If you haven’t found the right tools for personal growth and self-development, then you haven’t read this article! These important tips are from Cynthia Morgan, a LA-based hypnotherapist.
“Improving your life requires improving your perceptions,” she says.
What are your perceptions of your life? How do your perceptions change your thoughts and actions? That’s how you start your journey towards personal growth.
Sometimes the facts of life matter less than your perceptions of life. For more important tools for personal growth, read Personal Development for Smart People: The Conscious Pursuit of Personal Growth by Steve Pavlina.
And, here are Morgan’s tools for self-development…
7 Important Tools for Personal Growth and Self-Development
1. Change negative statements to positive. One of the ways the subconscious mind gets programmed is by conscious repetition. What you say to yourself over and over again (eg, “I’m too fat,” or “No one will ever love me”) becomes a belief in your subconscious mind. Your subconscious projects those thoughts outward, into behavior and feelings. An important step towards personal growth is to catch those negative thoughts and turn them around: “I can lose weight” or “My perfect partner is coming to me now.”
2. Use STOP signs as a reminder. STOP signs are everywhere, and they can be effective for self-development. Use those signs to free your mind, as a reminder to let go of negative thoughts or behaviors. Each time you see a STOP sign, remember to Switch To Opposite Perception (STOP). For instance, “Each time I see a STOP sign it is a reminder that I can stop drinking (or smoking, biting my nails, cursing, etc).”
3. Compartmentalize for self-development. Shut your eyes and imagine a large box. Now empty the contents of your mind into the box. Place all worries, concerns, negative beliefs, emotions, people, behaviors, and things into the box; when you’re done shut the lid and walk away. Surround yourself with quotes about goals and motivational tips.
4. Accept yourself without judgment. Your mind is split between your ego and your spirit. The ego judges you, keeping you stuck. Your spirit or higher self, accepts you as you are. The more you can view yourself from your higher self, the less you are your ego. This tool for personal growth involves imagining that you are looking over your own shoulder, and watching without judgment. If part of you is watching ourselves without judgment, then there must be a part of yourself that isn’t negative. The more we can be the spirit that simply accepts, the less we become our ego.
If you have trouble accepting yourself, learn how to forgive yourself for the “bad” things you did.
5. Use the rubber band technique. This self-development tool involves keeping a rubber band around your wrist. Each time you think a negative thought or partake in a bad habit (bite nails, curse) “snap” the band. This is a practical tip that takes you out of your automatic, unconscious, robotic responses and reminds you that you have another choice. If you have habits you can’t overcome, read 8 Tips for Breaking Bad Habits.
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6. Write it down and throw it away. When you have a negative thought, a fear or a worry about an upcoming appointment, write it down in short sentence and then crumble it up and throw it away while you say, “This fear of _____ is meaningless.” This gets it out of your mind and puts the fear or worry in a proper perspective. The fear is of the future, which hasn’t even occurred; therefore, it is meaningless.
7. Ask your higher self for guidance. Ask your own higher self, however you imagine that to be, to heal your mind and take away the negative thoughts and behaviors. You’d be surprised at how powerful this simple personal growth tool is! When you ask your higher self, you’re making a statement that you are ready to let the negatives go.
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If you have any thoughts on these tools for personal growth and self-development, please comment below…
Cynthia Morgan is a hypnotherapist, spiritual teacher, healer, and author of You’re Already Hypnotized – A Guide to Waking Up.