Couples who can’t get pregnant often struggle to keep their marriage strong. Here are a few tips for coping with infertility and relationships.
Infertility can take over a woman or man’s life, emotions, and thoughts. Her inability to conceive a baby – or his inability to get her pregnant – can affect how they feel about themselves, their lives, and their marriage.
Here’s how one woman coped with infertility in her relationship:
“I knew what I was doing,” says 36 year old Jeanette. “I could feel myself pushing him away. I was cold, distant, and not very nice. At the time, I felt like I was doing the right thing – the only fair thing in an unfair situation – giving him a way out if he needed it.” ~ from What to Do When You Can’t Get Pregnant.
Infertility affects marriages in different ways. Some couples separate and get divorced, while other couples find ways to build a stronger relationship.
If you’re having trouble getting pregnant, you might find What to Do When You Can’t Get Pregnant: The Complete Guide to All the Technologies for Couples Facing Fertility Problems helpful.
And, here are five ways to keep marriage strong in infertility…
How to Keep Your Marriage Strong in Infertility
Empathize with your partner’s feelings
My husband and I are coping with infertility, but we’ve managed to keep our marriage strong. This is partly because we try to understand where each other is coming from. For instance, I think I understand how difficult not getting pregnant is for him (he comes from a big family, and he’s always wanted kids). And he understands that not having children isn’t a major problem for me, because I can see the benefits of life both with and without kids.
When you talk about infertility with your partner, try to accept his perspective — even if it’s totally different to your own.
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