If you’re asking “Why can’t I have a baby?”, you need to read these reasons for problems conceiving a baby. They include irregular menstrual cycles, low sperm count, and prescription medications.
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According to the American Society for Reproductive Medicine, infertility is the result of a disease (an interruption, cessation, or disorder of body functions, systems, or organs) of the male or female reproductive tract which prevents the conception of a child or the ability to carry a pregnancy to delivery. A couple should be trying to conceive for about 12 months before they take an infertility evaluation – unless medical history, age, or physical findings dictate earlier evaluation and treatment.
The following reasons for problems conceiving are related to health issues, medical history, and age….
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Remember that this list of problems couples can’t conceive isn’t exhaustive. That is, there are other reasons that are stopping you from getting pregnant. How do you find out what they are? You need to talk to a doctor in person, and get a full medical workup. Both you and your partner need to do this.
1. Age – for Both Men and Women Trying to Conceive a Baby
If you’re older than age 35, you may find yourself asking “Why can’t I have a baby?” more often than if you’re 24! Both male and female fertility rates decrease with age – though of course there are always women who get pregnant after age 40. It’s just less likely, and a little more risky. At age 30, the average woman’s chance of conceiving during any one cycle is 20%. By age 40, her chance of getting pregnant drops to 5%.
If you’re over age 35 and you want to have a baby, talk to your doctor – especially if you’ve been trying to conceive for six months.
2. Irregular Menstrual Cycles and/or Problems With Ovulation
If your period isn’t regular, you may have trouble getting pregnant. If your menstrual cycles aren’t 28 days long (less than 24 days, or more than 35 days), or if they’re unpredictable, then you should speak with your doctor. An irregular cycle may be a sign of possible ovulation problems.
Watching for your natural signs of ovulation can help you get pregnant because they reveal the most fertile time of the month. Yes, you can get pregnant at other times during your cycle (we all know women who have!), but your chances of pregnancy are increased if you focus on certain times of the month.
3. Period Problems – Excessive or Light Bleeding
If your period lasts for 3 to 7 days, you’re considered normal. But if your menstruation is very light, or very heavy and intense, then you might have ovarian cysts or other health issues that can affect your ability to have a baby. Your period can offer hints to the reasons you’re having problems conceiving: if your bleeding changes significantly in heaviness or coloring, or length of bleeding time, or if you suffer from severe menstrual cramps, you may have fertility problems.
4. Chronic Illness or Prescription Medications
Chronic illnesses and their related prescription medication treatments can lead to the whole “Why can’t I have a baby?” question. According to The American Fertility Association, illnesses like diabetes and hypothyroidism can cause fertility problems or problems conceiving a baby.
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Insulin, antidepressants, and thyroid hormones may lead to irregular cycles. Tagamet (cimetidine), a medication used in the treatment of peptic ulcers, and some hypertension medications can cause male factor infertility, including problems with sperm production or their ability to fertilize the egg. If you are dealing with chronic illness, or taking a medication that impacts your fertility, talk to your doctor about ways to stay healthy and have a baby!
These are just a few reasons men and women have problems conceiving a baby. There are others — such as low or no sperm count, endometriosis, unhealthy lifestyles, and being over or underweight.
If you’re struggling with the “Why can’t I have a baby?” question, you may find Fertility Help – 10 Tips for Fertility and Getting Pregnant helpful.
And if you have any thoughts on conceiving a baby, please comment below…I can’t offer advice, but you may find it helpful to share your thoughts.
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