Dealing with the disappointment of not getting pregnant is hard, but coping with infertility on Mother’s Day is devastating.
Here are five ways to deal with sadness because you can’t get pregnant, on this day in May.
Before the tips, here’s a quick quip:
“Remember sadness is always temporary,” said Chuck T. Falcon. “This, too, shall pass.”
Infertility may or may not pass – but your feelings of sadness or depression will. One of the most important things is to be kind to yourself. I don’t know what works for you, but pampering myself make me fall a lot better about life. If you need a gift basket, check out the Tranquil Delights Lavender Spa Bath and Body Tote.
And, these tips may help you cope…
To cope on Mother’s Day, acknowledge and share your feelings
“Recent findings show that when we are able to identify and label how we are feeling, we activate other parts of the brain with very healthy and positive effects,” says Dr George Pratt, Ph. D., of Scripps Memorial Hospital in La Jolla. “Science shows us that if you label your feelings and, ideally, express them to someone else, both your mood and your immune system benefit.”
Choose how you’ll spend the day
Give yourself permission to say no if you can’t handle a big family dinner with all your sisters, brothers, their kids, and the extended relatives. I’m not a fan of wallowing in sadness, but I think if we’re coping with infertility on Mother’s Day, we need to prioritize who we want to be around and how we spend our time.
This is where the gift basket comes in! Spend the day honoring your body and improving your self-image. If you know that won’t help, then treat yourself to something you love to do: go on a weekend road trip, watch movies in the afternoon, or cook a gourmet meal with your partner. Indulge yourself in the things you love.
Avoid destructive habits
I’m coping with infertility on Mother’s Day, and I can see myself sinking into the greasy fast food, potato chips, and chocolate chip cookies! I’ve got lots of unhealthy ways to deal with stress, anxiety, and sadness – but I feel fabulous when I don’t succumb to my cravings and bad habits. To avoid destructive habits, tell your partner, best friend, or family member that you’re struggling. Ask him/her to help you overcome your compulsion and stay healthy.
Get help if you need it
“If you’re still feeling sad in spite of making efforts to improve your mood, or if you are losing sleep, feeling irritable or hopeless, or having trouble getting through daily activities, call your psychologist or physician,” says Dr Pratt. “You may need therapy, medication or a combination of the two to start feeling better.” Don’t ignore feelings of despair or depression due to infertility.
Are you struggling to cope with infertility on Mother’s Day? Comments welcome below…