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If You Feel Depressed After Adopting a Baby, You’re Normal!

Feeling depressed after adopting a baby is normal for many adoptive parents. Postadoption depression is similar to similar to postpartum depression, and can occur after parents adopt children.

This summary of why some adoptive parents feel depressed after adopting their kids includes information about unanticipated feelings and experiences (such as a struggle to bond with the adopted child, or the reaction of friends and family).

“People often hear about postpartum blues when having a baby, but the emotional well-being of adoptive parents once the child is placed in the home is not really talked about,” said Karen J. Foli, an assistant professor of nursing and an adoptive mother. “In this study, the majority of the adoptive parents who self-reported having experienced depression after the child was placed in their home often described unmet or unrealistic expectations of him or herself, the child, family and friends, or society…Some parents shared that they did not anticipate that bonding with their child would be a struggle or that family members or friends would not offer the same support that birthparents enjoy.”

If you’re an adoptive parent or adopted child – or even if you’re considering adopting a baby– read Foli’s book, The Post-Adoption Blues: Overcoming the Unforeseen Challenges of Adoption (pictured). And, here’s a summary of the research from Purdue University….Read More »If You Feel Depressed After Adopting a Baby, You’re Normal!

The Benefits and Drawbacks of Adopting a Child

Here’s a list of benefits and drawbacks of adopting a child. As a couple coping with infertility, we’re deciding between adoption and in vitro fertilization (IVF) – and my list of pros and cons might help you with your own decision!

“Adoption isn’t about finding children for families…it’s about finding families for children.” – Joyce Maguire Pavao.

Connecting the right child with the right family takes a lot of energy and time – but the results can be miraculous. For more info about the adoptive process and adoptive parenting, click on The Complete Adoption Book: Everything You Need to Know to Adopt a Child. And, read on for my benefits and drawbacks of adoption…Read More »The Benefits and Drawbacks of Adopting a Child

Coping With Years of Infertility – How to Deal With Not Getting Pregnant

Everyone deals with not getting pregnant in different ways. Here, writer and administrator Lori LeRoy shares how she and her husband are coping with Living With Infertility. They’re a couple who focus on finding humor, researching unusual infertility stories, and writing about their struggles with getting pregnant. Lori shares about her book, whether she’s considering adopting, and her perspective of the lighter side of infertility.

“The way my husband and I have coped with all of this nonsense [four years of unsuccessful fertility treatments] is through humor,” says Lori. “Instead of shedding tears, we have decided laugh as much as possible – better for our moods and for our relationship.”

Lori LeRoy is a Public Relations and Marketing Director, infertility humor finder and aspiring author in Indianapolis, Indiana. Here’s how she’s coping with not getting pregnant; if you’re not dealing well with infertility, click Coping With Infertility: Clinically Proven Ways of Managing the Emotional Roller Coaster for help.Read More »Coping With Years of Infertility – How to Deal With Not Getting Pregnant