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility when I found out we couldn’t have kids. I was actively blogging on that topic for about a year, then quickly lost interest.

how to become a blogger
How I Became a Blogger – Laurie’s Story

In 10 Tips to Help You Start Your First Online Magazine, I share the most important tips I know on starting an ezine.

Writing online – then starting my first blog – was a huge leap of faith for me. I was working part-time at an office job I didn’t enjoy, and I desperately wanted my blogs to support me financially. I didn’t include God in my blogging process, though. I wasn’t close to God back when I started learning how to become a blogger.

If you have any questions on how to become a blogger, please ask below. Better yet, share your blog links and stories.


Need encouragement? Get my weekly update!


Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

8 thoughts on “3 Tips for Fearful Bloggers (and How I Started My Blogs)”

  1. I’ve been blogging for years, without much financial success. I know it does not help (at all) that I have changed everything, moved to different domains, different software, etc. I think it is important to have some consistency, like being in the same place/ web address. My main link is now But, I have several domains, four active. I also wrote for Suite101 several years. I even became an editor for others there. I’m still sorry to have the whole thing gone. It didn’t pay much, not anything really, but it was experience, gave me goals and discipline as a writer. It was a good thing.

  2. You wanted to be a freelance writer, but felt stuck because you lived on Bowen Island in BC. I wasn’t stuck for ideas.Really your whole story is inspire able.If a person follow you he/she will be success in their life and will be a good writer.

  3. Wow! I really love to read your blog, Laurie. How you became a blogger is inspiring. I’m looking forward for your success.