The fear of infertility can stop you from overcoming fertility problems. Some couples don’t know if they’re dealing with infertility issues, because they haven’t overcome their fear of finding out about infertility! If you’re one of those couples, here are tips on overcoming your fear of never getting pregnant.
“Fear grows in darkness,” says Dorothy Thompson. “If you think there’s a boogeyman around, turn on the light.”
Overcoming the fear of infertility involves shedding light on the problem. The more you know about infertility causes and treatments, the less fear you’ll have – because you’ll be able to take action! To learn more, read Unsung Lullabies: Understanding and Coping with Infertility by Janet Jaffe, David Diamond, and Martha Diamond.
And, read on for tips on overcoming fear of infertility…
Fear of Infertility – 5 Tips for Overcoming Fertility Problems
1. Take one step at a time. We’re all at different place on this infertility roller coaster – some couples have tried for 10 years to get pregnant, while others are just starting to wonder if they might have infertility issues. To overcome your fear of infertility, don’t scare yourself by imagining uncomfortable fertility treatments, expensive medical bills, and the disappointment of still getting your period after five years. Don’t jump ahead – just take it one step at a time.
2. Learn about the situation you’re in. Have you been diagnosed with endometriosis, or your husband with azoospermia? Have you been trying to get pregnant for three months or three years? No matter what fertility problems you’re coping with, learn as much as you can about it. Read, talk to doctors, join support groups, do your internet research on infertility. To overcome fear of infertility, you need to shed light on the problem – because “fear grows in darkness.”
3. Find the right type of support. Everyone feels supported in different ways…some read infertility books, others attend lectures about ovulation and pregnancy, and still others join fertility support groups. To overcome fear of infertility, figure out what makes you feel most supported, and stay connected.
4. Talk to couples who successfully coped with infertility. You don’t need to join a formal infertility support group to find couples coping with infertility – you need only ask your friends, family, coworkers, and neighbors. Infertility isn’t something to be ashamed of, and most couples who coped with infertility are happy to talk about it! Infertility isn’t a death knell; overcoming fear of infertility involves connecting with “survivors.”
5. Be open to redefining your life. Have you always wanted six kids? Did you always hope to be a mom or dad? Be open to redefining how you thought your life would turn out. Instead of six kids, maybe you’ll adopt two. Instead of being a mom or dad, maybe you’ll be a Big Sister or cool neighborhood “auntie.” There are hundreds of ways to redefine your life – and overcoming fear of infertility involves letting go of your old expectations, and being open to a new, different life.
What do you think of these tips for overcoming infertility – and do you have any of your own to share?