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Choosing the Gender of Your Baby – How to Have a Boy or Girl

Are you curious about choosing the gender of your baby? These theories on how to have a baby boy or girl naturally (natural gender selection) may interest you…

“Researchers at the Genetics and IVF Institute in Fairfax, Virginia, say they can help parents choose their baby’s gender through a procedure called flow cytometry, in which DNA is stained with fluorescent dye and sorted,” writes Nikki Bradford in Natural Fertility: How to Maximize Your Chances of Conception. “However, the medical ethics aspects of this are still being hotly debated, unless the couple is trying to avoid specific inherited, sex-linked conditions such as hemophilia.”

Parents want to choose the gender of their babies for various reasons, and there are many superstitions and myths about how to have a boy or girl baby. Here are a few interesting theories, from Natural Fertility: How to Maximize Your Chances of Conception (a wonderful resource for couples trying to get pregnant!).


Choosing the Gender of Your Baby – How to Have a Boy or Girl

“Remember, there are no guarantees, and some of the methods’ rationales contradict each other,” writes Bradford. “As Dr Weinberg of the National Institute of Environmental Health Sciences says, ‘You can find a small study to support any theory.’”

Nevertheless, here are a few theories on natural gender selection…

The “Go-Faster” Theory

Dr Sophie Kleegman was an infertility specialist in New York in the 1950s. She noticed that her patients who got pregnant via infertility treatments (artificial insemination) tended to have baby girls or baby boys depending on which day of the woman’s menstrual cycle she had her treatment on.

This fertility specialist concluded that male or Y-carrying sperm swam faster, but female or X-carrying sperm lived longer. So, if you want to have a boy, you need to have sex when the egg is coming down the chute, so the Y-carrying sperm get to it first. If you want to have a girl baby, you need to have sex before the egg arrives, so the Y-carrying sperm dwindle away.

Kleegman’s theory on choosing the gender of your baby was supported by later research studies, but different research on gender selection has come to the exact opposite conclusion.

Many couples who have been trying to get pregnant for a long time stop caring about how to have a boy or girl. They just want to conceive a baby! And, even if they were hoping for a boy and were blessed with a  baby girl (or vice versa), they love their baby with all their heart and soul.

Foods That Determine the Baby’s Gender

Dr Francois Papa was a French obstetrician in the mid-1980s who proposed that you can choose the gender of your baby if you eat certain foods. “According to Dr Papa, a woman should eat foods rich in sodium and potassium if she wants a girl and one high in calcium and magnesium if she wants a boy,” writes Bradford in Natural Fertility. “A 80% success rate was claimed.”

How to Have a Boy Baby – “Boy Food”

If you want to conceive a male baby, eat meat, tea, coffee, rice, pasta, alcohol, salty foods, milk-free puddings and sauces, cornflakes, sugar, white breads, all fresh foods, prunes, raisins, dates, figs, and all vegetables (except those on the “how to have a baby girl” list.


How to Have a Girl Baby – “Girl Food”

If you want to conceive a baby girl, eat dairy products such as milk puddings and unsalted cheeses/butter, yogurt, eggs, sweet foods such as jam, honey, chocolate, rice, semolina, pasta, foods containing cornflour, unsalted nuts, carrots, beans, turnips, onions, leeks, peas, peppers, and cucumbers. Avoid salty foods and salt added to foods.

“Since the 1970s, doctors have become a bit more scientific about the art of gender pre-selection,” writes Bradford in Natural Fertility: How to Maximize Your Chances of Conception. “Most methods are based on two fairly logical theories [for choosing the gender of your child], but neither of them have yet been rigorously scientifically proven to the satisfaction of the general medical establishment…”

For more fertility and conception tips, read Getting Pregnant Faster – 6 Fertility Boosting Supplements.


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