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In Vitro Fertilization Process – Increase IVF Success Rates

The in vitro fertilization process is a fertility treatment with no guarantees of getting pregnant, but you can increase IVF success rates! These fertility tips will help couples trying to get pregnant via in vitro fertilization.

We tried IUI (intra-uterine insemination, where the sperm is deposited in the cervix) – but it didn’t take…even after six cycles! Discouraging. So, now we’re moving on to IVF, and below are the tips for in vitro fertilization that I’ve gathered so far.

For more in-depth info on this fertility treatment, read The Couple’s Guide to In Vitro Fertilization: Everything You Need to Know to Maximize Your Chances of Success by Liza Charlesworth.

Here are tips for a successful IVF fertility treatment…

In Vitro Fertilization Process – Increase IVF Success Rates

If you don’t know about IVF, read What is In Vitro Fertilization?

Arm yourself with info, but don’t get alarmed. Our IVF doctor gave us a sheath of info and consent forms, and some of it revolves around the possible hazards of the egg retrieval and implantation surgeries. They list the possible problems (infection, intestinal punctures) and say “this is not to alarm or scare you!” One tip for in vitro fertilization is to get all the info you can…but don’t let it freak you out.

Talk to couples who’ve tried IVF. When you get first-hand experiences, you’ll have more info than you ever wanted! To connect with other couples coping with infertility, ask your fertility specialist if they know of any support groups in nearby hospitals or communities. If you’re brave enough, you can ask your friends and family…and find blogs or websites like Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility. The more you learn about the in vitro fertilization process, the better.

Read fertility books. Current books about IVF, donor sperm, IUI, and natural treatments for infertility are great ways to learn about the procedure. The more you read books about getting pregnant, the more comfortable you’ll feel — which is why these tips for in vitro fertilization are so important.

Read Fertility Plus’ article called IVF Hints. I didn’t agree with the tip, “don’t talk to your partner about his role, as this causes stress” part, but I think it depends on each couple. Everyone copes with infertility differently! If stress leads to performance anxiety, then by all means keep him calm…but if he’s not involved in the sperm donor process, then talk as much as you need to! Do what you think is right, to increase IVF success rates.

Do a mock IVF transfer? This is one of the tips for in vitro fertilization suggested by Fertility Plus, but I don’t think we’ll do it. It may be good in theory, but I suspect it’ll cost more time, money, and energy than I can spare. A mock IVF transfer can give the fertility specialist an idea of the depth of your uterus, so when the real time comes, they’re ready.

Be prepared for anything. I’m prepared for pain, discomfort, mood swings, and the fact that this IVF could lead to pregnancy…or another disappointment. I’m prepared for things I can’t even fathom right now! I’m ready for anything. Some couples like to know their chances of getting pregnant with in vitro fertilization, while others don’t.

Plan something fun for after the embryo transfer! Some fertility specialists say to relax right after the egg and sperm are placed, while other say it’s not scientifically proven that increases the success of in vitro fertilization. My tip for a successful IVF is to rent a few of your favorite or new DVDs, make popcorn, snuggle up with your sweetie, and take a day or two off! Give yourself something enjoyable to look forward to.

Plan something fun for after the pregnancy test. If my in vitro fertilization isn’t successful, I’m getting laser eye surgery. Having 20/20 or better vision isn’t as good as a baby, but at least it’s something to look forward to!

If you’re trying this fertility treatment, read The Pros and Cons of In Vitro Fertilization.

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10 thoughts on “In Vitro Fertilization Process – Increase IVF Success Rates”

  1. Thanks for your input. We have actually been on break since May 14 2010, the day I found out that the last donor egg transfer did not result in a pregnancy. I have mentioned to him that I really want to have children as I identified to him when we first met. He told me three weeks ago that he is done, but I have more fight in me and I’m not ready to give up on the chance to have a family of my own. Negotiating tactics sounds like a good avenue to pursue.

    Funny, I’m not sure what motivates him; I think we’ve lost sight of that. I do know that he’s a man that always needs to be doing two things at once. I know that he loves cars and that he’s been refurbishing one for the last 4 years. Perhaps I’ll use a car analogy when I talk to him next.


  2. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Dear Deborah,

    I’m sorry to hear it’s taking you so long to get pregnant…I know how hard it is. We’ve been trying for 3 1/2 years, to no avail.

    My first thought is to take a break from trying to get pregnant. Maybe he needs time to step back, take a breath, and get off the roller coaster. It’s such an emotional time, full of ups and downs and stress and hope…maybe he just needs a few months away from it all.

    My second thought is to tap into what motivates him to do anything. Some husbands are motivated by their wives’ happiness, while others are more motivated by their own beliefs about what’s right. Some are motivated by sex, and others by a challenge! To fire up your husband’s motivation to keep trying in vitro fertilization, you need to figure out what would make HIM ready to keep at it.

    Another suggestion is to get a book on negotiation and persuasion. There are many, many tactics to persuade people that are very effective. For instance, one tactic is to get the person to agree to a little thing, then ask for a bigger thing. Or, ask for a huge thing, and when he says no (like you suspected), ask for something smaller. Those are psychological methods of persuasion.

    Another tactic, specifically for husbands and wives, is to lead with “I feel loved when….” along with an explanation of why it’s so important to you to keep trying IVF. With my husband, I’ve found that it works to tell him how happy/good/loved I feel when he does specific things for me. The more specific I am, the better.

    I think I’ll write a whole article on this topic — it’s such a great question, and there are so many possibilities!

    I hope these suggestions have helped….let me know how you guys are doing.


  3. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for 41/2 years, (two years with trying my own eggs, two 1/2 years with donor egg IVF). He has given up and I am having trouble getting him to focus on the prize of a baby of our own. What can I say to him that will make him want to reconsider continuing this journey because I’m not done yet. We’ve had so mnay ups and downs; he’s seen my cry myself to sleep. But I have it in me to continue this journey. I still believe it will happen for us. Can you share any insight on how to keep my husband motivated continue?

  4. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen


    Thanks for your comment — and I’m glad you’ve found “Quips and Tips” helpful!

    I wish you all the best with your in vitro fertilization, and hope you keep me updated on your pregnancy news….


  5. Don’t know where to begin with my obsession over IVF! My husband and I have tried many things to have a baby and everything has failed. We are now trying IVF…starting everything next week and we r very nervous yet excited! Thank u for this site…it has helped me in many ways. Good luck to all and I pray for everyone in our position!

  6. Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen

    Congratulations on your pregnancy, Beth! May it be healthy and happy. Was it the result of in vitro fertilization?

    And yes, I’m off to visit your blog…

  7. Great post, Laurie!

    When I did IVF I took every ‘edge’ I could get. Soaked up all the info available to me, even the tips that seemed a little ‘out there’. And now I’m pregnant!

    Keep up the great work! I hope you’ll drop by my blog 🙂

  8. Thanks for posting this. I talk to couples almost daily who are at the end of their rope with infertility and yet even they may not know all these tips.

    Cori Smelker