Are you having trouble getting pregnant? Fertility expert Iris Waichler, author of Riding the Infertility Roller Coaster, shares five ways to cope when you’re dealing with possible or confirmed infertility.
Getting pregnant can take a long time for some women…but don’t give up hope yet!
“I struggled with infertility and eventually got incredibly lucky and had a healthy girl,” says Waichler. “I’m also a social worker. I promised myself that if I did become a parent I would help others struggling with infertility. I volunteered and did workshops, individual, and group counseling – and I wanted to reach more people. So, I wrote Riding the Infertility Roller Coaster.”
Her book is full of support for couples coping with infertility; in fact, Riding the Infertility Roller Coaster: A Guide to Educate And Inspire was one of the first books I read when I found out we couldn’t get pregnant! Here are Waichler’s five tips for infertile couples…
Dealing With Infertility – 5 Ways to Cope With Not Getting Pregnant
1. Explore your options (fertility clinics, doctors, specialists). If you want to pursue being a parent, you may want to consult a reproductive endocrinologist. This is a medical doctor who specializes in infertility, and can help you gather information on what medical reasons may be preventing your pregnancy. This fertility doctor will help you determine the best path to take with the highest possibility of getting pregnant. Read How to Find a Fertility Specialist for more info.
2. Ask yourself how important the biological link to your child is. If you want to pursue parenting, there are other options available. Adoption, egg or sperm donors, or surrogate parents can assist you on your parenting journey.
3. Take educational workshops about infertility. RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, offers education workshops for a nominal fee. It also offers groups where you can meet and talk with other people who are coping with infertility. This information is invaluable! Talking to people in similar situations can help you feel less isolated and alone when you’re dealing with infertility.
4. Take a break from infertility. When you want to get pregnant but can’t, infertility can become all consuming and enter all aspects of your life. Take a break, and get of the infertility roller coaster for awhile. Give yourself a moratorium on making any decisions about fertility treatment options or ways to become a parent.
5. Allow yourself time to grieve. Not being able to get pregnant when you want to become a parent is a terrible loss. Grieving is a process you need to go through…and you must allow yourself time to do it.
For more info on Iris Waichler, MSW, LCSW, go to Infertility Roller Coaster.