On my “How to Survive an Emotional Affair” article, a reader asked for ways to save her marriage and reconnect with her husband. Here are seven tips for rebuilding your relationship by connecting with your spouse…
First, here’s marriage advice from Ann Landers:
“All married couples should learn the art of battle as they should learn the art of making love. Good battle is objective and honest. Good [arguments] are healthy and constructive, and brings to a marriage the principle of equal partnership.”
To learn how to argue in healthy ways with your partner, click on Dr Phil McGraw’s Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner. And, read on to learn how to have a better relationship with your husband or wife — including two of my favorite bits of marriage advice!
7 Tips for Connecting With Your Spouse
1. Recognize the cycle of disconnection and miscommunication
In “Tips for Surviving an Emotional Affair”, my reader not only recognizes she’s in a bad cycle with her husband – she wants to learn how to break the cycle. This is one of the first steps to saving your marriage: recognizing the contribution of both partners to the unhealthy parts of the marriage.
2. Talk about your marriage
This tip seems obvious, but it’s surprisingly difficult to talk about your relationship! A psychologist taught me that talking about your relationship can make it better – even if you don’t solve your problems immediately. Just talking about your marriage brings you closer together. Or, it can help you realize that you may not want to save your marriage after all…if so, you might find 7 Ways to Tell if Your Marriage is Over helpful.
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