When You Want a Baby But Your Body Isn’t Cooperating

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When you want a baby, you need to stay hopeful!

Here are a few tips for getting pregnant when your body isn’t cooperating.

The worst thing about my Quips and Tips fertility blog is hearing from readers who desperately want a baby, but their bodies have a mind of their own!

Here’s an example of what readers often say:




“I’ve been married 1½  years, but I have no child. My husband has a low sperm count, and he smokes. Please give me advice, I’m worried about this problem. Please help me.”

My heart goes out to couples who want babies but can’t make them. After all, my husband and I are in the same boat – so I know how sad, frustrating, and difficult it is.

When you want a baby, the first thing you should do is read books like Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy. It’s an excellent resource for conception, pregnancy, and labor/delivery.

And, here are a few more tips for starting your family.

You Want a Baby But Your Body Doesn’t Cooperate…

“I have only 10% sperm motility, so what kind of medicine and foods can I take to improve it?” asks a reader on 5 Foods to Increase Sperm Count, Production, and Motility.

The problem is, I can’t offer personal medical advice over the internet! And even more importantly: people should never, ever ask strangers online for specific medications and foods for fertility.

If you want a baby but your body isn’t cooperating, you need to talk to a fertility doctor in person. If that fertility doctor doesn’t help, you need to get a second opinion – perhaps from a naturopathic physician.



Improving fertility and having a baby depends on the reason for not getting pregnant. It’s not just about eating the right foods or taking medicine suggested by a fertility writer. You need a personal examination from a doctor and advice that suits YOU.

But you can also make sure you have the healthiest lifestyle possible by doing these things…

Eat lots of antioxidants and vitamins

Research shows that antioxidants can improve overall health, so it’s may be helpful to eat as many high-antioxidant fruits and vegetables as you can if you want a baby. Eat prunes, cranberries, dried apricots, blueberries, raspberries, strawberries, blackberries, garlic, kale, brussels sprouts, broccoli, and red peppers.

Eat vitamin A, which is found in yellow fruits and vegetables, whole milk and milk products, dark green leafy veggies, and fish oils. Eat vitamin B6 and zinc, found in molasses, brewer’s yeast, whole grains, nuts, brown rice, organ and other meats, egg yolks, fish, poultry, legumes, seeds, and green leafy veggies.

Eat folate and vitamin B12, found in: lamb, sardines, fermented foods that contain bacteria, dark green leafy veggies, broccoli, organ meats, root vegetables, whole grains, oysters, salmon, milk, legumes, asparagus, oatmeal, dried figs, and avocados.

Eat vitamin C, found in citrus fruits, rosehips, cherries, sprouted alfalfa seeds, cantaloupe, strawberries, broccoli, tomatoes, sweet peppers, black currants, mangos, grapes, kiwi fruit, pineapples, asparagus, peas, potatoes, parsley, watercress, and spinach.

Take a chewable, liquid, or gel vitamin

“Most multivitamins are hard tablets, and you only absorb 25% of the minerals and vitamins in a hard tablet,” says midwife Jennifer Duggin. “Instead, we recommend liquid, capsule, or chewable multivitamins.”

To get the most out of your vitamins, avoid the hard pills.

If you think you’re doing everything right, read Why Can’t I Get Pregnant? Reasons for Not Conceiving a Baby.

Remember that it takes 12 months to make a baby

If you want a baby but your body isn’t cooperating, remember that it often takes couples about one year to get pregnant! This is NORMAL.

Try to relax and enjoy the process of starting your family, and stop worrying about fertility problems. If you get anxious and stressed, then you may be less likely to get pregnant. I know you want to have a baby, but at this point you need to trust that it will happen – and give yourself a year to try.

And, be careful about taking health or medical advice from the internet. Always talk to your doctor before you take any type of medicine, even natural herbal remedies.

When you can’t get pregnant, your best option is to seek in-person help from a fertility doctor or naturopathic physician.

If you’re scared you’ll never get pregnant, read How to Overcome Fear You’ll Never Conceive a Baby.

For more baby making tips, read Tried Everything to Get Pregnant, Nothing Works? The Next Steps.




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