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How to Save Your Marriage Without Couples Counseling

Couples in unhappy marriages may be reluctant to try marriage counseling for a variety of reasons, such as lack of money. These ways to save your marriage without counseling will help.

Read How to Save an Unhappy Marriage Without Couples Counseling – it’s better because it’s an updated, new, and improved version of this article.

And remember: “In every marriage more than a week old, there are grounds for divorce. The trick is to find, and continue to find, the grounds for marriage.” ~ Robert Anderson.

Every married couple – even the happiest ones – can find reasons for divorce…but the key to a happy marriage is to find reasons to stay married. For help, read 7 Stages of Marriage: Laughter, Intimacy and Passion Today, Tomorrow, Forever – and it’s an excellent resource for new and old married couples.

And, here are ways to save your relationship without going to marriage counseling…

How to Save Your Marriage Without Going to Couples Counseling

1. Decide that you want to save your marriage

If you aren’t fully committed to the idea of saving your marriage, then you’ll spin your wheels as a couple! Before you can even hope to make your marriage happy, you need to consciously decide that you want to stay together. And, you need to accept that it takes time, energy, and effort to build and sustain a happy marriage.

Does your husband show interested in you – and your marriage? Read How to Make Your Husband Love You.

2. Try online marriage counseling

I often include Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program in my marriage articles here on Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. Recently, I was thrilled to hear one of my friends describe how great his program is for couples – and she didn’t even know that I have his Marriage Fitness info here on my blog! Fertel is a marriage coach who doesn’t do traditional couples counseling.

3. Read books about building a happy marriage together

In addition to 7 Stages of Marriage, I’m reading 5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great by marriage therapist Dr. Terri Orbuch. She offers practical, easy to apply marriage tips that are incredibly effective! No matter what stage your marriage is at – even if you’re rebuilding trust after physical or emotional infidelity – you’ll find her tips helpful. But, the key is to read the book as a couple and talk about the marriage tips. To reconnect with your spouse, you both need to be committed to saving your marriage.

If your husband cheated on you, read How to Trust Your Husband After an Affair – From Mourning to Healing.

If you have any thoughts on saving your marriage without going to counseling, please comment below…I can’t offer advice, but you may find it helpful to share your experience.


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17 thoughts on “How to Save Your Marriage Without Couples Counseling”

  1. Thanks for your comments, Mikk! I’m glad Mort Fertel worked so well for you. I hope his program helps other couples save their marriage, too.

    All good things,

  2. Mikk the Mort Fertel Junkie

    Hey Laurie, my name’s Mikk and I noticed you mentioned in your blog that one of your friends had good success with Mort Fertel’s Marriage Fitness program without going through marriage counseling. I too had amazing success with Fertel’s program and its so nice to see other people mentioning his stuff on their sites because his stuff is truly amazing. I’m such a believer that I put together a blog mentioned above all about Mort and even mention the things I do even today – 5 years after my almost divorce – that’s keeping my marriage going extremely strong. His advice is so easy to follow and I love what’s its doing for my marriage which is why I’m sharing it with the world. Awesome to see Mort’s making changes in others people’s lives still.

  3. I think most marriages can be saved without going to marriage counseling, if both partners are willing and able and if they communicate. Marriage isn’t brain surgery. It’s compromise and hard work.