Divorcing


How to Write a Goodbye Letter to Someone You Care About

Writing a letter that says goodbye to someone you care about isn’t easy, but it can bring healing. My tips on how to write a goodbye letter are based on my experience with a variety of losses and inspired by a reader’s comment. A goodbye momento, such as Willow Tree Shine, is a lovely way to […]

How to Write a Goodbye Letter to Someone You Care About

How to Survive Your First Christmas After Divorce

The first family Christmas after getting divorced is difficult, especially if your ex-spouse wants the kids on Christmas Day. These suggestions for surviving a divorced family Christmas aren’t easy tips or secrets that will erase the pain for you or your kids, but they may help you get through the holidays. The most important thing […]


How to Make Divorce Less Difficult for You and Your Family

There is no “one size fits all” answer, but there are things you can do to make divorce less difficult for you, your kids, and your loved ones. In Divorce Care: Hope, Help, and Healing During and After Your Divorce, Steve Grissom and Kathy Leonard offer daily reminders that encourage, inspire, and brings hope to […]


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Does Journal Writing Help You Heal From Divorce? Not Necessarily

Sometimes journaling your feelings after a divorce or separation doesn’t help you heal. New research tells us when writing does more harm than good after a breakup. “I think many, many therapists have a tendency to believe that journaling unequivocally is a good thing to do [after divorce or separation], especially when people are trying […]


8 Gift Ideas for a Friend Getting Divorced

These gifts for a divorced friend will help her see the divorce as a new beginning – not just an ending. You’ll find ideas ranging from towers of happiness to tools of empowerment. “The Ex” Skewer Set with Unique Black Holder and Tray is a gift for a friend getting divorced that’s a bit on the […]


What to Do After the Divorce Papers Are Served

Here are five things to do after the divorce papers are served and your marriage is officially over. You might not see it yet, but this ending could be the start of a fresh, vibrant new life for you! “Divorce isn’t such a tragedy. A tragedy’s staying in an unhappy marriage, teaching your children the wrong […]


What Happens to Your Ex-Husband’s Social Security Benefits

After the divorce, asked a reader, what happens to my ex-husband’s social security benefits? Here’s what my research tells me… “I was married for 21 years,” says Jill in response to How to Manage Money After Divorce. “Will I still get my ex-husband’s social security if I change my name back to my maiden name?” Yes, according to […]


When You Find the Truth on Your Husband’s Computer

What do you do when you find your husband’s secrets – the ugly truth – on his laptop computer, phone, or Facebook page? Here’s one reader’s dilemma… “My husband asked for advice here [on Quips and Tips] and I found it backlogged on the computer,” says K. on How to Stop Thinking About the Other […]


Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken

This collection of words of comfort will lift your spirits and heal your soul. When your heart is broken, you need warmth and companionship – and the embrace that says you’re not alone. “When I lost my husband, I felt as if I did not want to go on,” said Kerry on Starting Over in Your 60s – After […]

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