Of course women can experience a midlife crisis – and they can learn to enjoy their 40s, 50s, and beyond! Here are a few ways to turn your midlife crisis into a positive experience.
Are you experiencing the emotional highs and lows of menopause or perimenopause? Or waving goodbye to grown children heading off to college? After years of caring for others, it’s your turn.
If you find yourself embarking on a whole new stage of life, read Starting Over for Women Over 50. “Turn your ‘midlife crisis’ to your advantage by making it a time for renewal of your body and mind, rather than stand by helplessly and watch them decline.” ~ Jane E. Brody, New York Times columnist.
Midlife can be an exciting time for women who have the right attitude! If you’re struggling with being a woman in midlife, you may find The Next Fifty Years: A Guide for Women at Midlife and Beyond helpful.
And here are five tips for happiness after 50…
5 Ways to Survive a Midlife Crisis for Women
Guest Post ~ Merle Rosenstein
You can now pause, take stock and make needed life adjustments. Whether it’s embarking on a new career, finding new friends or following your interests, midlife is the perfect time to try new things. Seizing the opportunity for renewal is critical to making a smooth transition to the second half of life.
These tips can help you make that adjustment.
Take time for yourself
At midlife, you can take the time to figure out who you are and how you want to live the rest of your life. Think about the things you wanted to try earlier in your life, and reconsider these. It’s not too late to go back to school, join a special interest group or change careers. With careful thought and planning, many things are possible! A midlife crisis for women can be the perfect time to do what you’ve always wanted.
Connect with women who have survived a midlife crisis
There are many positive role models for middle aged women – such as Oprah Winfrey, Kathy Bates, Katie Couric, and Iman. And many blogs are written by women over 50 touching on topics including healthy living, financial issues, planning for retirement, sex, divorce, and grand parenting. Magazines like More are also full of great role models who share their own “best ways to survive the 50’s.”
Stay physically active in your 40s, 50s, and beyond
Regular exercise will help you feel good emotionally and physically. Physical exercise is great for low moods, will help maintain body tone and physical strength, and is a great way to survive the midlife blues. For a great way to connect with others and to share challenges and opportunities, join a gym or a walking club for women. Connect with real women who know what a midlife crisis feels like.
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If you want redo everything, read 10 Ways to Figure Out What to Do With Your Life.
Rethink your career goals
You may want to rethink your career and choose a vocation that better suits your personality and passions. In order get some direction on other career options, make a list of your interests, skills, volunteer work and previous jobs. This list will help you to identify the type of work you may be drawn to. And, thinking about setting and achieving the career goals you had when you were younger can help you get started in a more fulfilling, exciting direction. You’ll no longer be a woman surviving a midlife crisis; you’ll be creating a whole new life.
Allow yourself to feel loss
If you’ve invested a lot of time and energy in your family over the years, you may experience feelings of loss at midlife. For many women, this is part of a midlife crisis! And, the anatomical changes that take place at midlife can also be disconcerting. Wanting the body you had at 20 or 30 is perfectly normal. Allowing yourself to feel a sense of loss is healthy and is one of the best ways to survive the 50s.
If you’ve lost your husband, read Starting Over in Your 60s – After Your Husband Dies.
What do you think of these tips for surviving a midlife crisis for women? Comments welcome below!
Written by Merle Rosenstein, a Toronto-based food and travel writer, blogger and staff writer for Canadian Traveller Magazine.
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