These five practical tips for overcoming fertility problems are inspired by a parable of a couple who finally conceived a baby after years of trying to get pregnant.
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The reason I’m sharing the parable of Zacharias and Elizabeth – which isn’t a parable of Jesus, but it is from the Bible – isn’t to teach you how to say your fertility prayers. You can read How to Pray for a Baby for that! Rather, I want to encourage you to seek the balance between trust that you will overcome whatever fertility problems you’re facing, and moving forward in practical ways to get pregnant and have a healthy baby.
A Parable for Couples With Fertility Problems
Zacharias and Elizabeth were a couple coping with infertility in the Bible. “And they had no child, because Elizabeth was barren, and they were both advanced in years” (Luke 1:7).
It’s painful and sad to not have children in our world today, but infertility was different in those Biblical days. Infertile couples were stigmatized and ostracized. Some Jewish Rabbis even insisted that infertility or fertility problems was evidence of God’s disfavor. While Zacharias and Elizabeth may have been righteous before God, some of their friends may have suspected them of serious secret sin. Perhaps their Jewish Rabbis did, too.
Since Zacharias and Elizabeth were “advanced in years”, they were probably at least sixty years old. This is well beyond the time of childbearing, and overcoming their fertility problems seemed hopeless.
Back then – even more so than today – women were thought to be the cause of fertility problems. So, Zacharias could have exonerated himself by divorcing Elizabeth. In Biblical society, barrenness and childlessness were commonly accepted grounds for divorce. Zacharias could have married a younger woman and had children with his new wife (provided, of course, that the source of their fertility problems was Elizabeth!).
But Zacharias didn’t divorce Elizabeth. Instead, he prayed. He gave his pain and disappointment to God, said his prayers. He balanced his heartache at being a couple coping with infertility with his utter dependence on his Heavenly Father.
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While he was carrying out his priestly duties before God, it was his turn to enter the sanctuary of God and burn incense. An angel of God appeared at the right of the altar of incense. Zachariah was paralyzed in fear.
But the angel reassured him. “Don’t fear, Zachariah. Your prayer has been heard. Elizabeth, your wife, will bear a son by you. You are to name him John. You’re going to leap like a gazelle for joy, and not only you – many will delight in his birth. He’ll achieve great stature with God. He’ll drink neither wine nor beer. He’ll be filled with the Holy Spirit from the moment he leaves his mother’s womb. He will turn many sons and daughters of Israel back to their God. He will herald God’s arrival in the style and strength of Elijah, soften the hearts of parents to children, and kindle devout understanding among hardened skeptics—he’ll get the people ready for God.
Zachariah said to the angel, “Do you expect me to believe this? I’m an old man and my wife is an old woman.”
The angel said, “I am Gabriel, the sentinel of God, sent to bring you this glad news. But because you won’t believe me, you’ll be unable to say a word until the day of your son’s birth. Every word I’ve spoken to you will come true on time – God’s time.”
Zachariah went home. It wasn’t long before his wife, Elizabeth, conceived. She went off by herself for five months, relishing her pregnancy…and that’s how John the Baptist was conceived.
5 Ways to Overcome Fertility Problems
Keeping the faith when you’re trying to get pregnant is hard. I know, because my husband and I tried for several years to conceive. But the best way to overcome fertility problems is to trust God. You will conceive a baby when it’s time. When your body is ready, when your partner’s body is ready, you will get pregnant.
The trick is to balance faith with action. “Pray as if everything depends on God, act as if everything depends on you.” That’s why I’m sharing these practical tips for overcoming fertility problems, in addition to the parable about Zacharias and Elizabeth.
Make an appointment with a fertility specialist
Many couples who are trying to get pregnant comment on my articles, asking for help overcoming fertility problems, improving sperm count, regulating their periods. I can’t give that kind of support! The internet can be a good source of information about getting pregnant, but you need to see a fertility specialist in person if you’ve been trying to get pregnant for over a year. Get the different fertility tests done – that’s how you should take action and overcome fertility problems. Balance that with trust in God.
If you’re just starting to learn how to overcome fertility problems, read Fertility Checklist and 4 Reasons You Can’t Get Pregnant.
Learn how ovulation calendars work
The Pregnancy and Ovulation Wheel includes the ovulation calendar pinpoints ovulation and peak fertility, implantation, when to expect a missed period and the best date to take a pregnancy test, all based on your cycle length. It also reduces wasted test kits by outlining the best times to use ovulation tests or microscopes. After you get pregnant, the pregnancy wheel guides you through the important dates and doctor visits over the next nine months.
Think about monitoring your fertility
If you want to get pregnant, your first step is to track your ovulation and make sure the sperm and egg are meeting at the right time. Ovulation predictor kits are good for women who need help getting pregnant. However, if you can’t or don’t ovulate because of health issues, then a predictor kit won’t help you conceive a baby. That’s where faith and prayers for help overcoming fertility problems come in!
Say your fertility prayers
When I wanted to get pregnant, we prayed for a baby for months. Years. I considered fertility treatments, but wasn’t sure I wanted to undergo in vitro fertilization (IVF). Since I’m over 40, I have a 7% chance of getting pregnant with IVF. Seven percent is so low! So, we’re sending up lots of fertility prayers for healing and guidance…and who knows…maybe praying for a miracle is the best way to get pregnant when you can’t overcome fertility problems on your own.
Different couples need different tips on how to conceive a baby. For instance, a fertility supplement like FertilAid for Men won’t work for my husband, because he has azoospermia (no sperm). All the sperm supplements in the world won’t help me get pregnant with his sperm. When you’re learning about the different tips for overcoming fertility problems, keep your specific health issues in mind.
Consider taking “his and her” fertility supplements
FertilAid for Women is a doctor-approved and ObGyn-recommended supplement that is designed to help couples overcome fertility problems and improve reproductive health. It contains natural herbal ingredients and essential vitamins, and promotes female hormonal balance and reproductive wellness. It includes chasteberry (vitex), red clover blossom, siberian ginseng, and gingko biloba. It doesn’t have any side effects — but if you’re taking other types of prescription medication, talk to your doctor before taking a fertility supplement.
Don’t forget the importance of healthy sperm when you’re learning how to overcome fertility problems! “Good” sperm isn’t just defined by sperm count, but also by sperm concentration, sperm motility and speed, and healthy morphology (sperm shape and size). Sperm motility is determined by the percentage of sperm that are moving and their capacity to “swim” in a forward direction.
FertilAid for Men combines antioxidants, vitamins, and minerals with the amino acid, L-Carnitine. It’s designed to support the healthy formation of sperm, and increase both sperm motility and sperm count. Before you take any type of supplement – even natural ones – make sure you talk to your doctor first.
I welcome your thoughts on how to overcome fertility problems below. I can’t offer medical or health advice, but it may help you to share your experience.
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My prayer is that you balance faith with action, trust with careful thought. My prayer is that you get pregnant quickly, without having to worry too much about overcoming fertility problems.