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Why Talking About Infertility Makes You Feel Better

One of my readers is starting to talk about her infertility, telling people that she can’t get pregnant because of endometriosis and fibroids. This, I believe, will make her feel better and start the healing process…

“I’ve got endometriosis and fibroids – and also had a failed IVF,” she wrote in the comments section of Dealing With the Disappointment of a Childfree Life. “I’ve only just started to tell people when they ask if I’m going to start a family that I’m unable to have children. In the past I’ve always dodged the question. In a way, this has started the long healing process.”

To learn more about coping with male or female infertility, click Waiting for Daisy: A Tale of Two Continents, Three Religions, Five Infertility Doctors, an Oscar, an Atomic Bomb, a Romantic Night, and One Woman’s Quest to Become a Mother – author Peggy Orenstein is definitely willing to talk about her difficulties having a child! And, read on for several reasons why you should talk about not getting pregnant (or your inability to get your wife pregnant, if you have low or no sperm count).Read More »Why Talking About Infertility Makes You Feel Better

When Not to Tell Children About Their Birth Roots

Keeping your children’s birth roots a secret – especially if they stem from infertility treatments – is generally a bad idea. However, there are specific times when it’s better not to tell them about their birth roots and the fertility treatments involved.

“Honesty is good for families,” writes Diane Ehrensaft in Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates: Answering Tough Questions and Building Strong Families. “Children may intuit things about their origins even if they’re not told. Nevertheless, under special circumstances three critical factors may tip the scales toward not telling.”

Click on Mommies, Daddies, Donors, Surrogates for so much info about coping with infertility treatments, and read on for Ehrensaft’s thoughts on when not to tell children about their birth roots or origins in fertility treatments.Read More »When Not to Tell Children About Their Birth Roots

What Not to Say to Couples Coping With Infertility

If you know a person or couple coping with infertility, you may not know what to say or talk about! So, here are a few tips on what NOT to say to couples coping with infertility, plus six tips on what TO say.

Before the tips, here’s an excerpt from I Am More Than My Infertility:

“Many women face their infertility believing that if they can only have a child, all of their problems will go away,” write Marina Lombardo and Linda Parker. “But infertility isn’t resolved because of a pregnancy or adoption.”

As true as this may be, it’s definitely not something to say to couples coping with infertility! This book is about not letting infertility destroy your life. Click on I Am More Than My Infertility for more info on riding the infertility roller coaster. And, read on for what not to say to couples coping with infertility – and six tips for what to say.Read More »What Not to Say to Couples Coping With Infertility