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How to Prepare for Pregnancy

Getting pregnant takes preparation for most couples, so you need to know what “preparing for pregnancy” means. These tips are inspired by The Parable of the Mountain Climber – they’ll help you set your emotional and mental equilibrium – because a stable mind, heart, and spirit is what you need when you’re trying to conceive.

Preparing for PregnancyAn online article can’t tell you everything you need to do when you’re preparing for pregnancy. Get a book like Mayo Clinic Guide to a Healthy Pregnancy: From Doctors Who Are Parents, Too!. It’s an illustrated book that offers advice on how to get pregnant, meal planning, exercise, medication use, and parenthood. After you get pregnant you’ll love the week-by-week updates on your baby’s growth and the month-by-month changes for mom. You also get a 40-week pregnancy calendar, a “pregnancy symptoms” guide, and a review of important decisions you’ll have to make when you’re pregnant.

If you need practical tips for getting pregnant, read Preparing to Get Pregnant – A Preconception Checklist. You’ll find everything from questions a fertility doctor will ask to what type of fertility tests you’ll need to take to find out if you’re able to conceive a baby.

These tips on preparing for pregnancy are inspired by a parable. It’s about a mountain climber who just couldn’t let go…and she suffered the consequences of hanging on too tightly.

The Parable of the Mountain Climber

Once upon a time there was a climber who was determined to reach the summit of a high mountain. After years of preparation, she began her adventure. She journeyed alone, because she wanted to prove she could climb the mountain by herself.

She began her ascent. As daylight faded, she decided to continue until night fell. Soon she was overcome by total darkness. The moon and stars were hidden in the clouds, and she couldn’t see anything.

The mountain climber was only a few yards away from the summit when she slipped and fell off a ridge, plummeting at a frightening speed. While falling, she could only see shadow-like figures in the darkness while she felt gravity sucking her down.

She thought death was near when suddenly she felt the tightening of the rope around her waist. She jerked to a stop – her rope was caught on part of the rock wall of the mountain.

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“The Parable of the Mountain Climber” image by theScallywag via DeviantArt

In desperation, suspended in mid-air, she screamed, “God, please help me!”

“How would you like me to help you?” said a deep voice.

“Save me!” the climber cried.

“Do you really think I can save you?”

“Yes, God, I do!”

“Well then, cut the rope,” said God.

There was a moment of silence, then she tightened her grip on the rope around her waist.

A few hours later, the sun rose and the rescue team found the mountain climber. She had frozen to death, her hands clutching the rope tied to her waist…and she was suspended only two feet from the ground.

If she had let go, she would have lived.

Preparing for Pregnancy

What does The Parable of the Mountain Climber have to do with preparing your body and mind to get pregnant? You tell me what you think in the comments section below! Here’s what I think…

Compare getting pregnant to climbing a mountain

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“Preparing for Pregnancy” image by lucieOn via DeviantArt

Part of preparing for pregnancy is combining patience with your plans to get pregnant. Just like climbing a mountain, you need strength, patience, and advance planning if you want to have a baby. Chances are you WILL conceive a baby, especially if you’re preparing your body for pregnancy! It takes most couples a year, on average, to get pregnant. If you’ve been trying for a baby for several months or even a whole calendar year, then you’re an average couple. Have patience, and plan carefully.

Make emotional and physical preparations to get pregnant

By “plan carefully for pregnancy”, I mean getting your financial, relationship, and health ducks in a row. Are you financially prepared to take care of a baby? Is your relationship stable? Are you trying to get pregnant for the right reasons? Are you emotionally mature – is your partner as excited about preparing for pregnancy as you are?

If your health is an issue, or if you suspect fertility problems might make pregnancy difficult, read Reasons You Can’t Get Pregnant – A Fertility Checklist. In that article I list several obstacles that could have been avoided if women were preparing for pregnancy early enough.

Balance taking action with letting go

In The Parable of the Mountain Climber, the climber had to take lots of action steps towards the summit of the mountain. She trained, gathered all her climbing equipment, set aside time to climb, etc. But, she wasn’t spiritually or emotionally prepared. As soon as she ran into trouble, she leaned on her own strength and understanding. She left God out of it. One of the most important things you can do when you’re preparing for pregnancy is to balance action with letting go of the end result.

Preparing for pregnancy – action steps

Here’s a list of practical steps towards conceiving a baby:

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Pregnancy Pillow

Also – prepare for healthy sleep when you’re pregnant with a Leachco Snoogle Total Body Pillow (pictured – it’s part of setting your intention for a healthy pregnancy 🙂 )

If you’ve tried everything you can think of to get pregnant – and you’ve already starting looking at maternity clothes even though you know it’s too early – then it may be time to see your family doctor, gynecologist, or a fertility doctor.

Don’t forget that your partner’s sperm plays a vital role in preparing for pregnancy – make sure he gets a sperm test and sees a urologist. This is all part of healthy pregnancy planning.

Let go of when, where, and how you get pregnant

There are no guarantees that you’ll get pregnant fast – or at all. If you’ve been trying to get pregnant for more than a year or two, read How to Cope When It’s Taking Too Long to Get Pregnant.

I welcome your thoughts on preparing for pregnancy – and The Parable of Letting Go! However, I can’t offer health advice or counseling. If you don’t know how to prepare for pregnancy, talk to your gynecologist, urologist, or fertility doctor.

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4 thoughts on “How to Prepare for Pregnancy”

  1. Great article! As long as there are eggs there is hope . Luckily so many options are available nowadays. There are many things women could do in months before conception in order to improve egg quality: quit smoking, bring your BMI to recommended level, eat organic, nutritious, and fresh food in addition to living a generally healthy, stress-reduced lifestyle, adapt to supplementation strategy specifically targeting egg health, and most of all allow enough time to achieve results. Here’s a related text

  2. Planned pregnancy is important to successfully gain the expected outcome. There are many things to consider before conceiving, you can either ask your doctor, or obtain yourself the knowledge of preconception instead. These are good tips on how to plan for pregnancy, but every woman is different. If you need help planning to get pregnant, talk to your medical health care provider.

  3. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Dear Alice,

    Preparing for pregnancy when you have a surrogate is a whole different thing! And very exciting – I wish you all the best as you move forward in your journey to being a mother.

    What information have you received from the fertility clinic, doctor, or organization who is facilitating the surrogate motherhood? That is the number one place I’d go to, if I was preparing for this type of pregnancy. I’d also call various fertility clinics in the area, and get their advice. I don’t know anything about preparing for the pregnancy of a surrogate mother, but I have heard several talk shows about it.

    My prayer is for peace, wisdom, and guidance as you move forward into this exciting new chapter of your life! May you make good decisions, and may you prepare for the pregnancy and birth in all the ways you possibly can. I pray for a healthy baby, healthy mom, and for everything to go smoothly with the labor and delivery. I also pray for your little baby, for a safe entry into this world. May you and your baby bond quickly and easily, and may the surrogate mother be healthy as she leaves the baby with you. Amen.


  4. And how to get ready for your surrogate`s pregnancy? For me thay seems to be really extremely hard. If anyone knows how, please answer me. Because I seem to be totally lost now.