Yes, you can save your marriage after infidelity. Learning to trust your spouse again can be a long process — but it is possible to reconnect.
These tips on saving your marriage after emotional infidelity are based on reader questions and answers on my Tips for Surviving an Emotional Affair article.
Regarding emotional infidelity:
“It’s best to come clean as early as possible,” says marriage counselor Gary Neuman. “Be honest with your partner when you’re just beginning to become interested in someone else.”
If you’re trying to save your marriage and survive an internet or in-person affair, you might find Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
And, read on for tips on saving your marriage…
How to Save Your Marriage After Infidelity and Trust Your Spouse Again
Rebuilding trust after emotional affairs doesn’t happen quickly. Learning to trust again after a betrayal such as physical or emotional infidelity doesn’t happen once, nor does it happen overnight. Rebuilding trust is a process that involves ups and downs. Trust will be part of your marriage again, even after infidelity — but you have to work on it.
Whether you save your marriage depends on what you can live with. You need to decide if you’re willing to live with your partner as he or she is, because some people never change. You can try to improve a bad relationship — and it’s especially effective when both partners are equally commited! But if both partners aren’t willing to move forward together, then you need to accept your marriage for what it is….and not expect more.
There aren’t any easy answers after infidelity, because it takes work to build a healthy strong marriage and rebuild your relationship. Most love relationship advice is about being honest about your needs and finding ways to meet in the middle. If your partner needs something that you aren’t giving, then you need to find ways to give as much as possible without losing yourself — and vice versa!
The rest of this article has been moved to my new site, “How Love Blossoms”
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For more marriage help from a trained counselor, read The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It by M. Gary Neuman — he’s currently writing a book about women who aren’t faithful.
If you have any questions or thoughts on saving your marriage after infidelity, please comment below…
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