You’re not alone if you have no money for fertility treatments such as in vitro fertilization (IVF). A Canadian couple is fundraising for fertility treatments with Cupcakes for Infertility!
They’re not just asking for money for IVF; they’re selling cupcakes at a Fredericton flea market to raise money for their IVF treatments.
“I want to be a mother. It’s the only thing I’ve ever wanted to do,” says Melissa Arbeau, who has already undergone one intrauterine insemination (IUI) treatment, which has a 7% success rate and costs $2,000. “And the only thing that’s stopping me is money.”
Here’s why they’re turning to fertility treatments to have a baby, and what some reactions are…
Fundraising to Raise Money for Fertility Treatments
Matthew and Melissa Arbeau have been married for almost six years (just like me and my husband, Bruce!). They’ve been trying to conceive their first child for over five years, and haven’t been successful (us, too).
Last year, they were told severe male factor infertility is the reason they can’t have children naturally (also like us! Weird). They tried intra uterine insemination (IUI), like we did. We tried six times; they tried once. When we got a second opinion, our new fertility doctor said we should’ve only tried IUI two or three times.
We know why our sperm is MIA…but Matthew’s infertility is unexplained.
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Like many couples coping with infertility, the only way the Arbeaus will have children is through fertility treatments such as in vitro fertilization. But the cost of infertility treatments is staggering, and stops many, many couples from pursuing their dream of having a baby together.
Cupcakes for Infertility – for In Vitro Fertilization
So, they decided to raise money for treatments instead of passively accepting their diagnosis and “fate.”
Melissa says people will often pass judgement on her, saying that if they can’t afford the $7,000 for in vitro fertilization – which has a 65% success rate, according to some fertility clinics – then they can’t afford to have a child.
But she calls that rubbish.
“We’d be great parents,” she said. “We can afford to have a family. It’s just unless you’re rich and just have $7,000 laying around … it’s heartbreaking when it’s the only thing stopping you from having a baby.”
If she gets pregnant, she says, she’ll continue to make cupcakes for infertility and will donate every $1,000 she can raise toward another family that’s in need of fertility treatments.
Melissa also wants to bring the stigma of infertility out into the open — which I respect and admire.
“I’ve made a whole community of friends, and we’re doing the same thing,” she says. “And they all say the same thing – that no one talks about it. People don’t put themselves in our shoes. When you want something so bad and you can’t have it, it’s heartache, and your heart is empty and it won’t ever be full until that child comes into your life.”
My three cents about Cupcakes for Infertility
1) Sell something online – or ask for donations – to increase your fundraising dollars. For instance, this article about raising and saving money for fertility treatments can be read by people all over the world. If they can’t buy cupcakes in Fredericton, how can they help you?
Read books like Fundraising Online: Using the Internet to Raise Serious Money for Your Nonprofit Organization to learn how to raise money quickly and successfully.
2) Offer a running total of how much money you’ve raised. I’m curious how much you need for the in vitro fertilization treatments, and I bet others are too. Make your Cupcakes for Infertility updates as professional as possible, so people take you seriously.
3) Remember that having children is a wondrous blessing and miracle, but you can be happy even if you don’t have kids. I think the “my heart is empty and won’t ever be full unless I have children” mentality can stop both men and women from living and enjoying life to the fullest – no matter what happens. Kids or no kids!
What do you think of selling cupcakes, or fundraising to raise and save money for fertility treatments? Comments welcome below…
To learn more about the Arbeaus, go to Cupcakes for Infertility.