Keeping the love alive can be difficult for couples coping with infertility, especially if they’re trying to conceive while dealing with male or female fertility issues! Here are several tips for increasing physical intimacy when you have infertility issues…
Before the tips, a quip:
“Love doesn’t sit there like a stone, it has to be made, like bread; remade all of the time, made new.” ~ Ursula K. LeGuin.
Love requires constant effort and attention, especially if you’re trying to get pregnant while coping with male or female fertility issues! If you’re interested in learning more about your libido and marriage, click Physical Intimacy in Marriage (pictured). And, read on for six ways to increase physical intimacy when you’re trying to get pregnant…
6 Tips for Increasing Physical Intimacy When You Have Infertility Issues
1. Get as much exercise as you can – without overdoing it. The more oxygen, fresh air, and movement you give your body during the day (walking, biking, swimming, yoga for fertility), the more sensual you’ll feel overall. Physical and emotional intimacy is connected to how active you are during the day, and exercising doesn’t deplete energy, it increases it! But remember: too much exercise decreases female fertility.
2. Unwind before you get romantic with your partner. Worrying about bills, work, investments, or even getting pregnant doesn’t increase your physical intimacy levels! Before you go to bed, decrease your stress levels by having a bubble bath, snuggling with your partner, or going for a long walk. The less tense you are, the more you’ll enjoy emotional and physical intimacy. And, try not to think about infertility issues or even getting pregnant when you’re being romantic with your partner.
3. Eat a healthy diet – and remember that certain foods increase fertility. Avoid the fast food, soda pop, potato chips, and processed sugar! What you eat directly affects your libido and love life. To increase your physical intimacy levels, eat healthy fruits, veggies, grains, beans, and the occasional chunk of meat. And, learn about the foods that can help you get pregnant, and foods to avoid because they decrease fertility.
4. Get comfortable with your body. This tip for increasing intimacy for infertile couples involves boosting self-esteem and self-confidence. If you feel awkward and embarrassed about your body, you won’t enjoy a healthy love life with your partner, and you may be less likely to get pregnant. Keep repeating to yourself: “I don’t have to look perfect to enjoy love!” Get comfortable changing in the dressing room at the pool and being around people when you aren’t wearing many clothes. The more comfortable you are with your body, the more physical and emotional intimacy you may enjoy in your relationship.
5. Check your prescription medications. If you have no appetite for physical intimacy, look at the medications you’re taking. Some, such as birth control pills or antidepressants, can inhibit your libido. Talk to your doctor about how your prescriptions medication can cause irregular menstrual cycles and affect your love life. You may not be able to quit taking your prescription, but your doctor may give you tips for increasing your physical intimacy levels.
6. Try new ways to be romantic. To get more physically and emotionally intimate with your partner, stay away from the routine! Try new massage oils, places for intimacy, or even foods that can help spice up your love life. Physical intimacy at any age can be increased with a little variety in the bedroom.
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