The best tips on how to increase female sex drive are about improving your self-concept and physical health. If you don’t feel good about your body, you won’t enjoy it – or want to share it with anyone.
The health benefits of healthy sexual intimacy include stronger bones and muscles, less stress and depression, better memory and a stronger immune system. Some doctors even say we should have sex four times a week. That’s why it’s so important to learn natural ways to increase your libido as a woman. Because sex is incredibly healthy! If your sex drive (whether you’re male or female) isn’t that high, you need to read these natural ways to increase libido for women…
If your libido is low because you don’t feel good about your body, read How to Love Yourself When You Don’t Feel Good Enough. Those tips are emotional and spiritual – because the better you feel about yourself, the more likely you’ll want to share yourself with someone you care about.
The side benefits of increasing female’s sex drive include increased body confidence, self-esteem, and overall health, wellness, and immunity.
9 Natural Ways to Increase Female Sex Drive
“Not having a physically intimate relationship with a man is a waste of yourself,” said Helen Gurley Brown. “Like leaving a Ferrari in the garage.”
If you’re Ferrari is getting rusty and dry, you might try these tips…
1. Research the effects of your prescription medication
If you have absolutely no appetite for intimacy, look at the medications you’re taking. Some, such as birth control pills or antidepressants, can inhibit your desire to be physically intimate. Talk to your doctor about how your prescriptions are affecting your hormones, brain chemicals, and physical desires. You may not be able to stop taking your prescription, but your doctor may have other tips for increasing female libido.
It’s important to determine if there’s a physical cause for low sex drive in women. Sometimes it’s hormonal or chemically-based, which means that increasing libido isn’t as easy as getting a book on couples massage or learning how to love your body. Talk to your doctor if you think there are physical reasons for your low female libido.
2. Embrace and celebrate your female sensuality
“Millions of people – both men and women – aren’t comfortable with their intimate selves or physical bodies,” says Dr Marian Dunn, the Division Chief of the Center for Human Sexuality at SUNY Downstate Medical Center. Get comfortable with your sensual side by pampering your body, getting lots of exercise, and learning how you like to be touched. The best way to do this is to explore your body – and your partner’s.
Tantric Massage For Couples: Essential Guide To Love Making & Couples Massage by Cindy Steele is a gentle, beautiful way to become more physically intimate as a couple. The more admiration, respect, and loved you feel as a woman, the more “in the mood” you’ll feel.
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Trying couples massage will help you learn how to be honest and real with your partner in bed. Believe me – I know this is easier said than done! But we have to take risks in order to increase our natural female sex drive.
3. Unwind before you hit the sheets
There’s nothing less intimate than worrying about bills, work, investments, or politics when you’re trying to spice up your love life! To de-stress before you go to bed, have a bubble bath, snuggle with your partner, give him a massage, or go for a long walk. Remember that the health benefits of intimacy start long before you jump into the sack. A natural way to increase female sex drive is to relax and let go of the details.
Part of unwinding is connecting with your partner. Does he help you relax and enjoy your body? Are you and he emotionally connected? If not, read How to Stop Worrying About Your Relationship Problems. Sometimes you need to put your problems aside before you can allow your libido to run wild.
4. Get exercise you enjoy, that makes you feel sexy
The more oxygen, fresh air, and movement you get during the day, the more sexy you’ll feel overall – and the more your libido will improve. The health benefits of physical intimacy are totally connected to how active you are during the day. The less active you are, the less you’ll feel like sex. Your libido will continue to decrease, and so will your physical health.
Do you and your husband work out or exercise together? This might be a natural way to increase your sex drive as a couple, especially if your workouts involve wrestling. But not boxing.
5. Avoid white sugar, processed foods, and fat
Have you ever noticed how heavy, tired, and sick you feel after eating fatty high-sugar foods? I just started making this connection a couple years ago, and it has made a huge difference in what I eat and how I feel.
Here’s one of the most natural ways to increase your sex drive: stay away from the fast food, soda pop, and processed sugar. Healthy fruits, veggies, grains, beans, and the occasional hunk of lean protein will make you feel better and more energetic. Plus, the right foods can improve your mood. Remember that healthy foods aren’t just a natural way to increase your sex drive, they also help with weight loss (it’s an upward spiral!).
6. Meet your partner halfway across the bed
If you crave physical intimacy every night and your partner wants sex once a month, find a way to meet in the middle. Enjoying the health benefits of intimacy involves openly discussing how to make your love life better. Remember that making compromises and meeting halfway will strengthen your marriage, which can increase your physical intimacy.
Lulu Sensual Sweet Almond Massage Oil is a must-have if you’re going to experiment with couples massage. Experiment with different types and scents of massage oils. Let your sheets get dirty, don’t worry about the mattress! Just relax and have fun withy our partner.
Talk to a counselor or even a sex therapist if you feel angry, resentful, bitter, or indifferent to your partner. Don’t allow your feelings to fester.
7. Improve your body confidence – the best way to increase your sex drive
The more self-confident you feel when you’re undressed, the more you’ll relax and enjoy physical intimacy. If you feel awkward and embarrassed in the bedroom, you won’t want to be intimate – much less enjoy the health benefits of love. You don’t have to look perfect or be perfect to enjoy intimacy. To increase your female libido, remember that your partner isn’t focusing on your flaws. Your partner just wants to have sex, and he loves your body just the way it is.
For tips on improving your body confidence as a woman, read How to Feel Beautiful No Matter What You Look Like.
8. See the funny side of bedroom mishaps
Sue Johanson of the Sunday Night Sex Show told George Stroumboulopoulos (the host of The Hour) to laugh about your intimate escapades with your partner. Laughing with your partner increases feelings of connection, which will leads to more physical intimacy and health benefits.
How often do you laugh with your partner? Are you and he emotionally connected, and do you have fun together? Maybe that’s where you need to start. Maybe you need to get to know him again – and let him get to know you.
9. Experiment with new ways to increase your female sex drive
To increase libido, stay away from the same old routine! New toys, lingerie, places, or even foods can increase your emotional connection and improve your love life and libido.
Shibari Premium Intimate Lubricant will help with the experimentation process. It’s soft and silky, and will loosen you up. Your body may need a bit of a jumpstart to get the juices flowing – and lubes can be really helpful.
You might be happy to discover that your satisfaction in bed will increase as you get older. According to the The American Journal of Medicine, sexually active older women are more satisfied with their sex lives than they were when they were younger. The majority of female study participants report frequent arousal and orgasm, which continued into old age despite low sexual desire. Read Sexual Activity and Satisfaction in Healthy Community-dwelling Older Women for more information.
Do you know any natural ways to increase female sex drive? I welcome your clean, edited, not-racy comments below. I can’t offer advice or counseling on your libido or relationship, but I welcome your thoughts.
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